i feel really weird about my bf not being a virgin because i'm his first love and hes mine but he's done it before with a girl he wasn't even going out with! I get mad everytime i think about it because i'm glad i want to do it with him but the thought of him already doing it but loving me but knowing he already lost his makes me mad. And i'm sorry that there's nothing for me to do about it. But what should I do? He did it the summer before he met me! a month later he met me!Am i really ready with him? Or am i not because i keep thinking about it?
2006-11-25 07:02:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over it. It would be hard for you to find someone that doesn't have a past. What's more important is the fact that he's with you now. Focus on that.
2006-11-25 07:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel the time is right to do it go ahead. but do not let someone else force you or persuade you into it. everyone has a past so try not to think about that if he really is a good and genuine guy. but maybe make sure he has an std test! cuz even if u dont show symptoms u could still have it. and also before you do anything sexually there is a virus called HPV that is going around. it is an std that guys carry that have been sexually active and dont know they have it because it doesnt affect them and i dont think comes up in their std test (but im not sure). in girls, it can lead to cervical cancer and is found i think during a pap smear by ur gyno. but now there is a vaccine for it, so when you consider becoming sexually active please get this vaccine!! if u still go to a pediatrician even he can give it to u. they are trying to make it a law for nine year old girls to get it. ages 9-26 years old are elligible to get the vaccine. (there are three shots over a six month period to fulfill the vaccine)
2006-11-25 07:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly, I think you need to ask yourself the questions as to why you feel 'ready' to have sex, and make sure that they are valid. Your virginity is sacred, and like many other things in life, a lot of us don't value it until it's gone. I could go on and on about 'love', but I guess it's up to the person themself to decide what they believe 'love' to be, and what their own personal standards are.
Secondly, it shouldn't make you upset that he isn't a virgin. Girl, let me tell you, men need sex similar to the way they need to pee, and it's also of similar importance to them. It's when they're in love (as you seem to believe your guy is) that matters. The "one-time-flings" don't mean a thing to them, it's nothing more than relieving themselves. Plus, you couldn't have controled what he did before he met you, that was his life, and you can't blame him for his past.
The fact that you keep thinking about it doesn't mean you aren't 'ready', it just means you don't really understand how simple men see sex, that's all. lol.
Just remember, there is absolutely no rush. Imagine how beautiful your first time would be with no doubts, and no fears, and no questions.... God Bless and Good luck, whatever you choose.
2006-11-25 07:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf isn't a virgin either and it's kind of wierd to think bout because he was drunk when he was with the girl. Actually he could have been with more than one for all I know. Well anyway, i kind of know where you're coming from. You shouldn't be mad just remember that it was before he met you. If he had known you were going to come along he prolly wouldn't have done it. But he didn't know, how could he.
2006-11-25 07:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really get over it b/c it is hard to find someone that hasnt already did it with someone else i mean i got lucky and found someone that was a virgin like me an all my boyfriends have been like that and thats jsut b/c i knew where to look for one if u know where to look for one u will find one that is a virgin but its going ot be hard b/c a lot of guys have already had sex with someone and to tell u the truth i would get him tested for stds before u think about sleeping with him B/c u have a chance of getting stds from him since he slept with someone before u
2006-11-25 07:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a virgin at 23 and my ex ho is 26 lost his at age 14 to a 19 year old girl. I felt that was so disturbing, but lots of people make stupid mistakes when they are young. You have to accept it or move on. You can't change the past.
2006-11-28 16:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let his prior choices affect you this way. It's not right, and it's not healthy. You didn't even know each other! However, if you some how can not move past this, you need to find a new boyfriend. There is nothing he can do to change his past, and that is all it is. His past. Everyone has one, and the great thing about it is this: It's behind you.
Either accept or move on.
2006-11-25 07:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his past is what it is ....in the past, so forget about it........if you wanna do it then go for it...
2006-11-25 07:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Muffmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it don't bother me....get over it...
2006-11-25 07:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and exactly how old are you?
2006-11-25 07:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋