Why do Most Christian-American women have Sex Before Marriage?
I am Muslim, African-American woman, and I truly do respect Christians-- as most of my family members are Christian..
But I notice that the majority of women in America who consider themselves Christian-- do have sex before marriage. I'm not talking about women who are "out there" or "promiscuous". But even church going women will live with their husbands before marraige, and have "long term relationships" involving sex.. I also notice the same trend among Christian men.This is very common today.
I don't judge people who have sex before marriage at all--But I notice that when Christian women ask me why I dont "have a boyfriend" (in a sexual relationship)--they will get upset or ridicule me when I say I dont believe in Sex Before Marriage.
Why have most American Christians become very accepting of sex before marriage?
Serious Answers Only.
2006-11-25 05:20:26 · 39 answers · asked by Victory 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hi. I am a Christian woman. I am married now, but did have sex before marriage. I was not a Christian at that time, but did struggle with temptations as a Christian before marriage. I give all glory and credit to Jesus for giving my husband and I the strength to resist temptation before marriage. Our first kiss as a couple was at the altar.
I think that a vast majority of people who claim Christianity as their religion either do not understand their claim well enough for it to be true and sincere in them or they are too caught up in the temptations of life and not caught up in the focus and strength of Christianity - namely Jesus Christ and His accomplishments in life, death, and the resurrection.
It is disturbing the number of people who claim allegiance to Christ and then fail to follow Him in His commands. None of us is perfect. Biblically we are all sinners in need of our Savior, Christ, and this issue is yet further proof that becoming a Christian isn't an instant fix of flaws. Christianity is meant to be a process of growing in relationship with the Savior who saved us once from eternal damnation in hell and is saving us daily from our own weakness toward sin which brings death into our lives (although some sins bring death of emotional, relational, social, spiritual, etc. not just the regular physical death you think of.) Those people who are truly "saved" and living daily in a relationship with Jesus Christ through His presence in our lives will WANT to or be motivated to "do the right thing" because we want to please Him. Those who claim Christianity as only a Sunday service or social lifestyle simply will not find the strength or reason, when it comes down to temptation, to do the right thing, or they do it for the wrong reason only to give in later. The reason is that they have not really "meet" Jesus Christ and confronted their need for salvation in a sincere way or they have, but they choose the religious box over the relationship that changes a life.
I hope that helps a little. I applaud you in your stand for No Sex Before Marriage. That is an honorable decision that is too foreign in today's society.
2006-11-25 05:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer. These women or men are promiscuous and are not good Christians. There is nothing in the bible that promotes sex before marriage. Women from Muslim families do the same thing. They just are not open about it. They and their families hide it, don't talk about it. Did you know that iin the middle east if a women has premarital sex their families will take her to the doctor to re-attach their hymens so they can still claim virginity. You should get wise fast and get the heck away from your Muslim cult. The supposed prophet you are following was a criminal and a typical cult leader just like Jim Jones. How could you go from Christianity to Islam. You have gone to the dark side. Study hard and you will receive an awakening. Do it before it is too late. Start with news.faithfreedom.org.
2006-11-25 05:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That used to not be permitted by at least Protestant churches. The Bible says sex is to be saved until marriage, for one's spouse. Previously, a minister would refuse to marry them if he knew they were intimate before marriage. In long ago times, the couple would even have to stand in front of the congregation to repent and apologize.
Times have changed (since the late 1960s with civil rights and then everyone else getting "rights"). Psychologists say it's very healthy to have a number of sexual encounters before marriage, so the person is sure he or she will be marrying the "right one". Plus, psychologists add that humans are sexual creatures; consensual sex is good and enjoyable and healthy. This opened the door to just about anything sexual.
In the past, if one minister wouldn't marry them, a living-together couple would find a minister who would. Now, most ministers are not at all concerned with the sexual behavior of the couple who's planning a wedding. I guess there is mostly relief that the couple is "going to make things right" by finally getting married.
This is one good example of how social and personal preferences have changed how the Christian Church operates.
2006-11-25 05:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by masha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an old lady and it was different when I was a teen and young adult. I was raised and it was expected by society that you would be a virgin until marriage. The sexual revolution took place in the 1970's and we all had to show that we were "liberated" and modern. But before that a proper young woman waited till marriage. Part of it is the fact that the birth control pill also gave women the freedom they didn't have before.
When I became a Christian in the early 1980's I was shocked by the number of young Christian women who didn't think anything of having sex before marriage. It is just part of the American culture now, just as chasity was part of it in the 1950's and early 60's.
2006-11-25 05:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Did you notice Ken's response as he referenced the illustration at Matthew 13? Matthew 13:24-43 should be required reading for every professing Christian.
The truth is Jesus long ago foretold that there would be true Christians and there would be counterfeit Christians - which is to say fake Christians - which is to say, not Christian at all. Counterfeit money looks just like real money doesn't it? And the weeds of Jesus' illustration looked and acted like wheat. But at the harvest, it becomes very obvious what is wheat and what are weeds.
We are in the harvest time. Clearly, any person who practices fornication is not a Christian.
Hannah
2006-11-25 05:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah J Paul 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The term is American Christian- it is just a trend. It is a clash between societal values and basic christian beliefs. Along with the trend of sex (but not promiscuity) before marriage is also use of contraceptives and not going to church regularly, but still considering themselves a devout christian.
Hope this helped.
2006-11-25 05:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not know why it is so. I am a Jew, not a Christan, and most of the women I know are 50 or older---out of the range of the age you are talking about.
But, I read that today 40% of the babies are born out of wedlock, and that nearly 1/2 of couples live together before marriage---if they ever marry. It is the trend. I think so many marriages fail, they do not have much use for it.
2006-11-25 05:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Shossi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you misunderstand what 'boyfriend' means to a Christian woman, because most of the people I know do not have sex before marriage. In fact it causes a bit of a problem because they are so anxious to have sex they will marry the first man that wants them just to have it! lol and we all know that is totally the wrong reason to get married!
I've had many boyfriends, but no I did not sleep with them. Seriously, I would question the Christianity of your friend for making fun of you for abstaining until marriage.
2006-11-25 05:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Very few of the American population is Christian these days. The majority of people are Agnostic I would think. True Christians are not promiscuous
2006-11-25 05:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Midge 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of let me say there are a lot of people who claim to Christians who simply aren't. Even Jesus said in scripture that 'many call my name but I knew them not' (paraphrased). The Bible very clearly states premaritail sex is wrong. But today's society doesn't want to listen to that. In a society where sex is expected, it is difficult for Christian women to stick their beliefs, not to mention the physical temptation itself. But it is still wrong. I was sexually active before marriage, but was not "saved" yet. I became a Christian at the age of 20. I then met my now husband at a church singles group. And I did not have sex with him until our honeymoon. It was very difficult to stick to my new found belief. But I am so glad that I did. (Even though my Christian boyfriend/ now hubby pressured me to give into the lust.) Sin is tempting or it wouldn't be sin. But as Christains we should know that is wrong whether we obey or not. Jesus paid the price for our sins but to intentally sin is another matter and there are reprocutions. And even though Jesus paid the eternal price for our sins we still 'reap' the cost of the sin we 'sow' in our lives. I try not to judge people, Christain or not, because we all have sinned and no one is perfect. I was that way once, too. Now I pray for them.
2006-11-25 05:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by klein1017 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋