nicely, that I dont want the winter coat she got me. Its actually my fault. My mom told me to tell her what I wanted for my B-day and she would get it. Well I fell in love with this gorgeous winter coat. Anyway she bought it wrapped it and gave it to me. Now-when I got it home I was reading the materials and read that the trim was FOX FUR. I do not wear fur- how can I wear something that I fight against? That makes me a hypocrite. Long story short I refuse to wear it and dont want to hurt her feelings...any advice please?
2006-11-25 01:42:21 · 23 answers · asked by frha75 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hey everyone check out Hope's answer. Please for childrens sake DONT HAVE KIDS if you would make them freeze instead of them wearing a coat! some people.
2006-11-25 02:09:05 · update #1
i assume your mother knows about your stance on fur....i would just say...."thanks so much for getting me the coat i wanted...i'm so upset that i can't wear it cuz it's made of real fur....do you want to help me pick out a new coat?"
2006-11-25 05:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so seriously anti-fur, then you should not long for items with synthetic fur (I am assuming that you saw enough of this coat to see that the trim was at least fur-like). I doubt that you'd have many people stopping you to ask if your fur trim was real when you were wearing the coat. So even if it had been "fake" fur, you would have been giving the appearance that you don't have a problem with wearing fur, because people would have seen you and would have assumed you were wearing fur. So now the real issue has nothing to do with you being a hypocrite for wearing the coat, as you can see that your longing for the coat with fur trim, whether real or not, has already proven that issue. The real issue is that you'd tell your mother you wanted this coat without checking, when this is obviously "such a big issue to you." Suck it up, wear it, and I hope it reminds you to take your causes more seriously in the future.
2006-11-26 02:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her. Tell her that when you picked the coat out, you didn't realize that it was real fur. And wearing real fur isn't right for you. But you don't want to snub her by not wearing her gift. I'm sure you explain it that way she will be more than glad to exchange it. Maybe you two can go together and pick out the new coat.
2006-11-25 01:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by mrssamikeyp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her. Mom, I don't want you to get angry with me,but I know I asked you for the new winter coat, but I didn't know it had a fox collar, and you know how I am against anyone or anything that has to do with animals being used for there own pleasure. Would you be real hurt or angry if I changed it. I do wish it didn't have the collar. See what happens & be ready
2006-11-25 05:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously just be honest with her, just explain that now you have got it home, you feel a little upset because you have noticed it has been made with fox fur.
Ask her if she would mind if you swapped it. Maybe go shopping again for something else with her...
I'm sure she'll understand, she may be a little disappointed, but that will be more down to the fact that the coat has real fur..
Good luck
2006-11-25 01:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by nat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your mother. Just tell her you didn't realize that it was made from real fur. Ask her to give you the reciept so you can exchange it without her having to go to the trouble. Be sure to appoligize for the inconvenience you caused.
Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, I'm sure she will understand. My grandmother would tell us that if we didn't like the clothes she bought us that it was polite to let her know so she could take us back to the store to exchange it. If she found out later that we had never worn what she bought us, she would get really mad. And rightfully so, since she always gave us a chance to exchange anything we didn't like.
2006-11-25 05:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idea 1...I'd tell her I want a small or bigger size like exchange it and hopefully there are no other sizes then get another coat.
Idea 2...Just tell her your feelings on it and say you didn't know it was Fox Fur you thought it was fake or something and then listen her tell you "your spoiled", " You never like anything I buy", "I can't beleive you" you know the Blah, Blah, Blah story of how mothers do everything for you. And then she'll probably most likely take you to get another coat.
Hope this helps.
2006-11-25 01:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it is unworn then ask Mom for the receipt (explaining why you want it, of course) and return the coat to the store (telling them the reason, too, if necessary). You can then select another coat. I am sure your Mom knows your feelings about real fur so she will understand why you wish to change the item. After all, parents want to please their children as much as children wish to please their parents, so the suggestion I've made should satisfy you both. Good luck anyway!
2006-11-25 01:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by avian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom the truth. Truth is always the best. Don't make up any excuses. She will wonder why your not wearing it.
Just go see her or call her and tell her that you read the label.
She will respect you for being honest with her and your stand against wearing fur.
2006-11-25 07:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by smwbugging 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is possible take off the fur and tell Mummy that you think you are allergic to it, then wear the coat
2006-11-25 01:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by orderee4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋