2006-11-25 01:58:16 · 12 answers · asked by saleem q 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
16 was a turning point for me. I was skinny, weak, afraid of girls and even sucked in school. At 15 I got into martial arts because I was sick of being bullied. It was the single most significant influence in my teenage life. After a year of that, I felt much more confident, bullies left me alone and I got my first girl friend. The physical exercise made me stronger and helped my mind get clear. The discipline put my behavior in line. If such a thing would have been push upon me by my parents I would have rebelled, but coming from my Sensei a 5th degree black belt, I respected him and I wanted to be like him. He was / is a man of great inner strength and integrity.
I think all teenagers go through a period of doubting their abilities, worth and place in the world. It is part of their stretching out into the world. Around 16 is when boys really start to separate away from their parents (for girls it seems to be around 14). This is REALLY scary for them, and yet something they must do to grow up to a young adult. The best thing to do is to let him know that you are there for him and you support him. The reality is that his peers will have much more influence on him at this age than you will.
2006-11-25 03:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by taotemu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs something he can be good at. I work with teens everyday, and their emotions are on a roller coaster. But I like the previous suggestion of lifting and working out. It could really give him some confidence. And give him some compliments about things he has done, but don't be phony about it. Most of the teens outgrow this stage by graduation.
2006-11-25 02:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by kiki 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is something all teenagers go through. It's a natural process and he must go through it. I suspect it may have something to do with his friends or family situations. By the time he's an adult, he'll find himself and realize who he is and who he's meant to be. That's the true point at which you know your son has reached adulthood.
2006-11-25 02:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Brommy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know what the world is all about teach him. Tell him there are two groups of people. He is in one and the other group makes him feel like a failure. He will gain confidence if he stays in his own group.I call them the winner-players and the outsiders.
2006-11-25 03:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have him go to martial arts classes to help build confidence where he will meet other people and get rid of any shyness he may have
2006-11-25 02:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by orderee4 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give him more praise and try to boost his confidence. Spend time with him and let him know how proud you are of him.
2006-11-25 02:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giive us more details. Encourage him to go to more social gatherings and hopefuully the shyness shall wear off.
2006-11-25 02:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by jewl 32 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confide in him more. Tell him him about all the wonderful drug experiences you've had. Hook him up!
2006-11-25 02:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find out why and come up with ways to solve it. Just giving us that won't get much out of us. (by us i mean the yahoo community)
2006-11-25 01:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by tolwc123ag 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you should get him involved in going to the gym lifting weights. it will make him feel good about himself.
2006-11-25 02:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by big daddy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋