that it is stupid of me to get emotional about my dad? I live with my mum and i go to my dads for the weekend every 2 weeks but when I think about other people and their dads I feel sad because I have never been close to him because he has never been intersted in my life. Shall I just grow up or is it normal to "greive" something you have never had? Im 15!
2006-11-25 08:40:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're not stupid at all. I have a 14yr old daughter, who goes to stay with her dad every other weekend, just like you. Her Dad sounds very much like yours. And I suspect that your Dad does love you sweetheart, but they never have the same bond as a mother and daughter
2006-11-28 10:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by queen_bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being very hard on yourself. Your feelings are both perfectly normal and understandable. If it is any consolation your dad must be interested in you as he sees you on a regular basis, but maybe he doesn't know how to show his feelings.
I came from a broken home and unfortunately my children came to the same fate. Their dad might see them for a day every couple of months if he can be bothered. I hope that you will be able build a better relationship with your dad, but you will need to also accept that that is the way things are for you. This doesn't mean that you wont feel sad about never having the contact that you would have liked but you may spend less time thinking about it. Just try to have a good time when you see him and build up some fun memories of your times together.
2006-11-28 12:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not silly to be feeling like this! You're at a very vulnerable age where you need plenty of support. It's hard to have to spread yourself between 2 homes and some of the decisions you make at your age mean that it's very handy to have both parents around to talk to. However, perhaps you should tell all this to your Dad. Perhaps he doesn't quite know how to handle things as you're not with him often. Try suggesting fun things you could do together when you see each other at weekends and make it your time to get to know each other even better. Good luck and don't forget, there are lots of people in the same situation as you who you could talk to!
2006-11-25 16:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it true that he is not interested in your life? Sometimes dads (and mums) feel under so much pressure to be a provider and appear strong that they are too tired to appear nurturing. My dad worked very long hours and was often tired, but was interested in our lives. It is only now I realise how hard he worked and how tired he must have been. If your father has a whole weekend to spend with you use it to find common interests. Appreciate his other demands. If after that you still feel he is not interested then accept it and value what you have with your mum.
2006-11-25 16:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by filmwatcher59 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not stupid to get emotional about your dad. I can't see my dad at this time and I haven't seen him in about 5 years. When people talk about him, I cry. I believe that your daddy is an important part of your life and you should be able to see and talk to him at anytime. I understand exactly how you feel. Nobody should judge you on the way you feel about your daddy. Be happy that you at least see your dad because other people in the world don't even know who their father is.I'm 13
2006-11-25 16:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its normal he should give you the attention you deserve. I get emotional all the time about my step dad he has 3 other kids and treats me completly different like i'm a piece of dirt even though all 3 of his kids haven't got jobs and probably never will and also 1 of them is a thief. Speak to your dad about this I think its important
2006-11-28 06:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes griving is natural. i am 27 and a proud parent. My mother and I live 19 minutes apart. I see her on a weekly basis and we get along great now. However we were never close growing up...I still grive at the fact that I didnt have a close relationship during my childhood...You may need to talk to your da about how you feel...He may also be going through his own feelings about this. He may not know exactly how to show his intrest to your life buut want to. Help him and you find common ground.
2006-11-25 16:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by nekiawhitaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fathers can find the whole teenage daughter thing a bit daunting. If communication is a problem perhaps if you initiate as in litle things at first and ease the tension he may feel....also he may carry guilt he may feel you feel angry with him.....grown ups have complicated emotions too sometimes and cannot always express. Try suggesting you go for a coffee....orsomething where it is just thetwo ofyou......and have fun....chat....and see ifthe relationship can improve.
2006-11-26 09:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dads can be funny with their daughters; especially with one just becoming a woman. He's probably very interested in your life; he just doesn't know how to talk to you.
And of course it's normal to grieve for the absence of your dad.
Could you tell him that?
Say you wonder what it would have been like if you had grown up with him in your life.
He probably is greiving too,
2006-11-25 16:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to grieve over what you never had for a person at any age. You should open up to your mom and explain to her how you're feeling, explain that you want to get to know your dad and have him know you and request more time to spend with him. Good Luck!
2006-11-25 16:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋