im independent, confident, and have been called attractive. i like guys who are confident of themselves but not overly confident. however, a friend told me that guys dont go up to me because they think im taken.but i'm not taken, and have never been since i rather have a quality guy than quantity. i asked my male friends about this and they said that if they didnt know me, they would have thought i was taken too. when i asked them why they would think this, they replied "idk i just would think that" or "because of your looks". my question to you guys is how would i get rid of this "taken" vibe without being desperate and find a quality kind of guy?
2006-11-25 07:08:09 · 11 answers · asked by cellie_mania 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i rarely hang out with guy friends and my girl friends have different schedules than mine so if im seen out in public, usually im alone
2006-11-25 07:15:42 · update #1
im in college and i dont wear rings
2006-11-25 07:22:59 · update #2
don't confuse "taken" with "desperate"... I just don't believe normal males really notice a taken vibe, or if they do they fail to acknowledge it. Perhaps you neither taken nor desperate but just slow to pick up on signals. Guys tend to hit on women as part of their hunter instinct (ugg, me cave man). Maybe they show interest but you aren't picking up on it. Try giving a little more eye contact, play with the hair while talking to a prospective date, etc... If they have any manners at all and do not see you showing interest, they will probably write you off. So show some interest.
2006-11-25 07:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, my friends (male and female) reckon it is because I appear too confident to men so they think I am either a lesbian or taken. At least you just appear taken! not that I have anything against lesbians, I have a few lesbian friends.
There is no way I have any intention of changing my behaviour to give off single vibes. Does this mean you have to sit in a corner demurely giving off bedroom eyes?
If it is the confidence that makes men think I am taken, does this mean that men think women need a man to be confident. I hope not.Perhaps they find the confidence intimidating.
2006-11-25 07:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by kate d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should seek out social situations where you will have a chance to get to know people rather than venues where guys are expected to "go up to" women based on their appearance and "vibe."
Many men are intimidated by confident women and would prefer someone who is "easy to read," especially in bars and at parties. Why not go someplace where the goal is not to "meet someone"? Go places where activities are based on shared interests.
The worst way to meet someone "nice" or even compatiable is a meat-market atmosphere. An interest-based social setting gives people a more relaxed way to know one another without the pressure of the "pick-up."
You don;t say how old you are, but whether you are in high school or an adult on your own, there are plenty of ways to meet people who share your interest, which is much better than mobs of people hoping they'll hook up..
Good luck. In my (vast!) experience, it's much easier to meet someone when you aren't trying to.
2006-11-25 07:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most very attractive women have this problem. guys assume that attractive women have men lined up by the thousands waiting for their turn. also, guys think that attractive women are less appreciative when guys ask them out because they probably do a million times a day. so you have to take the initiative.
you have to consider that in these times , tv constantly ridicules guys for trying to pick up a girl, so its' up to you to give the green light.
2006-11-25 07:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a wedding ring. Trust me, most guys want to bang a hot little milf. Or maybe you just act like such a little sneetch, that people think, wow!, only a wife would talk to someone like that.
2006-11-25 07:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi, just wanted to mention, I liked this discussion. Very valuable replies
2016-08-23 11:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ask ur friend wat da hell that means and i think its great that ur confident and know ur gd qualities and maybe the right guy hasnt come along yet bcoz if a guy does really like u he takes the chance wether he thinks ur taken or not
2006-11-25 07:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People see you with guys so thy think your taken , Do you Ware rings ?
2006-11-25 07:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jeffrey N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm good question.. i have seen girls like that here... if you're seen with your male friends alot it looks like you're going out with one of them... spend time with the girl-friends and go out... GL
2006-11-25 07:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jorge R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tone whatever you do down a bit
2006-11-25 07:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by uimblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋