is there a solution?

Question

LASTNIGHT I ****** UP THE BEST THING THAT I HAVE HAD IN A LONG TIME. MY GIRL AND I HAVE BEEN TAKING A BREAK FROM NOT SEEING EACHOTHER AS MUCH. TOTALY COOL. THROUGH OUT ALL THIS ITS BEEN KILLING ME. I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THE DAY THAT ME AND HER WOULD ABLE TO JUST BE LIKE THINGS WERE BEFORE. I WENT OVER AND ALL WAS GOOD. LIKE IT WAS. WELL MY DUMBASS ASKS HER IF THERE WAS ANYTHING SHE SHOULD TELL ME. I SAW SOMETHING AND THOUGHT THERE MIGHT HAVE BEEN SOMEONE ELSE OVER .SHE GOT A LITTLE PISSY CAUSE WE HAVE HAD THIS CONVERSATION OVER AND OVER AGAIN. SHE SAID NO. I WALKED AWAY. WITH ALL THIS **** GOING ON OF ME ASKING THINGS AND MAKING THE TIME APART A GOOD THING I HAVE BEEN ******* **** UP ALMOST DAILY. IM AFRAID OF LOSSING HER!!!! ON MY WAY HOME I CALL HER AND ASK IF THERE WAS SOMEONE ELSE CAUSE OF WHAT I SAW. SHE GOT MORE PISSED AND SAID SHE DIDNT WANT TO TALK ANYMORE. THAT I WAS BEING CRAZY. WHATS THE ANSWER. WHY DO I **** IT UP AND HOW CAN I MAKE IT BETTER FAST?

Answer 1

If I were you I would be open & honest about my feelings. Tell her what she means to you and that you do not want to lose her.

Honesty -- the best policy!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

You have to change the destructive behavior. If there is someone else, then you have to live through it, or let go. Jealousy is the road to demise, and it's long driven, ur not the only one. I've been there myself. Girls like safety and security, to the point many will continue in a destructive relationship just to maintain the "sameness" in their lives. Now imagine if you just get a little patience (bill bailey-1989) and ride the storm out. The best way to be an icon in your loved ones life is to be supportive in the choices they make, good or bad. Angrily promoting you're point of view is like a strick parent at best. That will start the lies and secrets. So, deal with how it makes you feel, if you find an understandind it will make the anger ebb. Walk a little taller, stiffen ur spine and upper lip. Imagine how it would look to her if you made those changes, showed you can rise above the idea she's with someone else. Have an assuredness there is more to a relationship than sex, women will often do this to rebell. You have to become more attractive than whatever else she is considering. Anger and jealousy are the lashings out of failure, it's the surest path to defeat.

Answer 3

Pull the reins back on that horse of yours. I read through your question and it caught my attention that you were accusing her of something you can't do that and not have a person jump in your face. Remember the two of you took a break and if you want things back to the way they were begin all over again. Do the whole ritual from the very beginning. Say for example I really miss you can we start out afresh? Patience and consideration goes along way and please put away that bat I can feel your pain and it hurts.

Answer 4

send some flowers with a note or write a letter exsplaining how much you love her and miss her and you know you have pushed her a away even though you where trying to do the exact opposite. tell her that all you want is another shot and this time you will try and be the man that she wants in her life. at the end write:
if you can give me another chance i will be at ............. on the .............. if you are not there i know that i have blown it therfore i wish you all the luck in the world.
dont ring her or anything that way she knows you are serious and a man of your word good luck.

Answer 5

well i think you couple are not meant to be together thats just the way it is and i am afraid you cant fix it with anything so just hang on there
PS:aspecially dont fix it by giving her gifts cause she will so break up with u then trust me i had some axpiriance
sorry i had to tell you this

Answer 6

hmmm... its hard for me to put this in words...

i had something similiar with my ex, i kept accusing him on doing dope. he swore up and down he wasnt, gave me a guilt trip when i asked him to do a drug test blah blah blah. come to find out that i was lied to for over year! now i found out hes a crack head and a junky!!!! so perhaps youre not crazy.

but just incase youre wrong, let her know that youre afraid of anything that can jeopardize a future with her. and thats why youre afraid of her cheating

good luck sweetie

Answer 7

I think u love her too much it makes u worry if theres some1 else
right?
ur always asking 2 urself..does she love me?
well how would u like it when everytime she calls she asks if there's some1 else?annoying huh?
all I got 2 say..u have to act romantic here..tell her that u love her so much that ur afraid of losing her!
GOODLUCK!

Answer 8

okay okay ill help you cuz i just whent over what you said , if i where you id push her door open and walk ur *** around the house if you where sure she had some one there ,now if she dint let you in , if i where you and yu where not sure if any one was there buy some snacks and get a warm caot and sit and wait till some one comes out the front gate !! and if so jump out and catch them ! in the act boy!

Answer 9

The solution is simple. You need to separate yourself from needing to know about anything that happened during your separation. It honestly is none of your business. Sit down with her and see if you can disolve the separation and just get back together. If that isn't something she wants.....then my friend...it's time for you to move on.

Answer 10

your suspcions are correct my friend, if you know her and it seems as though you do, you notice the little things, and women change when they encounter another man or have an affair. not only that but she gets pissed when you bring it up, she is f-ing around, sorry.