I have a boyfriend and a husband I like my boyfriend better than my husband. Should I get a divorce and marry my boyfriend???
2006-11-25 06:38:25 · 18 answers · asked by hi. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You wouldn't have a boyfriend if you were happy in your marriage unless you're just that kind of girl. So you should make a list of the pros and cons of staying with your husband and the same list for your boyfriend. If you stay with hubby you'll need to work on the marriage to find out why you strayed in the first place. Think about the fact that your boyfriend(if he knows) doesn't care if you have a husband. Try not to get in this situation again because no matter what you decide someone is going to be hurt by you being selfish in the first place. Now you have to live with that fact.
2006-11-25 06:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a boyfriend, so already your marriage has problems. And of course you like your boyfriend better! If that weren't the case, what need would you have for a boyfriend? But heed the old addage "the grass is always greener." New love is intense, because of a physical recognition of your partner's endorphins, but eventually this will fade in ANY relationship. You have to ask yourself WHY you like him better. Is your husband mistreating you, or does your boyfriend simply treat you better? If the marriage is dead, or was a mistake, it would be wise to admit that so the two of you can both move on. However, you must have loved your husband once enough to marry him. If you leave him because of a lustful rush of endorphins, you'll doom yourself to repeating this cycle for the rest of your life; leaving a good man every time someone new and more exciting comes along. If the marriage can be salvaged, you should try. Especially if there are children involved. But if the marriage is abusive physically or emotionally, or simply emotionally dead, cut your losses and admit your mistake. But take things slowly with the boyfriend.
2006-11-29 03:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by ;-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other replys have all been condeming you. I take another view. What would be worse for you husband?
A) You moving on .. and him finding another love again
OR
B) Staying together in a loveless marrriage
I would personally say B was worse. If you have found the man of your dreams in another man then it is wrong to stay with your husband .. do what will make you happy in the longterm! Do not worry about what anyone else trys to tell you.
If you choose to marry your new boyfriend than CONGRATULATIONS. If spending time with him has this special feel you dont get with your husband then you know it is right to move on..
Best wishes!
2006-11-25 17:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, do you and your husband have kids together? If so, you may need to make sure that what you are thinking about doing is in the best interest of your children. Do you think that you may need marriage counseling? Does your boyfriend respect you and treat you better than your husband? Do you think that your boyfriend will continue to treat you better if you leave your husband? You need to sit down and make sure that this is what's going to make you happy. I think that everyone should be happy and if you are not happy, you need to do what's necessary to become happy. Life is too short to live it unhappily. BUT, if you have a good man, you should hold on to whichever one is the good one. That's just my opinion though. Things like this, you have to follow your heart on. Your husband might treat you better with the worse sex or vice versa. Don't go by that, if it's the sex teach your man how to fulfill you. If you are just plain out unhappy, do what you feel is best.
2006-11-25 14:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by sexydarkchild1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so cruel! Why are you cheating on your husband! Well once your husband figures out what you've been doing I don't know if he'll be able to forgive you! But what I would do is I would tell your boyfriend that you are married and that you don't feel this is fair for your spouse and then tell your husband the truth and try to work out your marriage. Good Luck!
2006-11-25 14:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Alisono 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to sound judgmental or anything...but marriage vows in any language/religion/ethicity is a sacred bond between two people. Have you really given the whole situation enough thought? Why and when did you get this boyfriend? Did your husband do something that drove you to this other man? Before you throw your current marriage out the window, try to think back to why you married him in the first place. Is it fixable? Is it worth fixing?
2006-11-27 01:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your committing adultery already and you like your "boyfriend" more then your husband. if it's more then an infatuation ya get you a divorce. if you have children you need to think what's most important. and if you're cheating in this marriage what makes you think you won't find someone else if you marry your boyfriend then who knows how many times you'll end up married and divorced. hell go enough and you might be able to add up points like with a frequent flier program. lol.
2006-11-25 14:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably just get divorced! Sit still for awhile, date a little and next time marry the man you love, not like!
2006-11-29 02:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you need to get a divorce and then never do a silly thing like get married again.
2006-11-25 14:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by mrlebowski99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHAME ON YOU!!!! You made a commitment to your husband. He trusts you and you betrayed him. Dump the 'boyfriend' and get back to reality. If your marrige is really falling apart, try to fix it, if that doesn't work, then divorce him. But don't sneak around his back.
2006-11-29 09:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by peridotglow@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋