this guy that i'm kind of seeing always asks me to share my feelings for him.. he told me to write him an email expressing myself and i did, but he hasn't replied! i've seen him since and he's been acting nice and flirtatious. why does he want me revealing my feelings, yet he won't reveal his! help
2006-11-25 04:09:01 · 16 answers · asked by chocy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*Tell him it goes both ways*
2006-11-25 04:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by bor_rabnud 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if he's playing with you. Why send an email rather than hear you say it live and in person..does he need evidence or proof to keep in his possession? Both guys and girls play these types of games to get the other reveal their cards. Revealing your cards too soon or without reciprocation allows the other person an upperhand, an advantage. They know where they stand with you and put you in a position to worry, wonder and hope..like you're doing now. He doesn't need to know what's in your heart if he can't communicate with you at the very least or even make a commitment to you. It's obvious you're "dating" or just friends. Why does he NEED you to share your feelings. You need to think about his motivation before you abide by his requests. You need to protect yourself a little better. Your best bet at this point is to back up and let him communicate with you if he ever will. He will come for you if you're what he wants and he shares mutual feelings. I hope hope hope you haven't been physical with him yet. If so you're headed down a long road of heartbreak if you would give so much of yourself with nothing in return. You need to make the guy rise up to your expectations and not his. In any relationship there is compromise but you can't compromise basic requirements and needs.
2006-11-25 12:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is 2006, yet a guy should reveal his feelings first. It's not a game, simply a fact revealed through centuries. A guy pursues a woman, reveals his intentions, feelings and a woman decides if she wants to allow him more in her 'air space' . You guys reading this...don't get all annoyed with this...you know it's true. I feel the concept of a man pursuing and letting a woman know his intentions, courting her, being patient to allow the environment of comfortably coming to know each other is sadly and unwisely overlooked. You are a woman, value yourself and another, honor, respect and treasure a man...yet you are the woman...a man should always pursue you...even after marriage and you in turn honor, cherish and nurture your shared relationship. We women need to (lovingly) educate and re-teach men the ways to respectfully and honorably pursue and cherish a woman. And...yes men...woman are to be equally honoring and cherishing of you also. This guy on your path now...close your door to him...he should seek to even be invited in the 'air space' of your environment.
2006-11-25 12:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should also ask him to reveal his feelings to you, it works both ways, or maybe he's abit scared and that's why he really wants to know how you are feeling
2006-11-25 12:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be that he isnt comfortable with sharing his feelings. it's a red flag to me, really. talk to him and let him know that you deserve an answer to your email, rather than the nice and flirty behavior. tell him that you need to hear how he feels, not just by his actions. you'll know what you need to do when you hear his reaction to your request.
2006-11-25 12:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by maggiemae821 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have done that in my opinion. If you ask him to also write about his feelings for you and refuses for whatever reason, you should end it with him.
2006-11-25 12:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because its better to be the second.
if he revealed his feelings for you first. he mite be afraid of ur reaction so i guess he wanted you to go first and i think he likes you.
so maybe he does think postively of the feelings you wrote to him.
just let things untangle themselves.
and it will go fine
2006-11-25 12:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is just the way some men are
2006-11-25 12:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well guys are usely shy and they might want to know your feeling but not share theres!! i know how you feel and i know its not a good feeling bcuz you think he hate you and will not show his feeling!!! but he likes you if he did not he woundnt have asked you that Q!!!
2006-11-25 12:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are from Venus; men are from Mars. What more can I say?
2006-11-25 12:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by Texana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really strange crazy beats me sorry not to be that much help
2006-11-25 12:12:54 · answer #11 · answered by sarah h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋