Before speaking of my problem, let me note a few things about me. I'm 16, and I'm from Georgia. My parents live separately, and are in "negative" relationships with each other, with other side always squeezing the other side. I grew up in Moscow, being absolutely in no contact with teens from Georgia, most of my classmates were teens from Africa/Russia/Turkey. 1 year ago, my father moved back to Georgia, and took all of us with him (since he is supporting our family, my mother couldn't insist on the stay). Now, my problem is that he wants me to stay in Georgia, he is already tightly established, with a residence on the outskirts of the town. However, I don't want to stay here, the place is a nuthole, compared to Moscow it's a dumpsite. I'm finishing school next year, however my father doesnt support me leaving this country. I have no friends here and he knows that. He knows how well I socialise with foreigners, however here I cant talk to anyone. I cant take this anymore.
2006-11-25 00:39:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just let me add, I live with my mother. He supports and he brings in the money, my mother wants me to leave cause she understands how hard it is for me here. Im already developing social anxiety and its getting harder to communicate. however all my father cares about it doing a web site design for his new site, he never calls in for anything family related. i hate my life here.
2006-11-25 00:45:01 · update #1
WOW NO, I DONT LIVE IN USA GEORGIA, BUT IN THE COUNTRY OF GEORGIA, dont think that im in AMERICA, its my dream to live in AMERICA< im in the country of GEORGIA RIGHT NOW
2006-11-25 01:00:07 · update #2
I think you should wait until you're at least 18 and then tell your Dad that you want to start your life elsewhere. Right now, you're really too young to support yourself. It won't be long until you can be out on your own, be patient and try to make friends and make the best of the situation.
2006-11-25 00:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy oh boy, 16 is a tough, tough age. Your English is very good, BTW. Do you have a counselor available to you? That's what might help you deal with what appears to be a situation over which you are powerless. It's not good at all for you to go through. I will tell you, however, that YOU have the power to deal with the situation. You are, obviously bright and creative, and have a lively mind. Find the power you have (which apparently is not changing your father's mind about where you'll live) and use it to create a livable space.
2006-11-25 09:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there and give it a chance, I am sure there are alot of culture differences between Georgia kids and you,
once you turn 18 move back to if you want, it will be your life,, your father seems to think the USA holds the best advantage for you to not end up in poverty,
2006-11-25 08:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him ur feelings.
if in the end there is no chance for you to move back..
then you have to get used to it.
instead of having negative thoughts about all that change .. and the difference and being lonely etc..
start thinking that this is a great change in your life.
take advantage of it.
start discovering the good things about this new place.
if other people can live there then so can you.
i was born and lived in my country for 10 years.. then moved to turkey and lived there for 14 months in very very bad conditions.
it was very hard for all of us. we all cried everyday.. it was a night mare.. then we moved here to australia, and everything was so different and we were unhappy and wanted to go back to our country..
but once we realised that this is our life now.. this is going to be our country.. and we have to get used to it.
we started thinking about the good things. it was hard at first.
but now im so happy and thankful for what ive got.
and when i look back on those hard days.. i just smile. now they are all sweet memorys. and i think it was those days that changed my life. and made me who i am.. learn from the present to improve ur future.
im sure u can do it :)
heres my id if u wana talk .. il try and be like ur first friend lol hehe :D
mj_farari (yahoo)
2006-11-25 08:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you finish school, you can get a job in Moscow. Maybe stay with your mom? He might not support you, but there's nothing he can do to stop you. Just hang in there a bit longer.
2006-11-25 08:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If u dont like it there move on go where u will be happy its your life good luck
2006-11-25 08:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by sonoftazont 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to remember you are still the dependent.
2006-11-25 08:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋