When me and my boyfriend first started going out, he brought up the subject about kids, and he asked me if I wanted kids when I got older, and I said "Yeah, I want kids". And then he said, "Are they going to be MY kids"? And all I said was" I dont know!" I know this sounds stupid, but I am kidda scarred now.And my boyfriend is 13. What should I do? And what does that mean when he asked that?
2006-11-25 03:34:06 · 26 answers · asked by Jessica D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, you are way too young to have a boyfriend. And you are way too young to be discussing with another boy if you are going to have HIS kids. I would break it off with him gently and say you are way too young to be in a relationship with someone. That is the truth. If he is scaring you and makes you feel uncomfortable then you should stay away from him.
2006-11-25 03:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by markmisslindsay 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully you guys shouldnt be THINKING of kids at this stage!! You are only 13 and 12!!! I dont blame you for being scared, he is thinking too far ahead. Im sure he probably wants to marry you, but rarely do people stay together at that age for that long. He probably means he wants to be with you and have kids with you. But its too early!!! Hes too serious at too early of a stage in a relationship. You got two choices here. Either continue seeing him and ignore the comment or leave becuase you dont want something so serious right now. Hope things work out for you.
2006-11-25 11:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im only 14, so i dont want to sound older and wiser because it wasnt too long ago i was 12. Im sure your boyfriend thinks your going to be together forever, a lot of people think that around our age. its really annoying. Just dont worry about it. Im sure he only asked that because he has this great dream you guys will get married and have kids, if he asks again just tell him, yeah if we are still together when were adults.
2006-11-25 11:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are WAY to young to even be talking about kids, and so is he, and it seems to me like you realize this, which leads me to believe you are a smart girl.
Honestly I dont think you should even have a boyfriend at this age, your in too much of a hurry to grow up. Believe me, relationships only get more complicated as you grow older. But I guess this is your decision to make and not mine. :)
I am not sure what he meant when he asked you that, but if i were to make a guess, I think he has some sort of weird idea that your relationship is going to last forever. When i was that age, i thought my first boyfriend was perfect and everything was going to be perfect, and its not. I think hes putting all of his eggs into one basket, and he is not thinking in terms of reality.
As far as the "MY kids" comment, I have no idea what he was thinking but that would scare me too. Thats not something he should be thinking about or asking you, and if he keeps pressing the topic, then get rid of him. Your way too young, you should be enjoying life, and going out and having fun. Not stressing over things like this.
Never let a boy talk you into anything your not comfortable doing.
xo
emo
2006-11-25 11:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by emoangel22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, i hate to tell you this, but 99% of the time, people won't end up marrying and having kids with the guy they dated when they were 12.
i'd suggest stop thinking so far ahead and focus on developing your social skills. enjoy this boy's company but take it one date at a time.. neither of you are old enough to be making life-long commitments to each other.. you are so young, you are just starting to realize what life is about.. just starting to understand what it feels like to have a crush..
don't even think about marriage and kids until you are at least 20!
2006-11-25 11:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Show this punk the door. You both have no idea what having children is about. For God's sake, your still kids. You should be scared, and let it be a lesson to you. And don't even think about having sex until your much older.
2006-11-25 11:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be careful. Don't let him pressure you to do things that you don't want to do. You are to young and you still have a life to live. If this talk makes you uncomfortable then get out of the relationship. You can also talk to him and let him know how you feel about him talking about this stuff.
2006-11-25 11:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by *be_23* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he wanted to see if you thought he would be your boyfriend years from now..like if you thought you two are to stay together forever. You were perfectly honest when you said you didn't know. It is pretty doubtful he will be your husband...you're only 12. You have many boyfriends to date before you choose the one that is perfect for you, and father your children. I think he is way ahead of himself.
2006-11-25 11:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a bit young for this. No offense, but you should be worrying about homework and what you want for Christmas not whether your 13 year old boyfriend wants to impregnate you or not.
2006-11-25 11:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem my boy-friend asked me the same thing and im 12 and he's 13. i said yes they will be. but because i want them to be his. but if ur not sure just say what u really feel or that u just dont know. he asked u that cause he really likes u and wants to be wit u that long but that doesnt mean u can have sex wit him. or he said that just so yall can have sex but im sure its the first one. DONT WORRY ABOUT IT
2006-11-25 12:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋