ok so I thought I liked my boyfriend alot but the thing is that when we kiss I dont feel anything. Does this mean that I dont have feelings for him? I dont wanna waste my time with someone I dont like.HELP!
2006-11-25 03:06:42 · 15 answers · asked by so0_confuzed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe its his technique try some spicy things make your kiss more effectionette do sumthin diffrent or freaky
b4 long you'll feel the spark maybe even an fire
2006-11-25 03:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Luv Is in the air 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to sit down and take a good look at it. Take something that let you relate to him and think about all the positive moments you had. If it helps take some notes around it and see if you can come to the core of why you think you like him.
Also - have a "session with yourself" of what you expect from your ideal boyfriend, how should he make you feel, treat you around others, ...
Perhaps it even helps you to sit down and think of what you don't like about him (and here it is important to remember - there is no ideal person out there - and you can't change people - see if you can start liking or at least tolerating his not so positive sides).
What you are saying is that when you kiss you can feel the touch but you don't get into an emotional state about this touch. Well - if you kiss your grandma - you get in touch with your feelings about your grandma. The touch of your lips connects with your feelings about her - there is physically probably no difference about the touch (ok, there might be but ignore that for a bit now).
What I want to say is ... if you would hate your grandma (and you might who knows) and you would be forced to kiss her - what would you FEEL with the touch?
In the end - you just need to get clear in your mind about your feelings (always - not only with this boyfriend). You'll likely to be much happier.
All the best to you.
2006-11-25 03:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Y_not_think_+ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sparks do not necessarily equate having feelings for someone. Once you're in a long term relationship, sparks are not necessarily part of every single kiss anymore. Sparks come from the newness and excitement of a relationship. The feelings that lead you to form relationships and stay in them run much much deeper than that. If you're not ready for that level of commitment or you don't have the desire to be in a long term relationship at this point in your life- or if you honestly deep down don't feel like you still care for him in the way you want to care for a boyfriend- then you need to make the decision to not waste either of your time anymore. Love is not always about the sparkly feelings- eventually it all comes down to making a decision.
2006-11-25 03:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by songbird22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel nothing when you are intimately interacting with each other, than either your nervous, think too much during the process, or you really have not enough feelings for him.
I would see which one of the three you have. When I was starting to have sex with my last boyfriend, I was super nervous, therefore I didnt feel much. After I got over it, I was completely ok and enjoyed it more. So maybe its nerves, maybe you have too much on your mind.
If that is not the case, than you might want to move on from this situation. Good luck.
2006-11-25 03:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must have been confused eh?! i've been there i thought i like a guy but then after we bcame "bf-gf" i feel empty and wish that i'm not his girl..he gets on my nerves at times ..i cant feel the love he's offering me..so i broke up with him but it was too late he was madly inlove with me..he didn't attend school for 2months ,he was even lucky to graduate..so you have to tell him about ur feelings now is the time..dont wait until he loves you like he can never move on..you dont want to be with a guy you dont like? do you think that he wanted to be with a girl who he thinks loves him but not? do it now..before the two of you will regret for staying in the relationship too long.. you should be honest with him..he deserves the truth ..and next time before you commit into a relationship make sure you REALLY like the guy..
2006-11-25 03:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by LaDy in Luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that knows if you like him because you are yourself but all I can say is if you don't feel anything you need to find out why. see if you like someone else but you don't always feel anything if you kiss each other i mean it does not happen that fast
2006-11-25 03:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by kingdomhearts_rulz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't decide your relationship on just a kiss. Look for other signs.But be careful cause it's somethings that he used to do that he doesn't do know .Maybe he's just bugged uot about something.Try to talk to him. Maybe he's feeling the same way about you.
2006-11-25 03:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by B Wondaful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My superb suggestion, merely dont settle. extra effective than in all hazard your superb guess is with the recent guy. in case you have broken up with your boyfriend as quickly as, than it could no longer artwork out, we are creatures of habit! plus thats what maximum information study
2016-10-04 08:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by blumenkrantz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am VERY sorry to tell you but you need to drop him. The spark is gone and you feel nothing over him now. But I wish you good luck to find another bf!!! :-)
2006-11-25 03:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by Pretty "N" Simple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just doesn't know how to kiss u...its happened to me before n i just had to find the things he can do dt i like n enjoy..think of it as exploring other options of "extra curricula activities"....n maybe someday u can show him how to kiss u!
2006-11-25 03:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by mouzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋