I am a divorced woman that has been seeing a wonederfully unselfish, honest & faithful man for 7 months. Yet I am still afraid of getting hurt. There is always doubt that I can hold onto someone this wonderful and I am scared that I am going to screw it up.I am faithful and I tend to question his feelings for me a little too often even when I already know the answers. I know he loves me, I know he cares for me, I know what we want to see happen in the future. I just can't seem to get these thoughts out of my head. I was married for 15 years and 13 of those 15 I was used. lied to, and cheated on. I am not an ugly woman by any means( not to sound conceited) How do I get these feelings to go away? I have been away from my ex for 3 years now. No contact.
2006-11-25 07:57:19 · 6 answers · asked by Bella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just trust him and put in ur mind that this man is differ from all mens u know in ur life and he really loves u and will take of u
just try to live ur life and forget all ur doubts
2006-11-25 08:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men are not the same. Dont push this wonderful man away because of your doubt. All relationships involve being able to trust the other person. You cant make this man pay for the way you were treated by your ex. This man is lucky to have a woman that is faithful. Enjoy the time that you spend with this man dont think negatively . He hasnt give you a reason to.
2006-11-25 16:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel I have been lied to & used also but I just learn to keep my mouth shut even thou deep down I feel the guy is lying. It is hard to get over & really will take a long time. I wish I had an easy answer but the best thing I can say is try not to ask the questions that will make him run away best to keep it to yourself or maybe if you try to tell him why you feel he will screw you around he will understand & you can work on it together. . Good luck to you & I hope it works out for you.
2006-11-25 16:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by simple one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you went through in your past has left a dent in your further and its better to be safe than sorry....
But u have to realise that this guy is nothing compare to your ex and stop trying to make him out to be a bad person when all it seems he want to do is love you.....
You will always have doubts and feelings its only normal but if you explain these stuff with your bf together you all could work in order to build a more stronger relationship.......
And with the help of God anything is possible....
P.S. Stop blaming yourself for the mistake your ex made it was not your fault......
2006-11-25 16:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by tutsie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You went through something NO ONE would want to go through, they say it takes about four years to really heal the wounds caused by a divorce..& even then, there are scars that will never go away, trust your instincts.. It'll take longer than 7 months to truly know someone, so just take it slow & listen to your heart... If you continue to have these doubts, it could just be too soon to date again or maybe you're right about him & he does not deserve your trust..
2006-11-25 16:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by snowflake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept your relationship with your boyfriend as it really is. a wonderful, loving relationship! you're still letting things from your past marriage, and the hurtful things that your ex-husband did to you make you feel insecure and self-concious. you probably feel like you don't deserve the great relationship you have with your boyfriend. but guess what? YOU DO! you sound like a wonderful person who deserves all the happiness in the world. and it sounds like you're with a guy who wants to make that happen for the two of you.
when you've been abused in the past, as you have been, it's hard to trust again because you're expecting the same thing to happen to you again. but you can't live like that. that's just letting your ex still control you, even though you're not with him anymore. and the way to take that control back, and make this stop, is to start trusting whole heartedly, stop expecting the worst, and start expecting the best, live each day to the fullest, stop being afraid of messing things up, you're not going to! and stop questioning your boyfriends feelings for you, and start believing what he tells you. the bad life that you had is a thing of the past, and so is your ex. you have a fresh start with a totally different man you've been with for 7 months.
everytime you start to question your boyfriend, tell yourself that this is exactly what your ex would want you to do, and you're going to do just the opposite. so don't question the love that you're being given, just be happy and thankful for what you have.
it really sounds like the man you're with loves you very much. so don't confuse your past with your future.
I sincerely wish you the very best. you deserve it!
2006-11-25 16:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋