I'm 18.My brother(he is 24) has a girlfriend(she is 23).She has a son,age 2.When this boy sees me he is afraid of me.He sometimes screams and hides behind his mother.But I haven't done anything to harm him or scare him.I am good-looking...How do I make him get used to me?
2006-11-25 03:42:14 · 11 answers · asked by luiza 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You have to be care full with kids that are scared of you. Try to arrange to be alone with him for an extended period, baby sit while his mom is out or what ever. Or you can get him doing somthing (im not sure what) that would cause him to get upset in some way and need to be consoled. But when that happends just make sure you are the only one around. Be real gentle and easy with him. If you move fast or act like your charging at him he will freak out and start running or scream. But once you can get him in your arms and console him, just easily tell him while your holding him thats it's ok your there. If you do it right then and get him to settle down, the he will see you as a good person. If while in the process of if it seems like its not working simply ask him why he is afraid of you. Make sure you make the point that your not going to hurt him or your not mad at him. Listen carfully to what he says. He might have seen or met some what that looks alot like you and if some somthing happened with that he might think your that person thus causing the fear.
2006-11-26 13:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by gistog2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is what you can try. the next time you are around him gather up some toys and sit on the floor and begin playing with the toys.act like you are having so much fun, he may just see that you are not a bad person and that you are having a good time and he wants to have fun too. you may have to do this a few times, but he will come around. by the way when you do sit down and do this don't try to talk him into coming over to play let him do this on his own.ps.you may look funny doing this. lol but its OK, good luck!!
2006-11-25 03:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some children are afraid of strangers even if the person tries to be friendly. You need to stay back away from the child and let him approach you in his own time. I also find sometimes you can bribe kids with food. If it's okay with his mom you can offer him some french fries or chips just to break the ice.
2006-11-25 03:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by zara01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol, the child doesn't know you, you might have dark hair or you might be exceptionally tall. My son runs in fear of my side of the family, like he knows my mom, but he doesn't like my dad, my brother, my sister, it's because they have dark hair and he never sees them. My in laws he totally loves, none of them have dark hair, he sees them a lot and he is fine going to their house. Separation anxiety is what the child has also, thinking that his mommy will leave him with you, they think of all of the possibilities they are. Get down to the child's height and play with them, standing up like a towering inferno scares them. get down and have a great time, if your brother marries this person, that means the child would become family, get to know this child. I remember when I met my husband's cousin's girlfriend's son, who was 3 at the time, he wouldn't let anyone touch him, I got down to his level and played with him. I very good with kids and I am only 20, When we get together on the holiday's I am the kid entertainer, and people get to relax and not worry about their children or grandchildrens, because they are happy when you play with them.
2006-11-25 03:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The little boy has seen someone new enter his territory(house) and he doesnt know him. His first reaction is to be scared and nervous. You have to act like you've been there before and be yourself. The more you go over to the home, the more he will feel comfertable with you being there. It's happened many times to me and other people that i know.
2006-11-25 03:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
female, i think of u by no ability many times smile at adult men good? If u by no ability try this, then that could be the main issue. As we adult men consistently waiting for women folk to grant "indicators", this is SMILE at them. Then, the adult men would be questioning, regardless of if the girl likes him or no longer. So, they are going to initiate talking to u. wish u success ^^. besides, many times some adult men like clever women, some dont like. It relies upon on what form of adult men are there in ur college.
2016-10-17 12:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are telling him you are the boogey man or something behind your back.
Try sitting quietly and ignoring him like you would a wild animal that you want to come to you. Maybe put something by you that would pique his interest. If it's really important to you, borrow someone's puppy to take with or their dog. Little boys love puppies and dogs.
2006-11-25 03:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't go up near him, just act like he doesn't exist, go sit on a couch and just watch TV or something, eventually he will warm up and get more friendly once he realizes that whatever he doesn't like about you isn't true.
2006-11-25 03:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by blayk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at two years old they are more interested in sweets and stuff but try a trick i use when i meet a new kids. stick your tongue out at him, then pull your tongue back in your mouth and stick it out again, go faces there are all kinds of stuff to do if you really want to be friends with the kid, use your own imagination
2006-11-25 04:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Eric D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just try to give him chocolates and the items he like.Try to make friendship with him with the help of your brother or his mother.
2006-11-25 03:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋