Romance Problem?

Question

Hi, I have a problem and I welcome all the answers especially from girls at the age from 28 - 35 but all are welcome.

This morning, I was on the phone with my gf. She is 31. She is still in Hong Kong right now but I talk to her everyday on the phone for hours.

Today, she was a bit sick, anyway, so I asked her how would you feel if I call you in a few days or in 2 weeks instead of everyday?

She started to get all mad, she then told me , fine, I am going to shut off my phone because I have something to tell you, but I 'll tell you in 2 weeks. Let's chill for 2 weeks. She was so mad........anyway, I spoke to her for 1 hour explaining to her that I love her no matter what, she was crying, and at the end, she felt better and cared for me again.

She said she would tell me about what she is going to say next Monday instead of 2 weeks.........

I just need to know from woman at around 28 - 35, what happened?? If you need to know more, you can email me.

I should add some details, she isn't pregnant and not seeing someone else, I am sure of it

Answer 1

Im going to tell you a trick here. Women will be accustomed to ANY habit you put into the relationship and will NOT like it when you change the habit.

Such as..your calling everyday. Thats been established mentally that she will get to hear from you. Therefore, its a security blanket and that you care. When you change habits, she will get upset becuase she probably enjoys hearing from you daily. She may even think you are cheating on her and became suspicious.

If you make it a habit, women will expect it automatically. I would be careful what kind of nice gestures you make in the future on a frequent basis. I know its stupid, but it happens more often than you think. The man puts in SO much effort to please the girl and when they need a break and pull away a little, the woman freaks out.

Now..I dont know what she wanted to tell you, but I think she tried to manipulate you to cave in too. Not that she was "plotting" to do so. But its instinctive and its done naturally. Its good you stood your ground. Kudos to you.

Answer 2

She just got all insecure and she thought you did not hold that much of importance for her in your life any more. Of course you love her. It takes a lot more strength for some women to understand that men have things to do and they can be trusted and left alone and they will still be around eternally for them. Just as you pacified her this time, when you talk to her in future, make sure to constantly assure her that she is the 'one'. And when you decide again that you'd like to make calls to her once a week or once in a couple of weeks, make sure to call her every other day for a while and then every two days and gradually get it there to once a week. Don't abruptly do it...lol. If you are not on the phone with her, send out very loving emails to her and text messages on the cellphone as and when possible. Just stay in touch. It feels good to know someone loves you so much. :-)

Answer 3

It could be almost anything from she is homesick and misses you more than she can stand, to she has to stay in Hong Kong longer than she anticipated, to she's pregnant, to she was just having a bad day. My hubby travels alot and can be gone for long period at a time, we do not talk every day, but every other day. It keeps up with events and helps with missing each other. However, I know for the important stuff he is only a phone call away.

Answer 4

I think you intended to not talk to her for a few weeks so she could get better if i am right. And she probably took it in a way that you didnt want to talk to her because she might sound weird on the phone, or something stupid. When us girls dont feel well, we can snap. I dont think it was anything too bad she just overreacted like everyone does now and then. She might forget what she wanted to tell you though so tell her to write it on a sticky note [; If you get to talk to her that is.

Answer 5

First, she's sick, so she's feeling bad.

Second, you say "she is still in Hong Kong" which implies that you aren't in Hong Kong.

When you asked if you could speak to her less often, that sounds like you're less interested, or interested in not being involved with her. Her response, as you characterize it, sounds like she put things in a fairly juvenile way. However, it did sound like she was almost ready to do a pre-emptive break up, anticipating that that was going to be your move, and not letting you do it first.

Long distance relationships are tough. Sounds like yours might not be working. The fact that you're around 30 and communicating like teens isn't helping.

Answer 6

you talk on the phone everyday for hours? and when you said you'd call in a few days she freaked out?

Dependency problem.

she probably thought that because you were gonna wait a few days/weeks to call her again you were gonna "go do something else" like maybe go out with another lady. Call it: super-jealousy even though its unfounded.

She's addicted to you and she needs her daily fix.

Answer 7

Im kinada young but from what iv seen in the movies & have realized in reality is that when a female duz that, she got a guilty conscience. Something is bothering her but she doesnt knoe how to tel you. Just give her space without telling ha, give her an innocent silent treatment jst to see if she will miss you.This will give her time to clear her head... GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Sounds like she is going to end the relationship but feels guilty about it and is putting it off for a few days. Long distance relationships are tricky!

Answer 9

I think she was just upset because of something else. Maybe she heard bad news earlier that day or maybe it was because she was sick. Try to call her sooner than Monday and reassure her. I'm sure you didn't do anything wrong.

Answer 10

She obviously cares about you very very much. Maybe she felt like you were starting to break up with her instead of going forward like she wants to.