I moved to a new place about a year ago. I met a great guy and we've been dating since I got here. He means the world to me. I have an ex that I dated about a year and a half ago but we've always been good friends and even after I moved we've still managed to keep in touch. All of a sudden he's been calling me a lot more and he told me that him and his girlfriend broke up because of me and the feelings he still has for me, but I live about 700 miles away from him. I'm real confused as in to what he wants and why he's calling me all of a sudden. He's known I've had a boyfriend and he seems to be fine with the idea of it because he knows I'm happy and that I love him (my boyfriend that is). I'm in my last year of high school and I'm real confused about what to do about all of this.
2006-11-25 08:02:56 · 13 answers · asked by maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you can be nothing more than friends and if he can't accept this then you cant communicate anymore
2006-11-25 08:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thoughts, feelings and desires should be no.1 on her agenda now, not the past promise to her ex to remain friends. Jeesh, we've all made those silly empty promises at one time, or another. If it makes you uncomfortable then she shouldn't do it. It's hard to say what she is thinking, but most couples wouldn't even consider this idea. When you move on you do just that..MOVE ON. The only semi-normal situation that i could think of when it comes to staying connected to past loves is if there were children involved and the ex and the couple are civil with each other for the kids sake. It just doesn't seem right, or normal. She may miss the attention that he gave her, or she may know that he still cares and is getting somewhat of a thrill out of that. Who knows. I would say absolutely not to my husband if he were to ask that question. We actually tried something sort of related to this situation and it just didn't work. My husband had a female friend when we met that actually liked him as more, but he only saw her as a friend, so they never hooked up. he asked if I minded if she came over to hang out with the both of us from time to time, because she was a cool person. I agreed, but after a couple of times it was just too weird, so he told her straight up front. My wife just isn't comfortable with this situation, sorry. We ended it and moved on. This is what I think your wife needs to do.
2016-05-23 02:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you confused ? This guy is your ex and just because he ended things with his girlfriend he want to come back to you. I wouldnt accept his phone calls. I am sure you wouldnt want to know that your boyfriend is talking to his ex would you? Leave the past behind you are 700 miles away and still in high school how could the relationship last?
2006-11-25 08:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your ex just had to say it. He wanted you to know it and doesn't expect anything more from you... Don't do anything. Stay with your present boyfriend, but be nice to the past one as well. If he phones you too often, somehow let him know that he has no chances to get you back - say that you can't talk now because you're going on a date with X or something...
2006-11-25 08:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anne of Vistula Bank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cease all communication with your ex. now that he has expressed an interest in renewing a relationship with you, it would be a form of cheating on your new bf to continue corresponding with him. you shouldn't even be worrying about relationships at all at this stage. you should be focusing on school and what kind of profession you are going to have. you will change so much in the next 5 years, there is virtually no chance you will be dating the same guy by then. I wouldn't invest too much in a relationship that is likely doomed.
2006-11-25 08:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that you have moved on and that after all that he's put you through you don't wanna take the risk or chance to loose what you have and start al over with him especiall y now with a 700 mile gap between you.
2006-11-25 08:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and your ex where ment to be, then you wouldn't be together, the biggest reason he's saying this to you is due to the fact that he's lonely, you just have to be plan that you've moved on with your life, and that your completely happy with your new b/f, you shouldn't let him confuse you, if your happy with your bf then this should be no question really, hold onto the guy you have, and relize a guy 700 miles away isn't worth the trouble
2006-11-25 08:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-19 22:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the guy you are with if you love him.Ur ex just cant HAVE you back.Let me just say this...Do what feels right.
2006-11-25 08:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Nicollette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your new boyfriend, most long distance relationships never work out
2006-11-25 08:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋