does anyone else hate first dates?i find them so awkward. can someone please help me not be anxious? any input would be appreciated.
2006-11-25 02:32:36 · 12 answers · asked by chikka 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There just aint no way around it! It is awkward! Just be yourself and suffer through it. I always loved the anxiety and adventure of the first date because it's like going into the unknown! But it's the same for both parties so the best thing I can advise is TO JUST BE YOURSELF!!!! If you try to be anything different then if the relationship moves forward you'll spend valuable time correcting the mistakes you made on the first date!
2006-11-25 02:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to love first dates, actually!
My best advice: Remember that there does not have to be a second date. That's it. If you really like your date, cool--you can go out again. But if it turns out that your date's a dud, all you have to do is make it through dinner and then get the heck out of there. I found that this keeping this in mind really helped me relax.
The thing about first dates that makes people so anxious the is PRESSURE they put on themselves about them. We're always hoping that a first date will turn into forever. And sometimes that happens. But if you go into thinking that you just want to have some fun, get to know someone a little bit, and MAYBE see them again, you'll feel less anxious.
Good luck and have fun!
2006-11-25 02:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by psych_donkey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 40 and still get anxious about first dates...even if they are with people I know and am famliar with. It's about exposing yourself to the next level. While I haven't tried it yet, I've heard that first dates from the internet aren't as bad...as you have spent a good bit of time in deep conversation (and about subjects normally not talked about openly).
2006-11-25 02:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are letting your anxiety get the best of you, A good way to calm down is have some alone time before the date then get your shower and things will not be so tense on the date. Good luck.
2006-11-25 02:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember first date is a moment to start to know each other.You will know, if the person is sincere or not with you.First date is a recognition of, to whom you are dealing,indeed.So,calm down,relax,let the man talk first,observe his attitude,behaviour,ask some questions about him,his hobbies,etc.Some couples in the first date have sex,or drink,or dancing,etc.Depend of what the couple have in mind to do in the first date.Good luck.
2006-11-25 02:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relax first dates are always the worse but hey if theere wasent a first date then how u meet guys or girls
2006-11-25 02:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to be anxious, just be yourself and relax and try to have some fun.
2006-11-25 02:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by cm f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never hate them--actually I think they are exciting and hold promise:)
Just relax and be yourself...have fun!
2006-11-25 02:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to relax. Be yourself. That's the only why to do it. If the person your with doens't like you for the person you are, then you shouldn't be with that person.
2006-11-25 02:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Act like hes been your friend for years.
2006-11-25 02:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by wildcat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋