2006-11-25 05:44:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, don't worry if you are not an experienced kisser. Guys can't tell if you have kissed before. Since everyone kisses differently, you always "start from scratch" when you kiss a new person. Plus, in most cases a guy will be so thrilled that he's locking lips with you, he won't be judging the way you kiss! So never be embarrassed that you're not a kissing pro. Kissing is easy - and fun - when you know a few basic rules. Let's move onto them now...
Let's start with your kissing equipment: your lips and mouth. Keep your lips soft and kissable by applying lip balm every day. It's especially important to keep your lips moisturized in the winter months, when drier air can make them feel scaly. Don't neglect your breath either. Good breath is one of the most important ingredients in a good kiss. Keep yours fresh by brushing and flossing twice a day. Keep sugarfree mints handy in your purse or pocket, for situations when you need to freshen up fast.
When it comes to the actual kiss, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each otehr. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!
The most important thing to remember: When you want to French kiss a guy, first start off with some nice, slow closed-mouth kisses, then some open-mouthed no-tongue kisses. This gets your lips warmed up and lets you get into the joy and closeness of kissing. So relax and take your time before moving on to anything involving your tongue. It's really important to go slow and ease into it when you're going to French kiss.
Once you're ready to start using your tongue, it's best to give the boy you're kissing a signal that you're going to do it. Do this by opening your mouth a little bit and maybe darting your tongue out just a bit. Give his lips a tiny lick with your tongue, just a bit, so that he knows what's coming up. If he's into French kissing you, he'll probably open his lips a little and maybe lick your lips back a bit. This is good! It means you have a "green light" to keep on going.
It's nice to just do this kind of light tonguing for a bit. It can be very exciting to tease each other's lips with your tongues, sharing each other's breath. Whatever you do, do NOT shove your tongue right into his mouth! That will feel gross to him (guys rate it the number one thing girls do to turn them off while kissing) and it's way too aggressive. If he gets over-excited and puts his tongue way in your mouth, gently pull back from the kiss for a second and start again, doing your light tongue touches so he gets the message he needs to take it slower.
When you want to get a little deeper into French kissing, all you have to do is just extend your tongue a little more into your mouth. Basically you'll be doing exactly what you've been doing, but just deeper. Use a little more of your tongue, and let the kisses last a little longer. The key to a great French kiss is to keep your mouth nice and soft, and to be really gentle and relaxed.
While you're French kissing, it may help to think of your and his tongue dancing together. Keep them moving in light, smooth movements. Lick the inside of the boy's lips, run your tongue over his gums on top of his teeth and below, pull your tongue away and slip it back gently. Make little circles around the tip of his tongue with your tongue. Do what feels natural. Remember French kissing is about cooperation. It's all about your tongues fluttering around together in a sensual dance. It's not one person shoving their tongue further into the other's person's mouth!
If you're kissing a boy who has more experience at French kissing than you do, you may find you're keeping your tongue a bit back and he has his tongue in your mouth more. That's okay, but try to relax and get more equal movement (you tongue tasting and exploring his mouth AND his tasting yours) as you go along. Just keep your mouth soft and open and relax so you can fully enjoy all the kissing that's going on!
When you really like what the boy kissing you is doing, if a movement he makes feels good, encourage him by giving a little moan. He'll know you like it and do more of it! You can judge how he likes the kissing by the sounds he makes too. If he makes a groan when you do a certain thing with your tongue, you can be sure he likes it.
2006-11-25 05:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, take it slow. You definitely want to be gentle and deliberate. Remember also that first kisses are often NOT what you see in the movies and definitely do not over due it. Subtly is critical in the kissing business! You may enjoy reading through "How to Kiss A Woman" at:
http://www.bossanova.com/weevil/kiss/
2006-11-25 05:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...u cant force anything...it has to be consensual....but you can always steal a kiss....just make sure u stop if it is unwanted....and as for amking out....it's not nice to stare...that's jsut about all i can give away...the rest u ahve to learn on ur own through experience
2006-11-25 05:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Pickles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find that out yourself... practice makes perfect :D
2006-11-25 05:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetie Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋