There is this guy that i had been hanging around with..we hung out for about 1 n a half months..jus roaming here n there, messing around, gettin sexualy involved..then he moved to another state..i started to realy like this guy, but he is a detach noncommitment type(as he says)..but 4 thanksgiving he came all the way from new york to c me n jus spend time w/ me...altho i dont know if he came jus 4 the sexual stuff..or DOes he realy like me? wen he was here..we had sex, but we also hung out..went to movies..went to beach n kissed there..went to restaurants..n the whole night i stayed with him in the motel n he wud take me in his arms n kiss me and all that..and we also made jokes n lafed..ALl i wanna know IS..DOES THIS GUY LIKE ME? AND HAVE ANY SORT OF AFFECTION/LOVE FOR ME? OR IS HE JUST HERE TO PASS HIS TIME..? i knw once he goes back to his state he will try to holler at other girls and that is really realy making me depresesd bcoz i like him.
2006-11-25 04:27:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But i cannot tell him to stop flirting wit other girls bcoz we r not committed..BUT if he does not want to get committed and does not Like me then why is he doing all this..kissing me, spending time with me..coming in my arms..?? SO what Do u guys THink? DOES HE Like me?? what shud i do about his flirting..how should i handle that..?
2006-11-25 04:28:48 · update #1
BTW- He came al the way from NY to Texas to c me n spend time and He has many friends here in Texas, but he didnt even meet Any one of them..spent the whole 2 days roaming around with me...WHat DO U GUYS THINK>>DOES HE HAVE SOME FEELINGS FOR ME??
2006-11-25 04:30:47 · update #2
I think he is 50% and 50%. If just for sex, he could have it in N.Y., but if he was for love, he wouldn't just leave you alone until Thanksgiving day...Basically, he's lost and confused...
2006-11-25 04:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummm? Talk to him if you guys are such good friends! I'd like to know why he moved to another state? Also, was it just you he came back to see on Thanksgiving or does he have family in your town? Maybe he feels like you are family to him if he came back just to be with you. Is he coming back for Christmas? I don't know how old you are, but I have been where you are, and someone left me to move to another town and the relationship slowly faded away. It turned out not to be a bad thing becasue I found someone else waaaaay better:) I truly believe that all things happen for a reason even if it is not exactly what we want at that time. Hang in there...time will give you your answer:) God bless you...
2006-11-25 12:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by zoomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, You know guys can be sweet when they want something . Sex & love can be easily confused- but - they are not the same thing. Let me ask you ,what if you didn't give him sex the next time how would he treat you. If he truly loves you then nothing else would be more important than you. So what's more important to him?...your body or your heart? You know he could be a player...living in New York gives him a lot of opportunities to cheat & you not know it. Every relationship will be tested & that's what's going on now...Tell him yes to love & no to sex..and you will see his true nature..now is the time to find out if you're getting played or not...good luck ..bye bye
2006-11-25 12:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I would have to say that he obviously doesn't want a commited relationship right now. I'm sure that he likes you and likes your company...but he doesn't seem to be anyone who wants to settle down at this point, not saying it couldn't happen in the future. I wouldn't get my hopes up. If you ARE looking for a commited relationship, then I would move on. You aren't going to find it here. But if you are just looking to have fun and enjoy his company, then I say why not? But don't expect a lot. If he's dating other girls while he's away then keep your options open too. Good luck!
2006-11-25 12:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question now is, do u really like him and would like to get commited to this guy? or u prefer just uncommited relationship and just hang around.
If you really like him and want a commitment then ask him urself that question if he is really. Please dont hurt yourself by assuming he likes you. The best way to find out is talking to him sincerely how you feel. He might be feeling the same way but afraid to admit ,,,so be brave and ask.
If he says otherwise that he prefers just uncommitment, move on, dont get attached too much with uncommitted relationship and hurt urself. You are special when u start treating urself special. Act now before its way too late. Talk things out.
2006-11-25 12:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((EXHALE))) (((SIGH)))!!! Regardless if you he came to visit you for the holidays and whispered sweet nothings in your ear..he doesn't have a commitment to you, period. You've given the best of who you are, he gets to come into town at his leisure and leave again with no responsibilities.I'm sure you are a smart, attractive girl who's a blast to be around so of course he likes spending time with you. But even with all your qualities you've removed the incentive of him seeking you and winning you over. You offered him your mind and your body within a month of dating. Why should he commit to you? Why should he even respect you? Don't be depressed, take it as lesson and keep it moving. No one on this earth's surface is perfect and you are not your mistakes. Don't waste time with regret and hoping another person will become who you want them to be. People do what they want in their own time and based on their own desires. If he wanted to be your man regardless of the distance he would be and nothing would stop him from stepping up to the plate. You've given him all of the benefits of the relationship already but he gets to use you whenever he wants and just leave. At what point are you honored or valued in this situation? You need to stop all this nonsense and move on. You need to understand as bad as you feel now you won't feel this way forever. I bet if you spent any significant amount of time away from him you would completely forget about him or best yet come to your senses.
2006-11-25 12:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems everyone sums of things pretty well up, :-), all i can come is a small story.... maybe holding someone is like to force a bird into a cage or grasp a handful of sands.... never you will earn any...
every man has their own world,... life, destiny , purpose, goals and promises towards himself or others, and he will fly someday... he will.
But after he flies far enough,... high enough. while he is tired, and lonely. while he realized that the world is so much a just that... he WILL go back home... a home where he can recharge his battery, get himself back up to fly again. a home where he can feel comfortable in,... where he can find a peace of his mind, and MAYBE... maybe he has found one....
but a painful reality is that he will have to get on with lifes and you sure must... if you can hang on to what you believe, wish him to stay one day.. all the luck in the world i wish for you..
2006-11-25 12:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kentz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much just have to let him go back and see if he stays in touch. If he calls or emails you just to talk or see how you're doing, he probably really likes you. If you don't hear from him again until he says he is coming to see you than he probably is in it for one thing and although it seems he enjoys the time you spend together it doesn't look like he is into making a future with you.
2006-11-25 12:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have u asked him if he wants to get commited to you? u should talk to him and ask him how he is feeling and what this means to him. if you think he might be all into the physical stuff, well next time he comes down, just tell him you want to talk more, and less of the other stuff. and say you arent ready to have sex again until you know for sure that he is going to stay with you and only you.
2006-11-25 12:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Whatevahh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to hurt but you must know............... you are a booty call, a convenient piece that he can get when hes in town. Any affection he show you is insurance for another booty call. Forget about him before you get hurt even more. Sorry babe, Good luck.
2006-11-25 12:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋