My Fiance and I live in 2 differnt states.and want to be together.But he lives with his grandma.That wont let him do anything.without her knowing.he wants to come and see me but she wont let him.what should he or we do?So that we can see one another.He's 25 and i'm 32.and we want to be together as a family.
before we get married in may of 2007.any help would be great.
Please help us out.On finding a way to be together.thanks in advance.PS what would you do to be with ur soul mate?
2006-11-25 06:18:26 · 12 answers · asked by Angel sent from heaven 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not that he has to as permission to do things its that his gramdma is to controlling.and tells him that he has to live by her rules.And keeps telling him what to do.First she tells him to move out and then she tells him no hes not going anywhere without her.Thats what is going one with him liveing with his grandma.she just wont let him have any freedom.
2006-11-25 06:30:27 · update #1
The grandma knows me and doesn't like me.And its not that he hasn't tried to move out.she wont let him have any of his money cause she say's that hit money is her's.and he is the one paying on his car note.so the car he has is his.but yet at the sametime she say if he leaves the car that he drives is her's.and that he can't take the car with him.He has tried everything to move out.and she keeps telling him if he leaves that she will hunt him down.Belive me i'm on everyones side.that thinks that he should move.But it the grandma keeping a short leash on him.Thats why i'm asking for you're help.So please only give advice if ur going to help us.if not please don't bother answering my question.
and the question is.WHAT CAN HE DO TO SO THAT WE CAN BE TOGETHER?and get his grandma to let him go?other than just telling him to stand up to her when he's tried that.
2006-11-25 06:40:27 · update #2
Sounds like his Grandma is very controlling. He should realize that it is time to move out. He will never have a life as long as he lets himself be controlled by others. He is a man... not a child. He does not need permission to do what he wants by his Grandma... he should tell her that he is not a child and that she should stop treating him like one.
2006-11-25 06:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by Soul saviour 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
is grandma paying the bills and own the car or what? a 25 yr old man should be able to do whatever he wants. If you 2 don't spend some time together prior to marriage, it isn't going to work. where are you going to live? what does grandma think of you? you have a lot of problems to work out before may 2007. he has to take a stand and so do you. if this is a financial arrangement then you better find another way or grandma is going to win. you 2 need to talk to grandma and tell her that you intend to be together NOW and she really can't stop it.
2006-11-25 06:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is 25 and still having to get permission from his grandma? Something doesn`t sound right with him. If he cannot do what he wants now, imagine what it will be like married to him. He needs to learn how to stand up for himself.
If you gave me the thumbs down: Is he putting your feelings first? No he isn`t. He for some reason is having to ask grandma if you two can see each other during the holidays. You two are not teenagers here, you are adults who shouldn`t have to be asking anyone`s permission do see one another. One of you needs to grow a set of balls. Do you really think this will change when you get married? She will be all in your marriage causing problems as it sounds as if she doesn`t approve of you. She must be paying all his bills to have this much control over him. Thank you.
2006-11-25 06:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He needs to be straight forward with his grandma. Hes an adult and so are you. There shouldnt have to be any sneaking around when it comes to your relationship together. Doesnt matter whether y'all live in different states or not. What do y'all plan on doing when you get married? I hope live together. I think what he should do is talk to his grandma about you, then have you come to his house to meet her. This way, she can get to see you and get to know you better. Let her know that y'all are getting married and make sure to involve her in the wedding. Keeping her distant from her grandson will only fuel the fire, if ya know what I mean. He needs to be adult about this and not keep things from her, especially with him getting married. Hopefully she'll understand why its been a secret and accept you into their family. Hope this helps!
2006-11-25 06:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would first suggest learning some English and Grammar. Second, why is a 25 year old man still living with his grandma?? I find that very strange and even more weird that she won't "let" him?!
2006-11-25 06:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Julie L 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're really desperate, you should have her move out here with you guys i mean it sounds like he takes care of her right? I know it sounds crazy but if you really believe that he's your soul mate....take a chance on that
Wait......how old are you? aren't you ols enough to realize that you're not young any more and you don't have time for this kind of Drama......wise up and get out
2006-11-25 06:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is too old to let himself being role by his grandma or family. Tell him to get a pair of new ones!!
2006-11-25 06:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mesa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's 25, he can do what he wants. Why don't you move in together and then he won't have to worry about her controlling him anymore!
2006-11-25 06:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by az270890 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he has to answer to his grandma than he is too Young and imature to get married. He needs to grow up.
2006-11-25 06:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by BB 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he is depended on his Grandma, I dont think he is ready for marriage.
2006-11-25 06:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Victory 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋