I'm a 20 year old single father, and i want to find someone who will love me, but everytime i thing i find someone i'm not good enough, i mean i'm not bad looking im nice and kind caring sweet very loving, and now that i have a child i fear that it's going from hard to highly impribable that i can find someone. so i need help on how i can find someone who will love me and be happy to have me love them, because i am personaly shy and i am not that great at metting people. thanks everyone
2006-11-25 05:37:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what I am 19 and I cant find a nice guy. Maybe your that nice guy. Having a kid should not stop you from finding a girl. I bring my niece and nephew with me and all the guys flock to me LOL. Having a kid is a plus in your life and no one should come before it. There is someone out there for you and I am sure you will find them. If you want to get to know me or want some help shoot me a email. Click my face LOL.
2006-11-25 05:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll meet someone who is going to love both you and your child in due time. Don't rush it. Love always finds a way. Quite frankly, women nowadays are so "independent" that they pass by the most important things in life i.e. having a family. Maybe, you're looking in all the wrong places. Matter of fact, stop looking. When God decides to send you your soul mate, you'll know until then just wait patiently. Most women, get caught up in what a guy can give them materially that they forget about the things that really matter. Trust me there is a woman out there who is hoping praying for a guy like you. Women's ideas of what a good man is changes as they get older.
Avoid negativity, there is nothing wrong with you having a child at 20. If people would stop being so damn judgemental of others, the world would be a much better place. Just don't let negative people make you feel down. God put that child into your life for a reason. Don't ever waste your time trying to be with someone doesn't accept your child. That should tell you something about them. It takes a mature person to know and see that. Sweetheart, you deserve someone who is as not only beautiful, but is family oriented and open minded. Give it some time. Enjoy your child.
2006-11-25 13:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by alasia_schultz1984 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A single father at 20 yrs old?
thats enought to scare any girl.
However, its not impossible....try to socialize with people who are in your same situation, you will never find mrs right at a bar or night club.
Also, you need to be aware that being a single parent at you age is not easy.....and
as a mother, if my 20 yr old wanted to date a single parent at that age...honestly we would appose it completely....and its not to misjudgeyou or anything, but a 20 yr old girl doesnt need that kind of responsibilities at her age..
unfortunately, you have it at a very very young age, but remember its not easy, and only time will tell when you will find the perfect women in your life.
dont push things, and remember your child come first , concentrate on being a father, fufil you obligations, be responsible and mature.
at the age of 20, I highly dougt it you have your own house yet, have finished an education, are financially stable.
work on those things first, so when the right person comes along, you will have something more to offer her rather than an instant family.
2006-11-25 13:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by sandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your child’s mother. You should definitely not give up hope on finding a good woman who can love both you and your child. There are such sweet, caring, and mature ladies out there even in their twenties. Are you a religious man? It may be worthwhile to find a local church that both you and your child can attend. Many churches have great day care arrangements, especially on Sundays, and activities for singles.
Don’t give up hope. There are many wonderful women out there. Just remember that at this point you are both looking for someone who is good for both you and, more importantly, your child.
2006-11-25 13:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried anything like match.com If I were single that is what I would do. Are you in college? If not you should be for the sake of yours and your child's future. That is also a great place to meet singles. That is where I met my husband.
2006-11-25 13:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not that good at spelling either but it's ok. Being a single father myself i find it quite simple to spark up conversations with mere strangers (ladies). Wherever i go i always bring my son with me. I don't even have to look at women and they naturally gravitate toward my son. Make sure that when you go out, you and your sibling look good. Go shopping for some clothes and i bet you'll find some single women with children looking for clothes also. Just start talking to them about their kid and get their number and wala. Easy! Try it. It won't kill ya.
2006-11-25 13:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by vincent_o_mejia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great guy. Is your child a son or daughter, and how old? You have a lot of great qualities; I don't see why women wouldn't want to date you. If you'd like to talk, feel free to email me. I'm older than you, but I'm a caring listener.
2006-11-25 13:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just calm down. Things like love take time. The most important thing right now is just your son! Focus on him and before you know it, you'll have stubled upon that "nice girl" you're looking for. Just be patient.
2006-11-25 13:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by boy_skowting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should go to one of those single's night out things where you meet other single people and learn more about them.
2006-11-25 13:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is sweet that you are a father. and it might seem like there is no one out there for you. because i feel that way to sometimes.
2006-11-25 13:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by ulamciadilaucurats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋