i am an 8th grader who is dateing a junior (11th grade) and alot of people think its not a good idea but if u really like someone age shouldnt matter right..... well what do u think..............and hes not the type of person that would pressure me 2 do anything because we are the same "pace" if u kno what i mean and we have alot in common but im still not sure..........plez help!
2006-11-25 03:48:44 · 30 answers · asked by minnesota sweetheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when youre not street legal and they are, or a lot closer, its a lot more of an issue....when youre my age not so much.
2006-11-25 03:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how but or why somehow you've convinced yourself at the age of 13/14yo a 16/17yo is on the same "pace" as you. If he is in fact on the same "pace" as you, whatever that means he has a problem. He should be on the level where is beginning to plan for his future..what college should he attend..when to register for the SAT's..should he get a job...you're more than likely just beginning to start puberty and learning more about who you and what you want from your life. I'm hope I'm not sounding too preachy but you have your whole, entire life ahead of you. Try being "friends", not dating. There should be no rush to be serious or have a title. Developing a friendship first will prove to be very valuable in the long run. You'll actually end of knowing the person beyond the butterflies and see whether you are actually compatible in the long run without getting your feelings hurt or being too involved.
And a good of rule of thumb is to always remember...doubt means don't. If you've wavering over something is a good decision whether or not your friends are encouraging or discouraging you..it's not a good decision. You're second guessing yourself for a reason. Please don't let him convince you of anything different. Follow your mind first, not your heart and what you believe at your age to be "feelings" cause feelings come and go.
2006-11-25 12:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were 18 and he was 3 years older, the age difference wouldn't be much of an issue. In the 8th grade, dating a boy in the 11th grade makes a huge difference. In another year you will be entering high school and he will be going off to college. Your interest are much more different than you may recognize now. A boy in the 7th, 8th or 9th grade is much more appropriate for you now. Have Fun. Enjoy being young.
2006-11-25 11:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell by the way you asked this question you thought about it for awhile . That tells me your not running head first into something . Good . What do your folks think of this guy your going with ? Do they like him . Or are they part of the problem ? I think that he isn't to old for you . But you have to think that when your just starting high school he will be graduating the same year . If he goes to collage what are you going to do with your time when he is gone ? And if he is gone off to school what about the dances and school activities that need you to have a date ? Are you going to except ? Or are you going to set home and let your life go by . Again NO I don't think he is to old . Your friends may be jealous of him being a older guy . You know how romantic and all . But you have to think about your self . How do you feel ? How does he feel ? Your a smart kid . I commend you on that . If your Mom and Dad are OK with him . And you like him . It's a good thing . But think about the things I said above . Good luck . Your a good kid .
2006-11-25 12:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only a 3 year difference between you, but at this point in your life, 3 years is a long time. It will be less important as you get older, but right now, you might just want to concentrate on other things. You have plenty of time for love, sex, and all that other stuff. You are young, and what you do now will remain with you, especially if the choices you make are wrong. You will look back and maybe regret doing things you weren't ready for, or doing things with people that you wish you didn't. Do what you wish, but be careful.
2006-11-25 11:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by FRANKFUSS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, a lot of people are gonna tell you this is wrong, but i know exactly how you feel. trust me i fell in love with a junior when i was in 8th grade too! he respected my choices and never pressured me to do anything, we werent actually "going out" but might as well have been. A lot of girls like older guys because the guys our age are just too immature. Him and I eventually went seperate ways, but it was my best relationship ever. We are still very close friends.
2006-11-25 11:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry honey but you are too young to be dating an 11th grader. It seems to me that this guy is up to no good. Once you're in high school and you see what the guys are like you'll know what I mean. Be careful and take care.
2006-11-25 11:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, it would be in your best interest to end the relationship.
Age does matter -- when you're 8th grade.
Go for someone more your age. Although he might not seem like the pressuring type, he might turn into one.
2006-11-25 11:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by small one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think I would allow one of my daughters to date someone 3 years older then them. Age doesn't mean anything after both parties are over the age of 18. If he is a decent guy and your parents are aware of the situation and know him I guess it could be alright.
2006-11-25 11:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, I say that as teenagers go, that is a bit of an age difference. As adults it is different because both parties have grown up. Age shouldnt matter but sometimes it does. I would take it very slow.....at his age, he might try to pressure you for sex even though yuou say its not so.
2006-11-25 11:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about age, its about beng readu for what you aregeting doing. I have a senior and she has dated only once and after it failed she took her schol wok very serioulsy and she i like after school, I will be ready..
If school is ot important to you, and your parenst dont care that you ar relating then I guess ou have to make your bst choices...the workd will judge.
For most parenst they want the best for their childrn...school comes first and other things second.. and for you too when you are all grown and you got children i wonder whether ths is what you would wnat for them...
Do what is right....choose smartly....you will need these choices, or they wl determine your destiny...
Good luck..
2006-11-25 11:54:13 · answer #11 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋