woman whose children are missing, who leaves children outside alone?

Question

How could someone let there young children alone outside with no supervision????? A 2 yr old someone my son's age playing outside with a older, but still young brother? Is the world going crazy? I see 5 yr olds running around in my neighborhood way down the street from their house, they were just 4! Who does that and feels okay about it? No matter what age my son is at, I will not feel okay with him at 5 going to somebody's house that I don't know and him going inside?! Why, these children don't have young parents, so it's not like they are young and careless, they are just stupid! Do people around your area do the same thing?

why would I pray for a woman who did this to herself? I would pray for her if her children were taken from infront of her eyes, but they weren't infront of her eyes, it's totally her fault.

yeah, I bring my children inside when I got inside, easy as that, no abduction there. It's stupid to say that we should have feelings for people who don't care or have feelings for their children? Enough to think oh, leaving my 2 yr old outside is bad? My parents always wondered off when we were in crowded areas, and I always got lost. How would the child feel, especially when they grow up? The ywould think and say my parents never cared for me to actually look for me. They never care to even watch me play outside. Why feel bad for them?

Answer 1

yes people in my area do that. I dont agree with it. The other day there was 1 year old and 3 year old in the street and no parents around. So I went out and talked to they and called the cops. They didnt even know where they lived. I felt so bad for them. The smelled and they looked like they where hungry. People like that dont need kids.

Answer 2

First of all, most children are abducted by family members or family friends. It's not the whole "stranger-danger" issue we think it is; that's just what's played up.

Secondly, should a 2 year old be playing outside alone w/o supervision? Probably not. However, I don't think there's a big problem with a 5 year old playing on their lawn, or at a neighbor's house or out on the (quiet, with little traffic, obviously) street. I'm sure that's controversial, but it really depends on where you live. I used (a year ago) work for a family on a military base, and their children (ages 4, 5, and 9) played outside all day long with occassional checks in. They were allowed up their block or to the playground (about half a block behind the house), and that was it (except for the older girl, who could go up an adjacent block). Most of the other military families did a similar thing. Could something horrible have happened? Of course. Something horrible can happen when they're at Uncle Joe's or whatever as well (how many people ever suspect their brother or father or best friend's husband of being a child molester, yet we hear about that all the time?).

There's only so much you can do, and children need to learn a bit of age-appropriate repsonsibility and boundaries. If they disobey those boundaries, they lose privileges. Example: your five year old is allowed to play in your yard, or next-door Neighbors A and B's or across the street at Neighbor C's, but she has to tell you where she's going before she goes, and she can't go inside if a parent isn't home. She is not allowed to talk to strangers, and she is NEVER to go with a stranger, no matter WHAT the stranger says. If she doesn't follow those rules, then she loses the privilege of playing outside for a couple of days.

(My mom tested us on these, apparently, by having a friend of hers, who we didn't know, attempt to talk us into going with her while my mom watched, hidden. Apparently, we passed the test)

Answer 3

Not in my street.
That is irresponsible parenting. Children of that age should be supervised by a responsible adult or child above the legal age, which is 14 to look after siblings, 13 for self and over 16 to look after others.
This obviously depends on the individual maturity of the child and how the younger sibling/s respond when left in the older childs care.
Its not a safe world, anything could happen God forbid.
I think I would consider repoting them to child welfare/social services. I think this can be done anonymously?
As for going in someones house, you are right, things happen even with people who are trusted never mind someone you dont know.
Its a difficult line to tread between being protective and cautious without smothering or being too free with the safety of our children.
I feel some people just dont think and assume it will always happen to others peoples kids, personally I want to be sure as much as I can that mine aren't at risk and are safe.

Good question, very thought provoking. I guess in some its the way we have been taught by our own parents, aswell as natural instinct. Perhaps in some that is missing or has never been taught sufficiently.

Answer 4

Yes the other day I was out with my children, ages 9, 7 and 2. I of course would never let my 2 year old out with my 9 and 7 year old. They are both too busy playing to pay any attention to him. So I went outside with all of them and 3 houses down there was a boy , younger than 2 I would assume , and he was out alone playing next to the road. And my street is a slighty busy street. I watched him for a few, but cant leave mine alone to go get him, so I thought maybe I should call someone because I see no adult anywhere in site. So a person stopped, took the boy to the front door knocked on the door and next thing you know...a baby in diapers comes out. This guy from the car leaves and then once again there is no adults around and now 2 babies. I didnt knwo what the heck was going on. Still no sign of any adult. So the 2 babies came to my neighbors yard, and started to tear apart her bird bath, etc...So I called my neighbor to come out and get those kids and take them back to their own house! The little girl even had a diaper on that looked like it hadnt been changed for a couple of days. I dont know where an adult was...my neighbor got the kids, walked them to their house and then their dad drove up. He took them from there. What kind of people will let their kids alone like that??? I was very mad and wanted to call the cops, because I just knew those kids were going to get run over. Here I am watching my 3 boys and then there is someone 3 houses down letting there babys roam around alone. Maybe the dad left them alone. I dont know. I know I should have called CPS or something, but honestly I just kept expecting an adult to come out and get them and then I thought with the guy stopping the situation was being taken care of. Im so sick of seeing so many parents letting their little children alone outside! I do see it alot. Sorry My rant was so long.. Just makes me wonder about some parents.

Answer 5

When I lived in Florida I saw a lot of that. One day a five year old asked me if my 2 1/2 year old could play out of the yard with her. We asked her who would be watching her and she said me. Can you imagine a 5 year old watching a 2 1/2 year old. No Way!!!! Anyway there was a lot of 5 year olds or younger playing on the street with no parental supervision. Granted we lived on a one way street, but I thought that was insane. No wonder there are so many missing children. No one wants to watch there children. I wonder why they even have them. Can someone answer why parents today have children if they dont want to care for them? Starting with daycare from the time they are born to letting them run the streets as teenagers. Email me at [e-mail]

Answer 6

I haven't seen kids THIS young in my area wondering around. We live in a very small town, and we live on a culd-a-sac within walking distance of the elementary and middle school. Our 2 older kids were not allowed off our street until like 12, and even then, they had small bounderies, i.e., friends houses, the school. I have seen kids as young as 7 walking the narrow roads to go to the playgrounds by themselves (one of my neighbors)! OMG! One time, they had my other neighbor's daughter (um, 4). I told him, and he said his girl confessed she had left the street. BOTH of them, I think have poor judgement. The one with the 7 and 9 yr old, I have seen all the way to city hall (my 13 yr old is not even allowed that far!!!). Yeah, so, people in my area do it to. Is this just a sign of the times? Do parents just not care? Do they just not want to be "bothered"? What gets me, is if, you go on the sex offenders list, we have more than our share for our little town!!! Apparently some parents don't know, don't care, whatever!! Not my kids! My oldest is a 14 1/2 boy freshman in HS. he has more freedom than his sis. However, he never goes anywhere alone (except his trip to the friends house). And he has a cell phone his dad gave him.

Answer 7

We live in a country village of 300 people. We know everyone here. All the kids roam the streets all the time. Everyone watches over them.

The world is coming apart. It used to be that kids were safe in their neighborhoods at any age. And it was common practice for gradeschool children to roam around in packs, playing and goofing off. Whatever yard they were in those parents watched them. They were only a shout from the back porch away.

But these days the semi-safety that used to exist in our cities and towns has been swallowed by rising violent crime rates.

Parents are responsible for protecting their children, and providing them with a safe enviroment to play and grow in. Its not always the parents fault that a child is stolen. Sometimes its just circumstances.

Aside from locking them in their room, or behind 10 foot iron gates, theres little someone can do to completely protect a child from wiley preditors.

Parents of missing children suffer enough daily without other parents pointing fingers.

My friend lost her brother. He was stolen at night from his bedroom window. How was her mom supposed to keep that from happening?

Answer 8

to above ^ I once babysat a 2-year-old that unlocked the front door and took off running down the sidewalk. It all depends on the type of locks. All small children should be watched at all times, or at least put in a crib or somewhere they cannot possibly get into trouble. File for custody. Be careful about the recordings, depending on your state they may not be admissible as evidence. In some states it is illegal to record a telephone conversation unless both parties are aware of it.

Answer 9

Children under 5 need some supervision but why not let older children play outside alone?If they know how (and when)to get back home and how to cross the road there is no problem to leave them play alone.

Answer 10

it is always a sad situation when a child is harmed and or abducted don't judge but pray this will never happen to you. God is the only one to judge not man, thank God. Maybe you can help with this situation by providing services to parents that need child care. REMEMBER IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD.