My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3.5 months. We have a great relationship; he's the only person I've ever met that I literally can spend an entire day with and not run out of things to say. Even though he's 23 and I'm 22, I've dated a lot more in the past than he has. In fact, he's only had one other serious girlfriend (he dated her for 3 years and then he broke up with her over the summer). I'm the only other girl he's ever been in love with. Recently, he found out that his ex is dating someone else, which really bothers him. She lives in MN, and he and I live in VA. He told me he's afraid he might still have feelings for her. I think he's probably just jealous that some other guy might be taking his place, which I think is anatural reaction. However, my bf says he needs to see his ex over winter break to be sure. Clearly, a relationship between them would never work out now (he doesn't want to move back to MN). But, I'm still scared. What can I do to keep him?
2006-11-25 05:28:12 · 7 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ALSO - my boyfriend came home with me for Thanksgiving, and everything was great again. He says he's trying not to think about his ex and hoping these feelings will go away. How can I help him to see that it's normal to be jealous of an ex, but that you don't/shouldn't act on it? What should I do?
2006-11-25 05:29:25 · update #1
just hang out with him more and keep sayin i love u jsut slip it in a conversation and dont wroory if her rely loves u ull be fine
2006-11-25 05:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything to keep him. If he wants to see her don't make a big deal about it and let him go. Why do you want to be with someone who is obviously not completely commited to your relationship? I think I would tell him that until he is certain it is only you he wants to be with that the two of you should see other people. And then I would go out on a few dates. Distance yourself a little bit and see if he really misses you. If he has true feelings for you he will quickly realize it and come running back. If not then you've kept yourself from making a mistake and wasting your time.
2006-11-25 13:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a woman and put your foot down. Tell him exactly how you feel about the situation. He must not be in love with you if he's thinking of his ex and who she's with. Just cause you love someone doesn't mean that you're in love with them--there's a big difference. You're a damn fool if you let him go see her.
2006-11-25 13:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by alasia_schultz1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats weird you reply to me and your having a problem that im Watching happen with one of my friends, advise him not to see her it wont turn out good for him or more importantly you!!!
2006-11-25 14:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by maty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to him but dont worry to much because he love him and wants to be with him and u should tell him how u feel about him wanting to see if they still have feeling
2006-11-25 13:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by kaschara200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he really forgot her, he wouldn't think about her or what she is doing in her life cause he already has his life too. Talk to him about that and he must be sure that he really loves you.
2006-11-25 13:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet_kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to keep him. He's not yours. If you and him are meant to be together, you will be!
2006-11-25 13:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋