he will make me sleep with him even if i do not feel like it. i thought that having sex was supposted to be a two person thing.... i dunno what to do anymore. i feel like i am lowering myself just to please him.
2006-11-25 05:31:32 · 26 answers · asked by Kristin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no easy way to discuss it with him. But you will have to sit down and talk to him. There is a difference between sex and love. Unfortunately some men either don't know the difference or some know but don't care. You are right, it should be a two way street. However, some days it is not. There are days when you don't want to or he doesn't want to but either of you go ahead anyway because you care for that person. Those days, you shouldn’t feel like you are lowering yourself either. Some days you want to have sex. I personally feel that most days it should be about love. What I am sensing from you is that it is more sex than love. If he respects you then he will understand and be willing to wait until you are ready.
This is the part that is going the trickiest because you want to talk to him before he tries to get you into bed. You don't want to give him the impression that you don't want to be with him anymore yet you still want him! It is hard to get some guys to understand, but if he cares about your feelings he will.
If he is still unwilling to cooperate or is not willing to understand, then he made need to be cut off in the bed room for a while. I have had friends who had to take time apart before they understood. I can't say that will be for everybody, but at least a separation from the bedroom. If he keeps forcing his way into your bed and you tell him NO, then that is rape and that can be more serious. Hopefully, it won't get that far.
2006-11-25 05:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by computerbytes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, Tell him sau if your horny you have a hand and if that dont work then go find a prostitute but I am not gonna be your sex toy. I have feelings and your just making it worse by using me. Hunny if you are not happy you need to leave him. No girl should be treated like a SEX object. been there done that. No fun. You need to say no and mean it and not let it happen. Let him know how you feel. Worst that could happen is he dumps you. To keep your pride dump him first if it bothers you but either way you need to get out if he is hurting you like that.
2006-11-25 13:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the one in charge of your body tell him no and stick to your guns if you dont feel like it then your not going to enjoy it I go through the same thing with my husband but we got to the point where if he knows Im not in the mood then we arent going to do anything sex should be something you both want to do if he cant handle that then cutt him off for a while.
2006-11-25 13:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by sar sar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you're saying, that's rape. There's no excuse for making you feel like a hole in the wall, either way. Please, dump him! I had a relationship like that, and even though he was everything to me, dumping him was the best thing I ever, ever did. It hurt so much, but opened me up to a world of better men... and a world in which I could respect my own desires, needs and beliefs. DUMP HIM ALREADY!!!
2006-11-25 13:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by solaralley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like you're lowering yourself because you are. If he's only saying he's your boyfriend to sleep with you, then you need to get rid of him if you can't make him understand how you feel about doing something you don't want to do. No means no in every languauge
2006-11-25 13:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him any guy that really loves u wont force you 2 do anything let go of this loser!!!! find a guy that will respect u that guy isnt the one 4 sure there are so many guyz out there dont settle 4 him becuz from my view in this story he is not ur soulmate ma dont b lowering urself 4 him tell him no and if he hits u helloooooooooo popo!!!! (copz) let go of him and start sumwere new dont b afriad of him
2006-11-25 13:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by newyorican chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you mean by make you but you always have the right to say no to sex even if you've done it willingly before. If sex is not something you want or if it's not satisfying to you talk to him if he doesn't listen then he's not worth your time. If he's physically forcing you call the police.
2006-11-25 13:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by alltheanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow anyone to use you like this! That is horrible. Dump him and find a nice caring man who will wait for when your ready and yes sex is supposed to be a two person act. In fact it is really intended for two people who are married and that is what you should wait for.
2006-11-25 13:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to use is hand or something! and that you are not in the mood. you soudl listen to pinks new song "U+UR hand" lol
love makes you do crazy things. if you do not want to and he really loves you then when you say somethgin to him and how you dont liek that he MAKES YOU h shoudl respect you and be patient with you. it is supposed to be a 2 person ordeal
2006-11-25 13:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just using u coz it takes two but he should ask u first if u want to and if he loves u he would understand and not force u to do it
2006-11-25 13:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by SexyCeel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋