I'm in a long distance relationship that's been going on for about 2 years. We are both in our 30's I can't move because I have a child, and I'm not ready to get married. I just want him closer. Am I being unreasonable. Guys out there, would you move across the country for your girl?
2006-11-25 05:30:36 · 8 answers · asked by alltheanswers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My best friend and I have been friends for about 6.5 years.... Recently he moved closer to me because we agreed that we were going to take things to the next level between us. But I didn't ask him he did it on his own. I am not sure that is a request that you could ask of him. Especially if you are not sure about marriage. Its a lot for one to uproot their lives for another and start a new. I think that if you all were talking on a permanent level in your future like marriage then yes definitely but if you all are just dating and you just want him to be closer well that is a decision that he has to come to himself.
2006-11-25 05:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Laila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to expect him to change his whole life because YOU want him to...but your not ready to commit to him? What does he get out of the move? A girlfriend? You want him to change jobs, give up his family, friends, his HOME. And in return he hears "I want you to be closer but I don't want any commitment". Wow...unreasonable doesn't seem to cover it....
2006-11-25 13:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With no promise of marriage? I doubt it. Unless I did the kind of work that could be easily moved or knew I could get a good job. I'd have to really really be infatuated.
2006-11-25 13:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not without more than you are offering. I would also need to know that my skills were portable enough to get a job in the new location quickly. The area would also need to be enticing.
2006-11-25 13:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on his job. If he has a nice, stable job, I don't think you should ask him. However, if moving helps him with his career, go for it because it benefits both parties.
2006-11-25 14:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by romeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For every reason you have, he might also have valid reasons. I don't think asking him to move is unreasonable. What is unreasonable, however, is your narcissism.
2006-11-25 13:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
FOR SURE , i'm waiting my visa to live with her since 6 months .
2006-11-25 13:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
2006-11-25 13:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Yellow Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋