My mother always tries to impose her ideas on me.I am 24 now?

Question

There is no space for me to do mistake or take a decision by
Myself.My mother treats me as i am a 15 years boy. I have no confidence on me. I fear from people due to nothing .I Remained worried and many more Problems like this. please help me I think there is no happiness In this world for me.i have to live with my family otherwise my father and all other family members will not be happy with me. i am the youngest in my family

Answer 1

You are 24 and living at home still. You hint that you are still home because your moving out would make parents unhappy. OK. Will you still be living home when your parents die at 80? You never plan to travel, marry, or have a life of your own? Mommy will still be making your bed when you're 40? Cutting your meat? Buying your clothes? Buddy, you need to grow up, move out, and live like an adult. Otherwise, you'll never have a life.

Answer 2

First of all you are a young adult and you are in a situation that is stifling to you. Of course your parents are in full control, you still live at home and they will always be the boss on their ground. You need to look in the mirror and speak to yourself by name and tell yourself good things to increase your self esteem. Your mother and father and family is not the problem you are suffering with. You are the problem because you have not taken any steps to show them you are a grown person. You cannot live you life for other people - not even your parents. The youngest in the family at 24 is the youngest in the family at 42. Don't you see you are allowing yourself to be treated like a 15 year old boy because you are stuck in time. Grow up and leave the house. Begin your life and don't be afraid to be happy.

Answer 3

Wow, you are 24 and you can't write any better than this? Some of your question doesn't make any sense.
Next its not the age that makes a person a man or woman its how they act/ react to things like chores around the house. If you don't like it at home, get out, get a job and grow up! After you make a few mistakes on your own you will grow up.
I would worry too. When kids grow up they have their own ideas about how things should be, and that is why there are so many disagreements between you and your mom.therefore its definitely time to get out on your own. There are just too many adults living under one roof. You have your way of thinking and your mother has hers, but it doesn't mean you can't get along with each other.
It's OK to disagree, just don't hold it against each other. You are different people.

Answer 4

I come from a family of 11 and I was in a similar situation. You can't make everyone happy.
You need to do what is going to help you become a mature adult. It's hard to do when your mother is always there to answer your questions for you and decide what you should do.
You should get your own place. You are an adult and nobody has the right to say that you can't live on your own. It seems as if your mother doesn't want you to grow up which is normal. My youngest brother is in the same boat as you are. He just doesn't want to take on the responsibility of living on his own. I hope everything works out.

Answer 5

I could tell you were the baby of the family at the begining of your question. My mother does the same thing to me. I'm 24 as well, and also the baby of the family. And she sees me as exactly that....the "baby" of the family. Your mother knows she isnt gonna have anymore kids. She's hanging on to you as long as you'll let her. You have to slowly pull away from her. If shes anything like my mother she'll play the guilt card. Tell her its nothing against her, infact she raised you so well that you feel you have the confidence to make decisions for yourself, regarding your own life. Tell her its nothing against her, but as an adult you'll have to start doing it sooner or later. And point out that no matter how old or independent you get, you'll still value her opinion, but in order to truly grow up and be happy with your life, you need to venture out and start doing things for yourself now. She'll probably be hurt at first , but she'll understand. We all need to grow up eventually, it just tends to take the babies of the family a little longer cus everyone wants to keep them, the babies, of the family.

Answer 6

As a mother I can relate to your mother, but that doesn't mean its right. Here is what you do. Invite all your family over for dinner or lunch that you have prepared, and tell them that you love them for all that they have done for youand the raising of you, but it's time for you to live out on your own, and maybe someday have a family of your own. You could tell them " don't you what me to be a mother like you are so I can experience a mothers love like you have for me. You have raised me well and now I need to put all the morals and examples you have given me into action for myself". Now even if you don't feel this way, explain in a way that puts all the glory on them and that you want to feel this way also. You may need to write down what you want to say so that the right words come out and that all the family gets what your trying to say. Good luck, it's worth a shot.

Answer 7

You need to move away... farrrrrrrrrrrrrr awayyyyyyyyyy. I know you said your family would like, disown you or whatever.. but you need to mak them understand that you're an adult now, and they really can't control. They may be mad at first, but they'll get used to it.
She's your mother and you can't change that, and she will always try to impose her ideas on you.. but you can make it harder for her to. If you live near her now (in her calling area) (unless she has like, unlimited long distance..) I suggest you at least move out of her area code. Your mother affects your mental health, whether you and she both want to accept that is your business, but if you don't accept that, you will never solve this problem. Talk to her.. tell her you're a grown-up now. You love her and want her advice, but she needs to know that that's what it is. ADVICE. You can take her advice, or make your own decision, or get input from a third party.. whatever. So basically here is your gameplan.

1. Move. (I know it'll be hard, but you HAVE to)
2. Confront her. Talk to her about her her telling you what to do wth every little aspect of your life is demeaning and makes feel like a kid.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I feel for you.......You are 24, you need to find independence and you will never accomplished this if you stay where you are. It will be hard, but you need to find your own place with or with out roomates your own age. You need to gain the confidence you can make your own decisions. I have been there, I have a very opinionated parent and she was always critical of my choices. You will make mistakes, and they will say "You should of listen to me", oh well, at least they were your mistakes and you can learn from them and move on. You deserve happiness and you will find it, on your own.

Answer 9

You need to move, and they'll adjust to it in time. As long as you live at home, you'll be the baby who needs mother's advice. Your mother doesn't do this on purpose, it's just a natural reaction when you child, even though an adult, still lives at home. Good luck!

Answer 10

ur 24 you don't need to live with her and until you move out she will continue to rule your life grow up and move out and make your own decisions if you don't you will be stuck in this pattern so your choices are move out and be an adult and deal with your family being mad which makes no sense to me other wise stay living there and deal with this because until you move out you will have listen to her and sounds like you won't be happy till you do move out good luck only you can make the decision as to what to do.