I currently live with my sister. She does not have a job and rent is 699 a month. Split down the middle is rounded to 350. She cant pay it next month and I told her if she dont have it then I am gonna have to find a new roomate. My mom is willing to pay for it so she can live there till end of December. I dont know how to tell her that without being a complete *****. I love living with her but ever since we have lived together he boyfriend has been there. I hate him so much. I know hate is a strong word but He is nothing but a jerk to her and she dont see it. I want to tell her good bye without being a *****. But I am kinda happy she is leaving cuz I dont have to see her boyfriend please help me.
2006-11-25 06:31:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She knows how I and my WHOLE family feel about her boyfriend and she could care less
2006-11-25 06:41:48 · update #1
We just got this apt in september and I am 19 and she is 23
2006-11-25 06:44:20 · update #2
She can easily go live with her boyfriends parents where he lives... Note he is 29. Yes 29 and lives with his parents. Dont worry I was thinking the same thing
2006-11-25 06:58:06 · update #3
Hi. What you are going through must be very uncomfortable.
I have a sister and she pays me back for all my care and help with a kick in the a%&$ss. I withdrew away from her (physically) because of her withdrawl from me (sentimental) through unkind words and selfishness.
I still love her no matter what, but if YOU want that love to remain alive in your heart (it hurts- nevertheless good for you both) you have to say goodbye.
I think it is to soon for her to leave, give her at least one more month and explain to her that it is not so much about the money, rather her boyfriend and you not getting along and hindering your relationship with her.
Money comes and goes. Let out your feelings and speak the truth to her. Give her one more month to choose between not working/plus boyfriend and staying together and helping out.
Dont be attached, just love her in an intelligent but strong way.
Take care.
2006-11-25 06:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes tough love is the only answer...she is your sister, if you have disagreements, just make sue you don't let it get in the way of your relationship. If you love her and she loves you...then she should understand that her lack of contributing is hard on you. So what if mom offers to pay, she is a grown adult with a boyfriend, he should pay.....especially if they spend all that time together. Making her have to go out in the real world may make her come to terms with her lack of betterment... be careful, and don't give in when she gives you the sad puppy dog face...the biggest moochers in the world is family! Give her a reasonable time to move out...don't wait till the burden builds up, and then you freak out on her! Set some rules, NO BOYFRIENDS from 6a.m. to 6p.m. no sleeping over either... after all it is your place isn't it? Why pay out so much money, and then be stuck with company you hate??? What a waste! Good Luck, be strong, and put your foot down! It will save you heartache, and headaches in the future! SET THOSE BOUNDARIES:)
2006-11-25 14:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with her. Tell her your not trying to be mean and all, but that she needs to understand the vaules in life. She cant expect other people to pay her way through life. Also, that guys come and go. Let her know how you feel about her boyfriend while your at it. Worst that could happen, is shes mad at you. It'll only last for awhile if it even gets to that point. Hope you can works things out!
2006-11-25 14:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait untill after the holidays and tell her what you told us. Tell her that you know you have stong feelings or love for this person, but you love her also and can't stand to see someone treat her in a way that you feel is not right. Tell her you feel he is not good enough to be with her and that you can't stand to see it happen in front of you. She may be feeling the same way ,and want to move out but afraid of hurting your feelings. Honest is always the best way, get every thing out on the table and explain it in a loving your sister way.
2006-11-25 14:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and sister need to sit down ALONE and discuss what is happening with the living situation. be honest. tell her how much you love her but she has to take responsibility for herself. tell her that the boyfriend is not a very nice person in your eyes and if she wishes to continue seeing him it will have to be someplace besides your apartment.
even tho you love living with her it is possible the problems between you could grow bigger and bigger and your sisterly relationship might change. Nip it in the bud. Don't enable your sister. let her make her own mistakes and be there to love and support her when she falls.
2006-11-25 14:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth.
i know you want to hear a smart answer that leaves you to walk away without guilt, but look, she is your sister, tell her all of that.
just tell her.
2006-11-25 14:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Neorini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. She is your sister and deserves that.
2006-11-25 14:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋