last night my bf left me in his car to go inside his house and collect something while he was away i looked over on the dash board and saw his phone so i took it up and started to read his sent text messages (i would not consider that invasion of privacy after all he is my bf and he does that to me) anyways so i saw this message he sent to a girl saying "goodnight babygirl hope to see you soon and i'm missing u..." and she sent him a message saying she wants him and wants to have sex with him also there was another time when he left the phone again to go and take a shower and the same mystery girl called and when i answered she hung up....i'm trying to be open minded so i didnt jump to conclusions or mention anything but i need advice....what would u do?
2006-11-25 01:16:48 · 17 answers · asked by Innocence 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its too clear what he was doing, but youre a very good-hearted person you still want to be good to him and not rushing to anger, you amazed me bacause if im in your position I will talk to him straight that time I read it and if he has no good answer then im splitting up with him without thinking twice. Women tend to be like that and theres no wrong with that, also in you, just talk to him in right manner telling him what you discovered and tell him to stop fooling you and cheating you.Give him his time to explain but after that be wise to see if he's telling the truth or not, but for me theres no question about whats that message in his cellphone, its very obvious that he's cheating you.So if I were you I will be good to myself and set yourself free from him before the time comes when you really cant stand anymore the situation that you cannot show kindness at all to him because of what he did...
2006-11-25 01:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are invading his privacy. If he looked in your phone that is right either two wrongs dont make it right. Now that you looked in his phone I hope you found what your were looking for. Why did you look and didnt say anything. You have proof that he is cheating on you. I think he thought that he could put his phone down and you wouldnt go through his phone. I guess you prove him wrong . I am sure the female told him that she called and some girl answered all he had to do is look at his call history. They both know that you know about the other female. But since you are trying to act like you dont they can continue to deceive you.
2006-11-25 09:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean being 'open minded?' There is nothing to consider. He's running around and you need to challenge him, get him to stop, or leave him. It's that simple. And by the way, I think looking at his phone IS an invasion of privacy. It's like reading his mail. Do you do that too?
2006-11-25 09:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got what you were looking for. It maybe alright with you for him to invade your space but obviously it's not alright for you to go through his things otherwise you would've done it in front of his face. But that doesn't excuse him from cheating, because that's what this is and you know it, that's why you're asking the question. But I would confront him about it and if he gives you the excuse that she's just a friend then he's lying and you need to get rid of him. Because then will he not only be a cheater but a liar too. Now do you really want a man like that?
2006-11-25 09:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if he's open to you playing around with his phone, you should do it while he's around and ask him casually about the message.
you have a right to be concerned but if your bf is not responding to the other girl, give him the benefit of the doubt but be a bit more aware.
2006-11-25 09:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by TraderJoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to jump to conclusions --- he is seeing another lady or at the very least he is thinking of her and keeping her a secret from you ---- confront him and knowing guys he will not change or make a choice so you must consider the probability that it will be best to break up
2006-11-25 09:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would check his phone in front of him. That way your not sneaking around behind his back and checking up on him. If he lets you then he doesn't have anything to hide, but if he don't let you then you can bust out the fact that you already seen the texts and you can make him explain.
If it were my wife she would just kill me. No questions asked, just bare handed murder.
2006-11-25 09:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by jwkramer54 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your bf need to have a talk about your relationship, and about weather or not you both should expect, promise, and try to be exclusive or open, and how far you two are comfortable in going on as things are now.
if he bolts, then it was never ment to be.
2006-11-25 09:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what's going on with him sending other girls texts and if u dont like his answer or u dont beileve him i would just walk away and see if he says something else
2006-11-25 11:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and ask if he is seeing someone else behind your back. If he asks why would you think that then tell him of the messages you have read.
2006-11-25 09:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋