Im an only child..im nearly 20...they begged me stay after high school and stay with them and go to college near by(sometimes i regret it, at times i dont). Anyway, my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship...we love each other a lot, but we definitely have our rough spots and disagreements. Anyway, I'll pick a fight...lmaooo..Ima baby..and he'll get mad and then I'll cry. I guess my mom hears me, I understand her concern. But should she really be knocking on my door trying to pass judgements/comments and trying to force her to tell her what he and I are arguing about? I know her and my father have had problems and if my grandparents kne everything about my father(which is no way comparable to the arguments my boyfriend and i have)...he wouldnt agree that she should be with him. Is it wrong for her to try to meddle a little bit? I dont cry for her to hear, I try to keep my voice low and I try not to get too loud.
2006-11-25 06:44:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah, but how can she meddle and worry about me? Things werent always that great between her and my father, but her parents didnt know(because she didnt live with them)...and she didnt want them in her business obviously. I dont need her to make comments or try to be in my business..because she doesnt want me with my boyfriend, but I'm 100% positive if my grandparents knew the things that went on here in my house, they would have told her to leave him and she wouldnt like it.
2006-11-25 06:51:52 · update #1
I don't know anything about your parents so it is a hard question to answer but I would like to try. If your mom is anything like my mom was ( didn't pass judgment on anyone, only wanted me to be happy no matter who I was with) then it is a good thing but if she is like my mother-in-law (she knows everything, been married 3 times thinks she is a marriage counselor and still lives alone because no man can stand her) then probably not. but i can tell u this for sure it doesn't matter who it is if the parents knew everything about the one you love they would never be good enough
2006-11-25 07:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by hmwh_mwc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man that's the point right there. Your mom doesn't want you to settle the same way she did.She stayed because of you just like most women stay in a bad relationship(for the kids)
Give her a hug and tell her its OK and make sure you tell her that you appreciate that she cares so much and how much happiness she sacrificed just for you.
2006-11-25 15:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course , they should not. If you feel like discussing
it with them over a cup of coffee, or so, please do .
I don´t get the impresssion it is what you want , though.
You seem independent enough to know what you are
doing , so just tell them that you need more space
to yourself, and ask them to respect your private sphere,
which can be hard to demand from parents or within the
family .
2006-11-25 15:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by rgarlik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most circumstances moms meddle because they love their children and don't want anyone hurting them. They want to comfort you. But if you still have a problem with this, explain your feelings to her.
2006-11-25 15:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop stop stop, you're only 20 i'm 31 my mom still does that, the point is she's your mom, she'll always be your mom, she worries about you and when you cry she crys too you're her baby, she meddles cause she cares about you...trust me I know from experience remember I'm 31
2006-11-25 14:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋