I got badly hurt and I have no respect for this individual whatsoever. I do, however, have a beautiful recollection of the day we met. All I'm asking is, is it healthy at all to cherish this in my heart because it's like a fantasy. Not real. Someone who loves you doesn't do certain things under any circumstance.
I just feel like I'm fooling myself the way I think about that one day in August 2 years ago.
It's all been a lie anyway.
thanx
2006-11-25 05:58:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You know its over, but I see no harm in retaining a good memory ...;
2006-11-25 06:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still dealing with feelings of lose and rejection and resentment towards this person. You are not fooling yourself by remembering the good days, because if you stuck it out for two whole years, there had to be a few of those. But you need to work on healing first. Let go of all that anger and hate you have for this person and move along just knowing that you are a little wiser and that you are better off with out. You can't erase you memory, that will always be there, but you can re think your memories in a healthier way. No one wins, especially not you when you hold on to bad feelings like that for too long.
Best of luck.
2006-11-25 14:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a very healthy veiw of this person.
I loved a guy for 33 years who did some bad things to hurt me. I didn't see him that whole time but called him up once to just hear his voice and could actually feel my heart "leap" up in my chest when he answered the phone. Finally I looked him up on the internet and he had died. I cried like a lunatic for half an hour.
So at least you aren't as silly as me. My love for this guy was based on fantasy I came to realize after so many years. He was a jerk in reality. At least you can separate the fantasy from the reality of what he or she was really like. As time goes by the memory will fade especially if you find someone else to love. I still treasure so many memories with Steve, and it was just so beautiful, the time, places we went, the feelings I had. I will alwasy feel this way. I have a year that I cherish that way. I can't help it, it's my heart that is doing it. sigh.
2006-11-25 14:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. Thinking of the past times that you two spent together are far more pleasant than to think of what happened in the break up. I do the same thing. It really doesn't get me anywhere, but the thoughts are memories and you can't make those go away. There will be someone down the road, but until then think of the good times, but don't lie to yourself, that if we get back together that all is well. It's not. With the good just remember what broke you two up in the first place. Think happy thoughts and go on knowing that you gave it your best shot!
2006-11-25 14:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;m sorry to hear that....bad day....Personally, from my own experience I've found it best to just drop all fondness of past relationships to the best of my ability...this keeps me from going back and getting hurt more. Rid yourself of numbers if you need to.
As an overall rule I think its okay to remember some good points of relationships just to keep an "emotionally leveled" head. Its usually unlikely that the person was using you 100% of the time. I'm sure he/she had some appreciation for you otherwise the person just couldn't stand being around you. Take the good for what it is and leave the bad but just becareful not to reminice too much otherwise you may end up calling the person again.
I hope you get to feeling better
2006-11-25 14:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It couldn't have been a lie for 2 years. You had good times and bad times. It hurts when someone moves on and you are not ready for the relationship to end.
Once you get over the intense hurt you are feeling right now, you will remember many of the good times.
2006-11-25 14:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by maamu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do your best to hold onto those good memories. I was badly betrayed last year in my first serious relationship (someone I thought I would be with forever,) and i've only just recently come to terms with the hurt and anger. But I' glad I sitll have the good memories, because at one time, she did really love me, and that still has meaning.
2006-11-25 14:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by ATumorNamedMarla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep all the good memories you have, learn from the not so good ones and look forward to making new memories with new people that are right for you! Enjoy your life and make the best of everything because time does not stand still. People come into your life for a very short time to make you aware of things. You are smarter now because of it. Feelings are not lies.
2006-11-25 14:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Zena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn`t go over the time you met her mentally. It can keep you from moving on and healing. I personally think it is best to forget it right now and get out and do things to take your mind off of what has happened. Later you can look back and remember the good times. Good luck
2006-11-25 14:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is that saying? "Our life consists of the memories we make not the number of breaths we take." We learn from the good and the bad in our life. It's fine to enjoy the sweet, good moments that are given to us. The lesson comes in the learning from whatever it was that happened. Move on now. Once in awhile, look back, smile, and say to yourself" Thanks for the memory". It's really o.k. Someone really good for you is out there just waiting for you. Keep looking. There are good people everywhere--just like you!
2006-11-25 14:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on to the next chapter in your life. You will always have memories of the past and you will always have her in your heart a special part of your heart. Its all normal you will always have part of her because in 50 years from now you will still remember her. Love fades but never really goes away
2006-11-25 14:04:19 · answer #11 · answered by gallagher g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋