My friends son is playing up something chronic at school, home and out of school club. He lost contact with his dad last xmas and he has been rebelling ever since. Thing is, I think its unfair of my friend to prevent him seeing his dad. She doesnt want the guy in her life, so that means her son is suffering. She doesnt seem to realise that he may turn against her when he's older and if he's still acting up nearly a year on, there is no way the wee guy is going to move on and do well in school. His dad is a bit of a loser, but thats not the point. Its up to his son to get to know his dad and make his mind up as he grows up. His dad was in his life up till last xmas. I have no kids, so feel that my friend will tell me to get lost if I have a gentle word with her. Just dont want her son feeling like this. What do you think I should do?
2006-11-25 06:26:45 · 12 answers · asked by enigma64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For someone with no kids you sure have got it spot on your friend is being selfish and if she thinks she can get back at her ex and hurt him by preventing him seeing his son she is so so wrong all she is doing his hurting the boy and your right it will come back in later years to kick her in the **** the ex has to be able to see him and if he messes it up then well that's up to him and the boy will be able to see that for himself and make his own mind up they are not silly I think you need to sit your friend down and explain like you have here and hopefully she will listen to you Good Luck
2006-11-25 06:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by cliffhanger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a word with her even suggest if possible that you be the go between as his dad can pick him up and drop him off at your home that way your friend wont have contact with him.In the long run she is hurting her son much more than she can imagine.
2006-11-25 09:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age of the son, but maybe you should suggest he tells his mum directly? It's one thing for her to deny the father access to the son, it's another for her to deny her son access to his father. Maybe there's just a commumincation issue there, either way you may lose your friend if you interfere. Appreciate your concern though, tricky situation.
2006-11-25 06:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by frenziedmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four children and would not stop my children from seeing their father. Yes even If I did not want too.. I sympathise with this situation and understand the child's pain, but its a two way thing has the father tried to contact his son??? Have you tried to talk to the child to see if this is what is causing him to misbehave... I think its a difficult situation and you may cause friction with your friendship..
2006-11-25 06:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the son. he has to be the one to talk to his mother and tell her how he feels. he has to either get to know his dad and find out for himself what a loser he is or maybe just having a letter or phone call will be enough. Whatever happens, this boy will always resent his mother if she continues to keep them separate. perhaps they have a clergyman the boy can ask for help.
2006-11-25 06:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and talk to his Mum,even if she doesnt want to listen to what you have to say.My partners ex stopped her son from seeing his Dad and it all backfired on her at the end of the day as we now have him living with us.He's only 11 and at the end of the day he missed his Dad so much that he misbehaved until his Mum sent him packing to live with us.
2006-11-25 08:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by shell.7. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of just telling your friend outright, could you possibly suppot her son while HE tells her. As a mother, sometimes when you hear stuff from your kids mouth it has a bigger effect!
You sound like a very perceptive person!
2006-11-25 09:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy to recommend you the best possible solution, because we are not in the right situation, but as you are honestly worry about your Friend , discussing her mother should be logic anyway.
2006-11-25 06:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ruger
2016-05-23 01:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a mother of 3...................sit the child down and ask him what the matter is!! if it is to do with his dad then i suggest you try by whatever means to make his mother see reason!!! tell her you have spoke to her son and that his problem is ?????? whatever he has told you!!! if shes any sort of mother then she will do whats best for her son!!
2006-11-29 04:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by chick07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋