How would you handle being told a fairytale? see below?

Question

I grew up in a large family and I was basically told when I was engaged that if I waited until I was married and had sex inside a marriage setting I would be blessed. My mom never had to work outside the home and my father was loaded where he made a lot of money.

I am blessed but have gone thorugh hardships and hurt that my parents never really had to experience, but I felt angry and at times hurt that I was not told the REAL truth about marriage about how hard it can be at times. I came to my mom when I found out how babies were made she never really sat down and talked to be about anything. I dont fault my parents they did a good job raising us all these kids.

My question is how do I help others in my family who are being fairytaled that if they do good they will be blessed with no problems? My neices and nephews when they graduate are in for an awakeing a rude one.

How can I now accept the things I cannot change and courage to change the things I can? Thank you.

Answer 1

re:-How can I now accept the things I cannot change and courage to change the things I can?

First of all - God can change anything and any situation in the blink of an eye. The human mind only believe what it sees and thats why you cannot go past your situation. The fact is God can change anything at anytime, when you apply some real faith.Do not give God a time table to make that change.Just give him the problem and let God work out the rest;
I believe that is one important thing you need to get through to your mind and that is God can do anything

Matthew 19:26
26-Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.

I myself grew up in a large family. My family was very Christian and yet we had many, many struggles. My parents were very poor and didn't have much as kids. By age 13 my mom who was a devout Christian was hit by a car while she was walking on a street. My mom survived but she was left physically and very mentally ill. She was never the same again and has been in and out of mental hospitals because of the head inuries she sustained from her accident.

I was told everything you were told about Gods blessings and the are all true, however God's word never tells us we will be free from problems and difficulties.

Alot of these problems my family had were thier own fault and not God's.It is really hard to explain this.We live in a world of evil and it is controlled by the devil, God has given evey defense against this evil, but we must follow God's guidlines to achieve the right outcome.You cannot serve God just half way and excpect to receive his blessings.

If you study the scriptures very closely you will find a perfect outline of how we need to be in our Christian lives in order to receive God's blessings both spiritually,physically and financially.

Mu husband and I decided to change and follow that exact outline and I can tell you we went from a very despaired life into a very blessed life. We went from being very financially ruined to being restored. We went from being spiritually dry to being filled with God's promises that God does give.

I am not a preacher or some Celebrity Life Coach. I am just a regualer person who chose to believe God's words and in return God proved himself. This is called faith! It really does work and this is no FAIRY TALE!

The bible says Without faith it is impossible to please God."—Hebrews 11:6.

When you don't have faith then you will NOT receive blessings.

Many people live in total despair because on the outside they tell you they have faith but on the inside on the heart they have doubt

The best scripture to support this is
James 1:-6-8
6-But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
7-For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.
8-A double minded man [is] unstable in all his ways.

standing by God in Faith will help you through problems

Answer 2

I feel where you're coming from. Granted, my situation was not exactly the same as yours- both of my parents worked, for instance. But they were sheltered, just as your folks were. As a result, they were not equipped to deal with the way the world really turns. When I went through an abusive relationship some years back, they had no idea just how bad things were until I got out(and the ex started stalking me in person and harassing them on the phone). You can begin with your nieces and nephews by arranging quality time with them, casually mentioning what you've been through at some point, and taking it from there. Chances are, they'll be relieved to know that someone is taking the time to lay out the truth. And I'd hazard a guess they'll soon be telling their own horror stories. Granted, you can't control what they experience. But at least they will be able to cope better when they know what the real deal is.

Answer 3

Im sorry to hear about that. But you have to let them know that life is hard is not easy. Marrage is also hard because we married with someone that we meet for few years or month and the time does not guarantee happiness.

The best way to be happy in marrage is been sicere, talk alwyas with your with or husband, let then know what you like and what you dont like, respect others people opinion.

Thats the only thing you can do. And let me tell you something and sorrry if I ofend you but NO YOUR FAMILY DIDNT RAISE CORRECT, BECAUSE THEY LIE TO YOU AND THE FAMILY,

WHEN YOU GROW WITH LIE IS DANGER, BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW WHAT GOIN TO HAPPEN, AND THIS IS WHAT IS HEPPENING KNOW. SO AS I SAID JUST BECUASE YOU NOT STILL, OR DO BAD THINGS MEAN YOUR PARENT DID GOOD. NO IS PART BUT SORRY NO.

YAour job if you want to talk about this with your other family, talk about your own experience, and take your wife and few friends good friends, to talk about this BIG LIE.

Answer 4

Simply tell them the truth. As a Christian, my life is also filled with hardships. God never says He's going to make my life a bed of roses, He just says He'll always be there for me helping me through it.

I believe that every hardship that comes your way is an opportunity to learn and grow. The Marines have a saying "Pain is just weakness leaving the body". It holds true physically as well as mentally.

Answer 5

life is full of good and bad, just like a wheel turning. the good times are there to help one get through the bad and the bad times are there to help one appreciate the good. there is an old Cherokee legend that states each of us have two wolves inside us one represents good the other represents evil. the one that is winning is the one we feed the most. do what you believe in your heart is the right thing to do and you will be feeding the good wolf. good luck.

Answer 6

Just be up front, and don't lie, that is the best policy. A marriage is not blessed, it only works when both the man, and the woman try their best, love each other whole-heartily, have trust, and communication.

Answer 7

You gave yourself the answer with your last paragraph, just remove the words "How can".

Your answer is this affirmation. Repeat it daily and you will make it through:

I now accept the things I cannot change and courage to change the things I can.

Answer 8

If you are be tempted or if hard times come upon you and you are doing your best to obey God, it is because satan wants you to blame God instead of praising Him. Why praise Him? Because He loves you so much that He is wiling to let you exercise your faith in Him so that He can show you His mighty works. That is why. Study your Bible, it will tell you this same thing, and much, much more.

Answer 9

Tell them what you just explained to us on this forum.

Not to discourage but explain your situation and how you only want better for them.

There is no fairytale and all marriages have to work at them to survive, when you have kids talk to them like little people, instead of mindless children. They are like sponges and absorb everything.

Answer 10

Actually, I do think that's a fairly good summary. I can not even BELIEVE the amount of people here that actually think Satanism worships the Christian idea of the Devil. (LaVeyan) Satanists are atheists, and consinder themselevs to be their own "God."