hi, my name is brittany (my real name is Stephani) i have 4 bros. and 1 sis.i'm 13 years old and i hate my bros. because they hate me!they don't like me.
Joe is 11 years old, Jessert is 9 years old, brad is 6 years old (he have a problem in communicating with ppl), Vanessa is 2 years old and my new babyborn brother steven, he's 1 week old.
My mother is sometimes so rude she won't allowed me to do something except studying, and my dad is kind and loves to make fun of me and my bros.
i feel that my family hates me, i feel everyone ignores me, they don't want to me to join them when they are togather, i feel my mother doesn't care about me when i need her.
today i told my father that my glasses are broken, he said that i don't need glasses, i just want to attract them, and made fun of me infront all my bros. and they laughed and when i went to my room hurted no one cared about me...
and when i go to school, my bros joe comes to my room and plays with my stuff, he plays my CD he broke my CD player once, he uses my eyeshawdow to paint!
i'm fed up with this family!what can i do to improve my relationship with my bros. and stop fighting for such things!?????
2006-11-25 04:19:47 · 11 answers · asked by Joelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I hope this is more in your head and not a reality. Shouldn't Joe be in school along with you? You are probably very mature and you family maybe want you to slow down and not grow up so fast. Sounds like your mom has her hands full to the max with all of your younger siblings.
Maybe you should be glad that you are not the "glorified babysitter" for your younger siblings, although, you are at the age of helping your mom out with them.
Younger brothers are natural born "pest", they can't help themselves but they usually turn out to be the best brothers a girl can ask for. One day, everyone will be grown and hopefully, you all will have a close relationship.
When I was 6 my brother came along and I loved him dearly until he learned to walk and talk, then I did not like him so much anymore. He got into my stuff and took things apart just to see what made it work. I WAS ANGRY!!! As we got older, we had our little fights but no one out on the street could fight my brother. I mean no one!! Today, we are all grown now and we love each other for life!! Been like that all of our lives but we had to grow up in order to see it.
So, in other words it will get better. Your dad just has a sense of humor, laugh with them and loosen up and have some fun. If you laugh with them, they will find someone else to 'pick on' and you can join in and laugh about the other person. You are too young to be so uptight eventhough you are at that tender age of maturing and still a little girl. Your mom and dad want to hold on to that little girl. That is natural also and it will pass soon enough.
How you and your siblings turn out when your adults is going to depend on how you are towards each other today. Give your brothers some attention (brothers need that from sisters). Play games together, board games, uno, something like that. When you join with them, come ready to have some fun and smile and laugh and bring joy with you.
Put your eye shadow up (at age 13, you should not be wearing eye shadow anyway) but whatever, put your personal stuff like that up so he cannot get into it. For a joke, ask Joe if he want to put some on, that will keep him out of it for sure! :D
Sit down and write a heart felt, how you feel about things and your pesty brothers letter to your parents and hopefully they will stop for a moment and listen to what you have to say.
This sounds more like "growing pains" and you might want to appreciate who you have around you and at least smile when they laugh sometimes, even if you don't want too.
Hope this helps and good luck to you!! ;D
2006-11-25 04:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by geminisista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God you poor kid, there is nothing worse than being ignored in your own family. you can come and live here, you would not be the youngest or oldest.
I wonder if your parents really had a clue how you were feeling if they would treat you so unkindly. YOur mom has a newborn and a 2 yr. old so she is busy, but that is no excuse to ignore her first baby girl.
Try writing things out in a letter and send it to your dad at work maybe. Live a copt so your mom will read it when she is to bed by her night stand.
You have the right to be respected and your things too in your own home. You could put a lock on your door for when you are in school.
2006-11-25 12:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hide stuff that your brother can get into. Know that your mom and dad are probably overwhelmed by so many kids in the family and just give it time. Your mom just had a baby, this makes moms sort of crazy for awhile. Just try and be nice, this will all change in a few years.
2006-11-25 13:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem, except i am older and have one brother and he is older. i hate to say this but you're going to have problems with your family till you move out. don't think that they don't love you, they do but they just aren't good at showing it. that's how my family is. and your brothers love you, they just like to show it in an annoying way. that's how my brother is and when yours grow older, you can see that when you're gone away for a while and come back, they've missed you a lot. but i'd just say to try your best to not let them bother you too bad. try to ignore your brothers and try to mind ur parents as much as u can (it feels impossible to me but im tryin! lol)
2006-11-25 12:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Whatevahh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... what you need to do is call up a family meeting and ech one of your bros how you feel and same with mom and dad (good luck best wishes) if you need more help e-mail adeli0000@yahoo.com
2006-11-25 12:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much.Just wait untill you're 18 and move out of the house.
2006-11-25 12:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call a meeting with mom +dad tell them how you feeling I grow up with five sisters hang in their and stick to your guns
2006-11-25 13:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Cecil v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know much but i would talk to a social worker at your school and she/he might be able to give you advice or talk to your family and then she/he can get them some help on your family propblem
2006-11-25 12:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by jellomymello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting them do this to you, their younger than you. Maybe your parents are going though a phase.
2006-11-25 12:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are younger than you, you are older than them. your brothers aren't the boss of you, (i repeat) you are older than them!!! and your mother is probably just trying to take care of the younger ones first. you have been taught already so its their turn.
2006-11-25 12:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋