I have been dating this guy for almost 10 months. He seperated from his wife in sept of o5. I met him in feb and we started dating. I love him and says he does also. His divorced was finalized in sept of 2006.... On Nov 23 his exwife contacted me to tell me they had intercourse. I was devestated to hear that. she gave exact date and time of when it happened. I logged into his email ( I know I shouldnt have done that) I saw emails of other girls there and pics OMG I was so sad to see that. Well I confronted him with all that he denied the thing with his exwife. He said he didnt know what emails I was talking about. He didnt email anyone. He kept saying he loves me and that all that wasnt happening and we should move on. Since then I have been a mess. I love him and I want to trust him, I do trust him. I just keep thinking about it all. What do I do, I dont want to be blind because of love. I dont want to be played with. I have 2 kids also that dont need that. OMG i cant believe this.
2006-11-25 01:32:13 · 15 answers · asked by mom2kids 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should believe the evidence you saw with your own eyes. He's clearly lying.
2006-11-25 01:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and ask him, up front, if he's lying because he doesn't want to loose you.
Be very careful with how you phrase your words, so as not to sound accusing or angry. This isn't just about you, this is about your children as well. Tell him this. Tell him that you have to be concerned about your kids, and if he's not going to make that commitment to you, and your kids, and be a family, that he isn't worth your time.
You need to realize that what you saw could possibly be from an old life that he's now getting over...But what you saw could also be something he will never change.
Ask him. Be upfront. Be honest.
I hope all goes well for you.
2006-11-25 12:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by A Wells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my own heart i would love to say trust him.....
BUT
You really need to trust your own intuition....is there a way he can calmly explain the emails?....could it be that he has just been looking at porn on the internet, and somehow, spyware has managed to get his email address? It does happen.....
Do you know where he was, when his ex wife claimed to be having sex with him? and can someone confirm it?.....
Im sorry to say it, but it seems that you already dont have any trust in him....and what is a relationship based on if not trust......talk to him hon, its the only way the two of you are going to be able to work through things.......
2006-11-25 09:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust that greasy Son of a *********! He's a slimy b.a.s.t.a.r.d whos cheating on you. you can't tell? pics of other girls? a call from his ex? She was probably calling HIM to meet up with him again and that's when she told you. The pics of toher girls probably girls he had intercoursee with. Don't trust him. By asking this question, you have doubts in your mind about him telling you he's lying. And he is. Break it off. Take your two kids too. Make sure that deciever pays his child support.
I'm sorry but he's lying. You don't have to take my advice if you beleive he's not. well, Good Luck to you and your children.
2006-11-25 09:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would trust him she is a crazy woman. She has hacked his e-mails before and made crap up in the past. she wants his money, or whats left of it. She is trying to make you jealous so she can win him back or at least you wont have him. So stay with him, it will work out and get better. i think i cna honestly say he loves you.
2006-11-25 10:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by s b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as it hurts you would be smart to move on and find someone who will love you and your children. Your children depend on your stability and you don't need someone who you will always be wondering if he is being true. I don't know that I would believe his ex-wife, because she could just be trying to hurt you and you can't prove it, but you did prove that he has contact with other women. I would cut my loses and move on for your sake and your children's. Remember that you and your children deserve the best and you should never settle for anything less.
2006-11-25 09:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Julie J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie,
in that case i would leave because you actually had evidence and if she called and told you the specific details and if you cant pin point him being with you then , than he had to be doing something he had no buisness doing..... you have kids to care for and believe me you dont need a man that is going to cheat while your being faithful...... its probably best to be by yourself and dont worry about a man believe me when nthe right man comes along in your life you will know that he is the one for you.....
GOOD LUCK...
2006-11-25 10:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously hes lying to you and if he could lie about the pics the evidence you saw he could jus as well be lying about his ex... you need to drop him and quick. hes a lying sack of potatoes... dont do this to yourself...dont let this happen to your kids. youll find someone better.
2006-11-25 09:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by .......... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him again, and read his eyes.....the eyes tell it all. Also tell him to be truthful now...and that you'll forgive it if it stops. It would be worse if it came out years later if you got married. Honey, otherwise, you're being faithful and hes not. Hes broken your heart, and maybe, just maybe, its close to time to move on. If he cant be faithful and give back to you wat you give him (honesty), then he should suffer, not you.
Good luck :)
2006-11-25 09:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by as 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
my friend who i loved and when she knew that, she started showing me that she loves me but after some days she started flirting with other boys,she always tryed to insult me,she also said me that if i want to not to be ashamed i have to leave her.
i know she hates me and will never love me i sitill love
god knows i still love her but your situatioi would just say not to break her wives home to make yours
2006-11-25 09:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋