A problem for the family?

Question

'ello people, how you doin?

I dono what to do! I think my family are sick of my depression problems, i don't get allot of posative encouragement i just get shouted at for being lazy. when i try to explain to them "i find it hard to get up" "i find it hard to do this..." i'm told i need to stop being a push over. recently my dad said he thinks i'm making the whole thing up, he doesn't even talk to me, he just looks at me.
I've been trying to get better but its hard when your dad just thinks your pathetic,
I'm begining to think "whats the point"
anyone else have this, advice?

cheers

Answer 1

It may be beneficial for you and your family to seek out some family counseling. This way everything can be laid out on the table in a mature responsible manner. You, yourself may want to speak with you family doctor and see if he can perhaps give you something to help with this depression as there are many wonderful drugs available that help many people live a healthy life with depression. Best of luck to you in overcoming this concern.

Answer 2

You seem to be concentrating on your dad too much. Maybe he is the "old school" type that were taught "no room for depression etc, you gotta be a man" (something which i think is stoopid!). Do your family know that you are depressed hun?. You say you've explained to then you find it hard to get up in the morning.......then they will see it as you being lazy. But if they knew about the depression, maybe things will be different. Let them know it is not sympathy you want, but love, and understanding. I am sure they do love you, no matter what. Our parents all have different ways of dealing with the kids, but that is not the main issue here anyway, the main one is you. Do you know why you feel this low?. If you can pin point it, then you need to start working on the situation. Get a box, anysize. Find some stones. Get some paper and write down each of your problems on separate pieces of paper. Wrap each problem on the paper around a stone. Place them in the box. Carry it with you in your bedroom. See how heavy it feels. Now,reach in the box and take out one of your problems. That is where to start. YOu see, the whole object of this exercise is to make that box empty of all you problems, and so light, you can kick it around and feel no pain, and at the same time, you have learn't to deal with problems& along the way there will be lessons of life. We cannot deal with everything all at once hun, just do things one at a time.(sorry if it asounds like crap to you, but this method really does work, but you don't have to do it, just a suggestion). Be respectful but firm with your parents and tell them you need to talk to them. If they do not listen, plse go to the doctors to be reffered to a counsellor. Hope all goes well for you.
Blessings
Solista

Answer 3

I'm listing several Wonderful articles, the likes of which are what helped me through the same kind of thing you seem to be going through ...

Understanding Mood Disorders
- Tormented Minds
> Living With a Mood Disorder
- Hope for Sufferers
- How Others Can Help
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/1/8/article_01.htm

When Someone You Love Has a Mental Disorder...
- Recognize symptoms.
- Become informed.
- Pursure treatment.
- Encourage the sufferer to seek help.
- Aviod placing blame.
- Have realistic expectations.
- Stay Connected.
- Consider the needs of other family members.
- Promote good health practices.
- Take care of yourself.
- Some Warning Signs of Mental Disorders are also included.
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/9/8/article_01.htm

Does God REALLY Care About Us? :
http://www.watchtower.org/library/dg/index.htm?article=article_01.htm

Life IS Worth Living! :
- A Worldwide Problem
- Why People Give Up on Life
- You CAN Find Help!
- How Can You Help Someone Who Seems Suicidal?
- "Will God Forgive Me for Feeling This Way?"
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/article_01.htm

Hope---Where Can You Find It? :
- Does Hope Really Make a Difference?
- Why Do We Need Hope?
- You Can Fight Pessimism
- Where Can You Find REAL Hope?
http://watchtower.org/e/20040422/article_01.htm

A few of these URLs may change soon, But if & when that hppens, the new URLs can be found through Advanced Search at: http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm .


(In my case, my own DR. told my parents that I was making up symptoms just to get more attention! Years later I finally found a Dr. (N.D.) who was able to uncover the roots of my problems & treat them! So I know what it's like having those you need support from, to have totally unrealistic expectations of you.)

Answer 4

Rambo,

Your question doesn't say how old you are. If you are a young man in teens of early 20s, your problems may relate to all sorts of things. You really need to get more professional advice. Your parents may be at their wits end not knowing how or what to do. Your Body is a vessel that needs looking after and if you don't do the right things to look after it, it starts to object. Loads of things can cause depression, so please go to your GP and ask for help. And look on the web sites for depression. If you have depression it may be chemical, and you can't make your self get better by trying, In fact you NEED the help of others.

I see in one of the answers to this question you have been given some info from a group called watchtower, I think this may be from someone promoting a cult organisation called Jehovah's witnesses. So just tread carefully. Get help from the medical services, chat rooms are great but you need qualified people.

Answer 5

Try counselling.It will be a relief to have somebody to talk to about your problems and how to deal with them.Counselors are always there for you and they understand you better than anyone close to you(ex Family,Friends).

I've been through this.You should know that it is also really bad for your parents to see you like that.They are unhappy with your situation and they just wanna help.Don't think that your dad is mad at you.He only says these things so that you will proof him wrong.Talk it over with them tell them how you really feel!They love you and are there for you.They will listen.Parents always do.But sometimes they don't have a way to help you effectively so they do whatever they think it is right.

It is up to you to "call" for help.The universe isn't against you!

Cheers!!

Answer 6

It looks very much that you are depressed under which clinical category I do not know tell your family how you feel and that you want professional help, you will need their Love and support to see you through this time

Go and see your GP with a family member on Monday

Answer 7

You may have some deep seeded mental disorders that need to be addressed. But try something: If your parents aren't willing to help you, go to a school nurse or school counselor, or even a teacher. But find someone who is willing to take an interest!

Answer 8

you should try going to a professional counsellor if you haven't done so.

Depression is a very serious thing that needs to be dealt with seriously.

Answer 9

doing ok thanx, go to doctor, ask to be refered to a councillor, good luck hang in there.

Answer 10

try counselling x