How to convince her?

Question

There is mutual attraction. The are mutual, strong feelings. But she seems to be trying to talk herself out of anything more serious. She goes hot then cold. Don't really know why. I know some people get scared for whatever reason. So how do you convince the scared person to try and assure them that you want to and are ready to take the next step (and this isn't about sex; this is just about committing a little more deeply)?

Answer 1

i have been going out with my g-f for almost a year. and she dose the hot and cold thing all the time. what i do, and im not sure if its right. But i just take a step back and letter her work things out with her self. Then after that when things get back to norm. we are able to take a few steps forward. it works alright for me, good luck man, the ladies are crazy

Answer 2

I would do the OPPOSITE of what you might think you want to do. NO words could move her if she is frozen in that position and doesnt want to move forward. If you keep pushing the issue, she will pull back even more and eventually will either find you pushy or annoying.

I would do the opposite, I would just relax on this one and let things flow. Dont push the issue anymore. When she is ready she will do it all on her own becuase she wants to, not becuase you want her to. And if that pace isnt fast enough (for whatever reason) I would find some one else that will commit at a decent pace.

Answer 3

The best thing you can do is to tell her honestly that you have feelings for her.Just tell her that you love and care a lot about her,also that she means a lot to you.Honest and open communication about your true feelings will let her know your real intentions,which will get rid of her fear.Chances are good that she may open up her feelings for you,but only when you make your move to take it to the next level.I have a friend who was too scared about serious relationship,and got defensive whenever i attempted to share my feelings.But one day,i told honestly about what i truely feel for him.This made him feel more secure and in return,he revealed his feelings.so this is how it helped for us to get closer and build a deep relationship.

Answer 4

Are you sure that's why she acting that way? First, find that out and if it turns out you're right then you have the obligation to (if you really want this relationship) make her feel more comfortable with you. Saying things that are difficult to say but you know need to be said will help. Being affectionate will also help but you should be careful not to make unwanted advances.

Answer 5

if she is just scared give her some room to think but then move in when the time is right and ul know that time. tell her how much u want to be with her and how u cant let her go but be careful not to come across as a stalker cuz then she'll run but just be loving and cox her to u and if its right she come and u guys will be fine

Answer 6

Don't pressure guy.
Just talk to her.
Nice and easy.
If she is running that hot and cold she needs some pressure release.
Have a picnic.
Bring the subject up. Let her talk...
Listen... Keep your trap shut.
A little nod or Why every now and then.
Find out who she is and what is bothering her.
Listening is the key.
Not pressure.

Answer 7

It depends on her age. Perhaps she feels she is too young to get seriously involved. It takes time to build up trust in another person. Love waits. Love is patient.

Answer 8

same problem as mine ,
just mine actually involve some losers ,

these ABSOLUT LOSERS successfully get in between me and this girl i came to interest and poisoned her with so many info i have yet to confirm with her .
and yes , she believed them for eternity (maybe)

hope to meet and talk to her

Answer 9

just say ooo this a really good thing that you could get instead of the store

Answer 10

try to act gentle and don't be fighting and crse or sh!t like that