basically...im 16 and in a few months i have to chose with a-levels i will take. i know that i want to go into a design based job like product design and to do this i want to take DT, Bio and Chem. But my parents have desided that i have to take Physics, Maths and Advanced maths, im bright a probally could scrap a pass in those subjects but all they want is for be to be a enginereer they even have the course in suppost to do at uni desided. My problem is mainly though that if i dont do what they want me to do my dad has said that he will 'hand me the razor to slit my own wrists' (we dont exactly have a loving relationship) and i will by taken out of my school that i love and kicked out of home. i find this stupid as both my parents are in the design industry and yet they wont even consider me doing it. ive applyed to a state school that they dont know about. but i need to know if you think that it is worth doing a career that i no i will hate and fail in or having a family however ****
2006-11-25 08:46:06 · 13 answers · asked by tanwin13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a parent of a boy crazed 14 year old girl and a former 16 year old myself with a psycho controlling mother let me try to help you.......
All you have to do is make it until 18 to do whatever you want. Period. Do what they say for now. Tell them you thought about it and have decided they are right. The truth is (and the reality is) that you don't have a choice anyway. Once you turn 18 and you live on your own, then you can pursue YOUR dream and they have no say, nor can they make your life miserable for not listening to them.
They should be grateful to have a kid that is actually worried about their future, but they won't realize that until later. Taking the classes they want you to take will NOT keep you from going into your chosen field.
And I am not going to bother telling you to try to talk to them or compromise with them because I know from personal experience that it won't work.
Buck up, play the game their way for now and in the end you will win! And it will make getting from point A to point B a whole lot easier on you.
2006-11-25 08:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Chula 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to do whatever you want!! first of all they cant kick you out cuz you are only 16, and the only reason your dad will hand you a razor is because HE thinks its a bad decision, but you will obviously love having a job in that area, so im pretty sure you wont be beating yourself up over it.
your 16 now, you are starting to branch out and you need to realize (and your parents need to realize) that you will soon be making your own choices, and they have nothing to do with that!! sure if you were gunna become a stripper or something i would understand their concern, but what you want to do is a great goal and i think you should just go for it!!!
good luck!!
2006-11-25 08:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your 16 yrs old. alot can change in the next two years. maybe your parents will calm down and take a look at other options.
in todays world most people change careers more often than when your parents went to school and took on a career. just go to college and take you pre reg....first then make a decision as to
what area you want your degree. by then you'll be living on campus and not in their home...not as much control there..
2006-11-25 08:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by lake living 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be pretty tough to do well if you hate your work. I'd sit them down and tell them of your decision and let them know they can have you or their way and career for you but not both. Here's the deal. Even if you can't get them to agree, they still need you and you still need them--most people will decide to keep family ties. But, some don't and that's a chance you take. Tough, tough, tough.
2006-11-25 09:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you parents that your job will be to drive your own train, and unless they can come up with statical facts why you shouldn't take the course you want then you may have to find a way to support your self and pay for your own education. If it is possible I would recommend that you take the do it your self route, can you get full scholarship?
2006-11-25 09:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only advice for u i that u have to live with the decision u make in life not your parents the made their career choice now if u want to do design go right ahead you jus have to face the consequences of your decision which might not be good in your case......
Pray to God for guidance......
2006-11-25 08:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File to divorce your parents. It is possible. You are 16 years old for goodness sake. Talk to relatives outside your immediate family, maybe they will be more understanding and supportive.
2006-11-25 08:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should stick with your family's decision. They know whats best for you. It'd always help to have parents support.
2006-11-25 08:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are in a bad situation, but basicly you have to go along with them for now, so you can further your education, then later in life you can switch to a field that is of more interest to you, and good luck to you.
2006-11-25 09:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DL,
Your parents just want what is best for you. Tell them to leave you be, and that at least you aren't a pregnant drug user.
You're a good kid. Play that angle.
Sin,
JKr
2006-11-25 08:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by jacobkreist 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋