MY 42 YEAR OLD SON MOVED BACK INTO HOUSE WITH ME AFTER THE THIRD MARRIAGE BUSTUP. HE SLAMS DOORS, HOLLERS AT ME AND RECENTLY, HE LEFT HIS YAHOO MESSENGER ON BUT IT'S MY COMPUTER. HIS MESSAGE ARCHIVES CAME UP WHEN I SIGNED ON. I THOUGHT IT WAS MINE AND DIDN'T MEAN TO READ IT. RIGHT AWAY I SAW HE WAS TALKING ABOUT ME TO HIS SECOND EX. HE TOLD HER LIES ABOUT MY MARRIAGES...SAID I HAD BEEN MARRIED 11 TIMES. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 5 TIMES BUT I ALWAYS TRIED TO MAKE MY CHILDREN'S LIVES AS GOOD AS I COULD...ALWAYS TOOK UP FOR THEM AND WENT AGAINST MY HUSBANDS FOR MY KIDS SAKES.
TOO, HE SAID SOME VERY BAD THINGS ABOUT ME AND EVEN HIS GRANDMOTHER TO HIS EX AND WAS MEAN-MOUTHING MY LITTLE DOGS WHICH HE HATES. HE REMINDS ME OF HIS DADDY WHO ABUSED ME. I WAS EVEN RAPED BY HIS DAD SEVERAL TIMES.
SHOULD I CONFOUNT MY SON AND TELL HIM HOW HIS DAd treated me? Should I make him move or keep putting up with his abuse?
I am 65 years old.
2006-11-25 01:46:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Kick him out of the house. If he gives you any trouble or refuses to leave, call the police. He has no legal right to be there if you don't want him there.
Be careful - verbal abuse can quickly escalate to physical abuse.
2006-11-25 01:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throw him out. There is no reason a 42 year old man can't make it on his own. At 65 you shouldn't have to put up withunruly children, even 42 year old children. You have no reason to feel like you need to explain anything to him about your past marriages. He's a guest in your house now. Ask him to leave and if he doesn't then throw him out.
2006-11-25 01:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by kingsteve14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to leave, do whatever you have to do to get him out, I wouldn't pass anything by him because he is obviously not trust worthy, who is to know that he will not put his hand on you, Yes get him out, and If you want to feel a little better, then tell him about what his father did to you, and how he is acting like him now... Or Just Kick his A$$ out!! Because he has not respect for you, and he needs to get his $hit together somewhere else.. You Do Not have to take that..and If you think he may start acting crazy when you kick him out,have somebody there with you when you do it... O yea Honey, He is to old to be doing that stuff, Get him out, so he can become a real man, and stop the petty $hit... Ok.. Stay Strong Mrs.. I will pray for you as well...
2006-11-25 01:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by dollapassadime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU are his mother, the one that brought him into this world, and he has NO respect for you or others for talking about events in his life without the other persons consent. He sounds like a over grown brat, that you love and raised so well, only to get hurt so bad, show him were the front door is, and tell him make sure the door doesn't hit him in the bum on the way out!! Sorry for being so blunt.
2006-11-25 01:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by DONNA'S NIGHTMARE COME TRUE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would print out the chat for proof then present it to a trusted family member who can help you get him out of your house.
Parental abuse by older children is a big deal and sounds like your situation is heading that way rapidly.
Your son is plenty old enough to be responsible for himself financially and certainly does not have the right to mouth you, yell, slam doors or in anyway disrepect you since you are allowing him shelter in your home.
Put his bad azz out, but make sure you have protection in place for yourself while you do it.
2006-11-25 01:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put his grown a$$ out of your house unless you are afraid of him. He already knows how his daddy treated you, that is where he learned it from.
42!!!! he would have never come to stay with me after three divorces, that should tell you there is something critically wrong with him.
At age 65, no one should be putting up with anyone's abuse . . . whether it is a son, daughter, or husband!!
Tell him,
"OUT THE DOOR BUDDY, OH . . . . AND GOOD LUCK TO YA!!"
2006-11-25 04:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by geminisista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son needs to find his bags at the door when he comes home today, what you are describing is abuse and you know that it is wrong, so do not make excuses for him. Do not accept or tolerate his presence, he is supposed to be an adult, make him start to be one PUT him out, you do not need this kind of stress, your child yes, but he is an adult now
2006-11-25 02:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you are going through this! This is your house, your sanctuary. Your house a place for you to rest, relax and feel completely comfortable. It sounds as if your son is NOT at all thankful for you taking him in. If he were to treat me that way, I would kick his butt out. That is no way to treat a lady, no less your mother! Kick his butt to the curb. Good luck.
2006-11-25 01:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put him to the curb. your house your rules and you do not need to keep putting up with a headache. Love you but this is to big of a problem you need to find other arrangements soon. By next week you should have a place right.
2006-11-25 02:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not tell him that you read his things. even if it were by accident he is going to be angry with you.he is 42 even if his marriage did not work out he should not have had to move into your house. but, he did. i say you need to tell him to move out. but i suggest that you have someone there with you when you tell him. so if he becomes violent someone can call the police. i know he is your son and you don't want to have to have him thrown out by police but you are his mother and he does not give a damn about how he treats you.you don't need to explain to him about your relationship with your husbands. that should not matter. kick him out.
2006-11-25 02:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋