ok i met this guy (this was a couple of months ago) and we met up and he was really sweet he bought me a rose and everything so we started going out but i could never see him becuz he lived in altamonte and me in apopka at the time and after a week some girl e mails me and says hey wats up with u and (david) i said um he is my boyfriend and she was like well he was messin with me this whole week so i im him and he confessed so we stoped talking now after like 4 months we started talking agian he told me he wanted to be my man but he is always talking about having relations (f*******) with me so im confused does he really wanna b my man or does he just want a good time? I TOLD HIM HE JUST WANTS A GOOD TIME AND HE SAID NO I CHANGED AND I KEPT ACUSING HIM OF JUST WANTING A GOOD TIME SO HE SAID YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR SO ANNOYING THATS Y I LEFT YOUR AZZ THE FIRST TIME YOU SHOULD GIVE ME A SECOND CHANCE IDK WAT 2 DO I NEED HELP................
2006-11-24 23:58:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
Where is the trust and respect he is suppossed to be showing you if he has already done some cheating and now suddenly changed?
That is one giant leap he has taken, but if he had been honest in the beginning, then you would still be trusting him now, but he hasn't really given you any reason to trust him and there is nothing to say that he won't do it again to you when all you have is his words to rely on.
There is no excuse for anyone to cheat no matter what he tells you because trust is trust and you wouln't have accussed him of anything if you knew that you couldn't trust him anyway. He gave you reasons to not trust him and is saying that he wants to continue having relations? - Then he will if this is what he wants and this means that he does not love or respect you if he is going to.
Don't let his threats frighten you into staying with him because he is trying to make you feel guilty and responsible for what he has done to you. He made his own choices and you did nothing to make him cheat on you just because you already had your suspiscions about him. He is mature enough to know that what he does is going to make or break something he has with you and so far, he has done a lot to break any trust you had with him and trusting him again isn't something you want to do if he is going to do this again to you.
Let him have his relations, but don't let him threaten you and make you feel guilty for the things that he has done to you. If he can't stand to be with you, then it is up to him to leave you and find someone he can get along with and possibly cheat on, but don't let yourself be that one again. Once bitten, twice as shy as they say!
Get yourself out of this dreadful situation with him and then he can do what he likes, but not whilst he is with you. He is not going to thank you for standing in his way of him having all the affairs he thinks he deserves to have.
2006-11-25 01:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's just trying to get in your pants. If you look into your heart, you know that he's not that sweet if he messed around on you the first time. Go by the saying of once a cheater, always a cheater. I wouldn't give him the time of day. No woman or man for that matter deserve to be cheated on and told by the person they cheated with. That's just wrong. First of all, if he's going to cheat on you, at least have the balls to be honest and tell you that he cheated. He's not a real man. A real man would have been honest in the first place instead of the woman telling you. You deserve better.
2006-11-25 00:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, someone who treats you like that then speaks to you like that is really not worth the time. The only thing you're going to get out of this is an STD. And I imagine he hasn't been in touch for 4 months because someone has been showing him a good time and that has now stopped so he's moved on to the next potential sucker...you. Get some self respect and tell him where to go.
2006-11-25 00:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think he wants a good time. He always talks about relationships which means he might not be a loyal man for you. He just says you are annoying because he wants you to rethink over and over again until you get so confused. If he really wants to be your man, he wouldn't have waited 4 months to talk to you again, right?
2006-11-25 00:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Khyour 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A CHANCE TO LET HIM SCREW YOU AGAIN??? wake up my friend... you are not a whore... so what if he ask for chances... when come to relationship...there is no such this as chances. you are better off looking for a decent guy. even if the next guy don't work out right, at less you are treated like a real gf. keep trying. Is do or do not...there is never try. Dump this asshole and forget about the so call "GOOD TIME" good luck!!
2006-11-25 00:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by Nemo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how old are you? You sound very young. I think it sounds like all he wants from you is sex. Leopards don't change their spots, and if he cheated on you once, he'd do it again without a thought. Don't let him make you think otherwise either. There are many fish in the sea so look around and find a guy who is going to treat you with respect, and one who will respect your views about waiting to have sex till you are sure about the relationship.
2006-11-25 00:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by momofericha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is just messing with you. he lied and cheated once he will do it again. i was in a relationship like this and it is just depressing and will make u wonder the whole time where he is and what he is doing. keep yourself busy with a better subject than him. he sounds like an azz - period. people don't change!!! they can alter behavior, but deep down they don't ever change and you will always have a spark of doubt. Free yourself and move on!
2006-11-25 00:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by lot2talkabt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "POLITE" way to end a relationship. The "MATURE" thing to do is "STOP" all intimate contact with this boss. As far as her being smart ,sorry this was not one of her shining moments. She had every thing to lose here and nothing to gain from this type of affair. She needs to look around if she can for another job and not get involved like this again. It only leads to heartache for so many involved. Personally I have "NO" respect for a man who beds his employees. In today's society it is considered a type of Sexual harassment.
2016-05-23 01:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look just get out of this situation. Dont speak to him.Look around you, there are loads of other guys, forget him. Take one step more away from him. Hes not worth it. Date someother guy in front of him when you hav the chance. Kiss your other guy in front of him, while your kissing look him in the eye as if telling him, see, david look what your missing. Soon he'll be the one begging you to come back. Trust me, I know these situations. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2006-11-25 00:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by swimqueen2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont no you but i no one thing..you can do so much better than that..
he obviously didnt care about you the first time so who says he will be honest and love you the second time. if i was you i would dump him before he cheats on you and causes you more pain.. please do it. hes not your soal mate and you can do better.
or heres another solution. just be friends with him for 3-5 months then move on from there. but i would go with option one. because you can do better.
2006-11-25 00:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by azza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋