How can you be 29 and still live with your parents?

Question

My sisters boyfriend is 29. Lives with his parents. Seems to have no future and yet she stays with him. Note he is a jerk and no one in my family likes him. We pretend to and it is hard. I am 19 and I moved out and I cant see myself ever wanting to move back. My sister is 23 and is living with me but cant pay rent so am kicking her out knowing her boyfriends parents will let her stay there. What I am curious about it how can you be 29 and want to live with your parents. Let alone want your girlfriend to live with you too. I can see my sister is followin in his path. She is not even trying to stay living with me.

They are engaged and are planning on marrying soon and he has no money to get a house.

Sister knows how I and the rest of my family feels does she care NO

Kicking her out because she cant afford rent.. Not cuz I dont like her boyfriend

Answer 1

Your sister should give him an ultimanum or at least scare him. He might at least try to turn into a normal Mature human-being. I don't know how long your sister has been with him, but the whole house-thing probaly an't going through. Does him mother wash his clothes and make his bed too. I'm sorry I don't mean to make fun but geeez. Now she's moving in his parents house...she probaly won't be able to deal with his antics or live with him for much longer. Living with someone is a Whole different ball game!! She'll probaly see a lot more on how he's a loser when she lives with him. The only way I could see a 29 year old still living home is if they are going to school for long term of years to become a doctor, lawyer etc..... I don't know but it seems to me she will get a slap in the face very soon. If not, throw in lil comments here and there to Make her realize what she is doing and if he loved her he would do this etc..etc.... Seems to me he's just wishing her the world right now and saying ohhh well wee can buy a house etc etc..he probaly doesn't even have a job hhahaha I don't know hopefully she wakes up, he changes or both!!!! Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Just because you were able to move out at 19 doesn't mean every one else should. I mean, I moved out young as well, but it's cuz that 'was me.' I know a lot of much older ppl who still live with their mom and dad, and are great ppl. I hope though, if this guy is a real loser, your sister leaves him! Have you tried having a real heart-to-heart? Is kicking her out the best thing...I mean, she is family after all. Maybe you are her last hope.

Answer 3

If that's the way he wants to live, so be it! Stop worrying so much about it. You seem to have to have your future set, so be happy with it! You're content and that's great for you. Some people just can't let go, I have no idea why. Or maybe he has no money for college (If he FINALLY decides to go to college!) or a house or anything. If he ends up marrying your sister, he'll eventually get his own house! Just get off his back.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say this and I'm not being mean...but some people are just "low rent" and it sounds like your sister and this guy are perfect for each other. My suggestion is stay out of it, maybe she will come around maybe she wont, but she certainly wont leave her man because of your or anyone Else's opinion Trust me.

I was living at home with my parents and my girlfriends family HATED me and thought i was a bum and i was. One day she figured it out too( but she stuck with me despite all her friends and family begging her to leave for years) and left me for a 50 year old millionaire.

The funny thing is i got my act together and started making 6 figures...so maybe she sees something in him and thinks he will do something one day.

But Ill tell you one thing and don't be mad he probably F**ks her real good, sometimes that's all it takes for women to stick around...sorry but its true.

Answer 5

I wouldn't recommend you kicking her out because you don't like the guy, that's just going to push her away. Remember, family comes first, you never know when you might need her help down the road. This guy sounds like he isn't much of a catch, so you have to convince her of that and convince her that she's worth more. But remember, you can only offer advice, you cant make decisions for people.

Answer 6

I hope that this guy at least have a job. That does not make any since at all. Your sister shouldn't even want him. I understand if his parents are sick and need him to watch over them, but anything else is just pathetic. My advice to you is to just take care of yourself and let your sister deal with that herself. Maybe one day she'll see that she's not going to get anywhere with that type of person.

Answer 7

well first of all, that guy is a jerk and has no future. A guy who is 29 and still lives with his parents is an idiot and has no future. If I would you I would try to get your sister away from that freak. Also, one of the reasons that he might be how he is , is because his parents let him get away with it. His parents need to get tough on him.

Answer 8

This is easy. Because it's just not important to her and she really likes him regardless of the circumstance. When people really like somebody it doesn't really matter about any "future" goals. It seems like you're being a bit too judgmental here. If this is making you angry, I'm sorry, but when people really like somebody it doesn't matter if they're a homeless bum that's what true love is.

You can be honest about your own feelings but I think you should still be happy for her. It doesn't matter if YOU like him or not. If she's happy, that's all that should matter.

Answer 9

Old habits die hard. Have they been together a long time?
He's just a lazy a**.
You have to talk with your sister 'cos she's going to follow his path.
Maybe you should even talk to HIS parents and make them see that their son has no future? Don't THEY care?

Answer 10

Its a shame.. try to explain to ur sister in a nice way that she is making the wrong choice and that it might damage a future, after all she is your sister im sure u care .. ask her to get rid of a looser bf..