When you dont have time to plan a wedding because of work, is Justice of the Peace a good idea until you can plan a big wedding? or do people "forget about it" and end up not doing the big wedding after a while?? Im deployed right now, so we dont have a choice...
2006-11-25 05:17:33 · 10 answers · asked by JULIA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We were married by a Justice of the Peace - called a "marriage commissioner" where we live. It was quite beautiful. We were married outside, overlooking the Atlantic Ocean. The man who did our ceremony was very dignified and contributed tremendously to the ceremony. It is not the size of the wedding that matters - it is the commitment being made by the couple getting married.
2006-11-25 05:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people have the big wedding, others don't, and some do a vow renewal for an anniversary.
But never discount the act of marriage, whether it is a big fanfare or just the bride and groom; your first wedding or a renewal.
Why don't you find an officiant or your chaplain, and plan a small intimate wedding with a few friends to share in the happy occasion.
If you then choose to have the "big" wedding you can do so when you get home.
2006-11-25 13:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really just depends on what your priority is right now. Is it more important to have a wedding or to be married to your fiance? You also have to consider your religious beliefs, does your church require a religious ceremony? You should talk to your religious leader and ask for their suggestion. Some churches might suggest that your not fully recreate the marriage ceremony, just have it blessed by a minister. Many people who get married when the are at a distance from their home opt to have a reception or a shower when they return.
2006-11-25 13:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by jc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A JP is perfectly fine! That's how we got married. It was a ceremony in a nice chapel-like setting in the building, not in front of a desk. We both had one family member stand up with each of us. It was really nice.
We were planning a bigger wedding, but it was too darned expensive. He looked at me and said why don't we just get married and forget about the ceremony? And we did!
For our second anniversary we'll probably host a dinner at our house for people who weren't there at the JP.
2006-11-25 16:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a great idea. As long as you are happy and with the one you want to marry, it doesnt matter if you have a big wedding. If you want, maybe you could have your mom or someone plan a reception for you guys. Thats always the most fun part anyways, and it doesnt have to cost huge amounts. Mine was about 1500 for 50 people.
2006-11-25 14:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Nolie ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people go this route. Choosing a Justice of the Peace is a perfect option in your case especially in your case.
Many people choose to have a small ceremony for close friends and family, or just for themselves, and then have a larger reception on their first anniversary.
In your case, it makes the most sense to say your vows before you leave, so that this is one less thing on your mind as you are serving your country in its time of need.
Congratualtions and good luck, may we see you home again safely in the near future.
Steiphyn
2006-11-25 13:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Steiphyn Daemon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Justice of the Peace is a great way to get married. It takes nothing at all away from your commitment and love for each other. And for those who aren't religious, its not in the least hypocritical like so many people who make phony vows to God in front of hundreds of family & friends. (I believe that if you don't intend to invite God into the daily life of your marriage, don't invite him to the ceremony and make him a bunch of promises.) That is not to say that EVERYONE who gets married by a J.O.T.P. is non-religious or hypocritical (there's many valid reasons), but there are a lot of them out there.
Whichever way you do it, best of luck to you both!!!
2006-11-25 14:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter weather you get married by the justice of the peace or by your Rabi or minister or priest. If this is the time when you want it to happen than do it. as for forgetting about it later, most of the time people don't bother, to go ahead with the big elaborate celebration. Good luck!! :) be happy!! and God Bless!
2006-11-25 13:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by monkeybread 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can do whatever you want to do!
Have a small wedding first. Then when and if you want you can always go back and have a big party. If you have the small wedding you have no obligation to have a big one later unless you want to. Maybe you want to wait and have a blow out 5th anniversary party!
2006-11-29 12:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with getting married that way besides where you get married and how much is spent doesn't make the marriage work in the long run as long as both people are in love and willing to make it forever thats all that matters.
2006-11-25 13:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by dat_gurl01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋