I just think love is weak and it disgusts me. I always want to be strong and tough, like a dictator. I want to be alone the rest of my life with no one with me. I have never loved anyone, not even my parents. I gave up trying to get a girl, and I didn't even ask a girl out because I view myself as stupid and unattractive, but everyone tells me I'm attractive, so I don't want to embarass myself. If some girl asked me out, I would just say no. I view everything as a battle, and I think being in love as losing a battle. I just want to hit everybody I see making out or holding hands. I would feel like yelling at a girl if she asked me out. I would try to make her feel bad and make her not be interested in me. What is my problem.
2006-11-25 04:13:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are dating the wrong girls.(Have you tried dating christian girls?
(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
2006-11-25 04:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by StaR'in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a pretty complicated question for a forum like this, but I'll try to help. First of all, your general attitude sounds like a knee-jerk reaction to having been hurt. Not necessarily in a romantic situation, but by someone you trusted, perhaps.
I'm not sure why you view yourself as stupid and unattractive. There are all sorts of things behind low self esteem. This is definitely going to be a thorn in your side in relationships, though (of any kind). I suggest you spend some time getting to know yourself really well. Find positive things about yourself and focus on those points and on achieving personal goals that will help you feel good about yourself.
I'm a bit concerned about your level of aggression, but at least you say you *want* to hit people, and not that you *do*. Once again, it's the knee-jerk reaction. I've experienced it myself, i.e. that 'get them before they get me' feeling. After a while I looked at each situation from the outside (inasmuch as one can) and asked myself what the worst case scenario was. If I ask someone out, the worst they can do is say 'no'. Not the desired result, but not crushing, either. If I get together with said person, they may hurt me. Again, not fun, but it has happened and I grew much stronger and able to cope with (and balance) life and my own emotions.
Experience will teach you a lot, and you won't gain it by closing yourself off, I'm afraid. Tried that, and got well and truly lost in my own paranoia.
Can't say much more than that, other than I respect your admission that this is a problem, and your decision to confront it. My e-mail's open if you want to discuss it further.
2006-11-25 04:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the Girl Next Door? (put emphasis on the word "just" and include question mark. Say as if a question.) Or maybe....Invisible-or not? 4 days in the woods There is more then meets the Eye: A story of two people who {thought} they hated each other. Well-that's all I've got. And your story isn't ALL that crappy.
2016-05-23 01:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of getting hurt. I wouldn't mind being friends with someone like that. You have strong thoughts and opinions, which is a good quality. That is fine because nobody can tell you to marry someone. You have the right to do whatever you please. So live your life the way you want to live it and everything will be all right.
2006-11-25 04:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by sPrInG LiLY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to look into your past and figure out what's got you so "anti-love". I can sympathise with you a tiny bit except for the part about parents. I love my moma to death! Anyway, I think you definitely should seek help because you don't sound very happy with anyone, including yourself.
2006-11-25 04:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of rejection terrifies you. Understandable! The feeling of rejection and to be made to feel you are not good enough is more than some people can bare...re: suicide. Do what is best for you. But..It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all!
2006-11-25 07:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your affraid of commitmint becuase you dont want to get hurt if something goes wrong. you need to learn how to let somebody into your heart. your probably a great guy and you deserve a great girl. dont make her feel bad if you say know, it takes alot of corage to ask somebody out and to be put down in such a harsh way, just dont do it.
2006-11-25 04:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know you wont like it if you have never tried???
Yes, you will get hurt, you're heart will get broken, but trust me its worth it!!! most times anyway, so just give it a go, you never know, you might change ur mind!!!
And please dont jell at girls that ask you out!! its rude and mean and they have done nothing to deserve this!!!!
2006-11-25 04:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by Simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay (take deep breath before proceeding), Do you hate the idea of love or do you love the idea of hating?
2006-11-25 04:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by terry t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your juss a hit it n quit it kind of guy that aint in stuff fer love..or something
2006-11-25 04:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by cheerb00ty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋