it seems like there never really was a point in my life when i was truly happy,i'm constantly being pressured to be skinny,get perfect grades. i just can't do it. i just want there to be one day,just one,where i'm happy. what are your tips to being happy?
2006-11-25 06:29:07 · 12 answers · asked by lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi Fragile,
I'm sorry that you have not experienced Happiness in your life. You sound young, so you still have many things to learn. You are becoming a Woman, and that is not always easy.
I have been happy in life, and I've been sad too; and I'm 30. Here are my tips for happiness:
1. Get a Relationship with God
There is nothing more important in this world than your relationship with God. God is the beginning of each and every thing. He is the Reason why you are here. He created you, and placed you on this earth for a reason..Fragile, nothing in life lasts forever. Parents can get divorced, people pass away, your best friend can leave you, your husband can leave you--but God will Always, Always Love You and Be There for you. If you Love Him--he will Love you 100 times more. Happiness comes from Him. He is your Strength in the worst times of your life. He is also a source of Peace...Whether you become a Christian or a Muslim--you will not be complete as a woman until you get God in your Life.
2. Love Yourself.
When I was growing up, my family thought I was the strangest thing. At first I tried hard to fit in: but one day I decided that I liked myself. And it was the best feeling in the world. I didn't look to them for approval--although I still loved and respected them. I didn't look to schoolmates for approval. You have to do the same.
You say you feel pressure to be skinny--well you should look in the mirror and realize that you are Beautiful. When I was growing up, people made fun of my high forhead, my lips. But my mom told me my features were beautiful--and she showed me beautiful African women who looked like me. You can start to admire women who arent a size 4-there are many plus sized models who are beautiful with curves...
You have to first accept yourself. When you do that, nobody can come along and make you feel bad about being you. That song, "The Greastest Love Of All", talks about that.
3. Dont Depend on Man, Boyfriend, or Husband for Happiness.
That is the biggest mistake that most women make. They make a man to be their God. If a man loves them, they're happy. If that same man leaves them, they want to cry and die..The truth is that the Greatest Love of all comes--loving ourselves..We women give men too much power in our lives. Our worlds revolve around them. No, your world must revolve around you. Fill your life with things that make you happy--volunteer at a local Boys & Girls Club, learn how to sew or speak Spanish--the point is to Get a Life!
4. Follow Your Dreams
So you feel pressure to get grades. Realize that your parents only want you to suceed, thats all. You are just preparing for your future....Realize that if you get good grades, you can get a scholarship to a good College and move away from home. There, you can have space and become yourself. .But, most important, when you get a little older--you will start to have Dreams. You have to follow your Passion. Whether you want to be a nurse, doctor, florist, or business owner--you have to make a plan to make your dreams come true. Do what you have talent for, do what makes you happy.
5. Dont follow the crowd. Be an Individual.
I know peopl, right now, who are hooked on drugs because they were afraid of the "cool people" who made fun of them for not smoking and drinking..My 25 year old cousin is a drug addict because of that..Fragile, people will make fun of you for not smoking weed, not having sex, etc. You have to be Strong--be a Strong Woman. You cant follow those people off a cliff. Only the Strong survive.
Good Luck and I hope this letter want too long! :)
2006-11-25 06:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Victory 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up a list of things that like about yourself, once you write the list you will realize your life isn't that bad. If that doesnt work, figure out what it is that makes you happy, do more of that. You are in a funk right now, and trust me you will get through it. Its just something that happens every now and then.
Also if you look at yourself in the mirror and say that you are perfect eventually it will stick and your issue with the pressure to be skinny will slowly fade.
as for the grades thing, im sure whoever is pressuring you to get perfect grades is doing it because they love you and want to see you succeed, but let them know that the pressure is making it hard for you to keep up.
2006-11-25 06:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by errbyleerby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you gotta do to be happy is to love you for you. Forget about the pressures of the world. If you feel like you are too big, start exercising to lose it. It takes discipline (believe me I know), but you can do it. Just try to do your best in everything that you do, and you will succeed. Just remember that you have to be happy with yourself first. Start to love yourself more and act like it. Know that you ARE fabulous even if others think otherwise. After that, everything else will fall in place the way that you want them to. You gotta have a high self-esteem and let NO ONE bring you down though.
2006-11-25 07:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by sexydarkchild1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always happy, cuz I don't care who's watching. Who cares about skinniness, as long as I love myself. My parents pressure me to get PERFECT grades too. But when I do homework I do it with friends. because I'm care free about my shape and my looks, I can focuse on my real goal in life, college. I hope this helped, cuz I remember asking the same queistions a whiles back and a person gave me the same answer. Good luck.
2006-11-25 06:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 01:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you can and don't worry about the rest.
You don't have to be thin to be in...don't even think about the Nicole Ritchie diet!
All work and no play is not the way to live. Do homework during the week, and go out on the weekends. Even if it to the movie or just hanging out in Walmart/Mall/Internet/friends, do something!
2006-11-25 06:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself. no one can be happy by trying to please everyone else. you are the most important person in your life. be kind, and clean and fun. size has nothing to do with who you are. grades are based on what you can really do if you work hard and study. however perfect grades are not possible for everyone. do your very best and be happy.
2006-11-25 06:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is only one path to happiness...learning to love yourself above all others (except God of course). Don't hold on to hate. It is truly a waist of time. always make the best of what you have or where you are. treat others as you would have them treat you...(there is no such thing as normal...we are all different how can we compare one to another?)
2006-11-25 06:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Fragile!
Happiness is something we have to make. DO not let outside things affect you. You are you and tell parents or whoever is bugging you that you have to live life for you. Be yourself!!!!!
2006-11-25 06:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I struggled with the same thing,
Just choose to be happy it seems stupid but it works when yo get the hang of it.
Do whatever you want... do not let people push you to do something you do not belive in.
Good Luck!!
:)
2006-11-25 06:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋