After being together for 7 years and putting each other through some "great tests"....lol, we have decided we belong together and are going to get married. We have both been married before(to other ppl) and have 1 child a piece from our previous marriages. The first time around we both very young and were married at the local courthouse. I have always heard after your first wedding you just don't have a big wedding, you go small and simple. But neither of us has had a big wedding before.We would like to have a big church wedding this time. Is it tacky to have a big church wedding considering we have both been married before and have children from our previous marriages?
2006-11-25 08:41:01 · 16 answers · asked by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are no hard-n-fast rules anymore.
You have both lost love & found it again. What better way to celebrate that than with a wedding of your choice.
Congratulations!
2006-11-25 09:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!!!!!!!
How wonderful it will be to have both of your families being a very big part of your lives coming together. An expression of love between everyone, in agreement to live your lives together. I don't know about what other people say, I just know how I feel. When I got married the second time, my girls were in the wedding and was his daughter. We also had our Grand Children as flower girl and ring bearer. Everyone had a blessing in our new life together. We had a big church wedding with all the trimmings. I could only hope the very best for you and yours. Share the experience, Enjoy the melding, be happy.
2006-11-25 17:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Recovery Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is tacky at all! There are a ton of books that say tat for second time marriages, it should be small. But the more up to date books state that it is really up to the couple! I say go for it. it sounds like you to have finally found each other :-) and whether your previous marriages were good or bad, you too are committed to each other. I think that if a big wedding is what you both want.... go for it! Good luck and congratulations!!
2006-11-25 18:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by mrsleesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be tacky at all. It's the 21st century, and people can have whatever kinds of weddings they want without worrying about breaking "traditions." It just depends on what you want to put the time and money into!! How many people really follow all those stupid rules about what you are "supposed to do" to get married? Not many. Do what you want to celebrate your wonderful commitment to each other!!
2006-11-25 16:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have the wedding of your dreams. Having a large wedding the second time around is not tacky @ all. If you can afford it do it. You will always remember that day.
2006-11-25 16:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Veggiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be tacky at all. In fact many churches now have ceremonies prepared that can involve your children in the ceremony. Sort of a 'merging the family' ceremony added in.
Some people will likely give smaller gifts than if you were having your first wedding, and if you complained about it, that would be tacky.
2006-11-25 21:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kiari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is a Celebration.. have it as big as you want and can afford. Although I would not necessarily have a bridal registry, seeing how you have both been married before I would guess that you have pretty much everything you need to set up house. I say live it up.. have fun!
2006-11-25 16:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is tacky and just not appropriate. No matter what your first weddings were like, once you have been around the block and back - you need to keep things simple and on the down-low. Just a family celebration at home. Congrats!
2006-11-25 21:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are entitled to have whatever type of celebration you want! It used to be frowned on, but now, it is socially acceptable. People who are special to you will be there, so I don't think they would call you "tacky". They will understand how many things have happened in your life to get you to this point. You deserve the wedding you want!
Congratulations!
2006-11-27 01:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you got married at the court house your 1st time who cares go alll out w/ a huge wedding have fun and make it the best day of your life! my mother has been married 4 or 5 times and her recent wedding was her biggest and she wore white wich i didnt agree w/ but hey it was her wedding not mine so do what ever you want and have fun!
2006-11-25 17:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋