We have been dating for 2.5 months. Things are going really well, but I am very busy person and I can only go out Fri/Sat nights with him. However, this week, I invited him to watch a movie with a friend and I, but instead of telling me that he didn't want to see it, he made his own plans with a group of his friends to go clubbing. I know most of the people who he's going with (both female & male). Then, when he calls me today, I ask him if I can come too, and he says, "your movie probably won't end in time". This makes me angry, because this movie starts at 7pm, it will most certainly end by 9pm!! I didn't want to persist because his friends were coming over soon, but I will most DEFINITELY talk to him tomorrow.
I don't have a problem if he wants to spend time with his friends by himself; I have girls-only dinners often. But if he makes some half-*** excuse for me not to come? THAT's what bugs me.
What should I say tomorrow?
2006-11-24 23:31:35 · 13 answers · asked by sachi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should definitely try and insinuate yourself into every aspect of his life. We men actually interpret that as "taking our relatonship to the next level," rather than "being horrifically smothered by that relentless hag" as one might expect.
2006-11-24 23:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you said you are very busy. Could he think you are too busy for a relationship by being so busy?
Second, 2.5 months is not near long enough to get to know someone for a serious relationship. What ever happened to courting, then marry, then live sleep togather? Notice that those relationships lasted a lifetime.
If you persist too much, he might start to think your nagging or clingy. Set up an appointment with him and have an honest talk.
2006-11-25 07:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should say calmly and with compassion that the way he assumed you would be busy was hurtful to you. DO NOT blame his as though this is his fault, it is not.
You should also tell him that you know he needs time for him, and his 'stuff' because if you do spend every moment together you will eventually run out of things to talk about as you are both aware of what happened.
Chill, let him have his time and take yours. Frankly I always end up having to tell my boyfriends that guys night out better last AT LEAST 48 consecutive hours so that I can do my stuff I like to do without them.
HTH
2006-11-25 07:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything. First of all, if you have girl-only dinner OFTEN, that's things that he can't attend. It's only fair to let him have his guy time with his buddies. Secondly, in order to have a HEALTHY relationship, you need to spend time apart from one another. Being around each other all the time is not only detrimental to your relationship, but to your life. Give him his space and respect that he made plans. If you can't do that, then you don't need to be in a relationship in the first place.
2006-11-25 07:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's VERY HEALTHY to have seperate friendship circles and to also have friends that are in the same 'circle'.
The problem with some women is they become obsessive; I'm not saying you are though. ;D
Keep in mind that men don't generally say things in response to your questions with a hidden agenda; most of the time. Talk to him about it tomorrow if it really bothers you. :D All the best.
2006-11-25 07:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by hollywoodabs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen kid
this guy dont want to go with fine
i"ll bet i can make this problem solve
meet him tommorow
ask freely what you thing dont be shy
this will get fine only if you open up a little
and if still things are the same
do this
get to his collor drag him asside kiss him!
and speak softly to him that you love him
problem solved
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2006-11-25 07:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by james 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's just very shaddy that he would ditch you, let alone deny you coming just because your movie would get out later?? you could have met him and his friends at the bar. why is he so busy?? is it really because of work or could it be another woman??
i personally think you should leave this guy because obviously his friends come before you.
2006-11-25 07:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK. If he takes everywhere with him, then you''ll even want more. And after some time he will even ask for a permission t ogo somewhere.
It is OK. He is a wise guy, I think.
2006-11-25 07:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Hohenzolern 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it all up to you if you still wont to go out with him or not and it was his time to come over
2006-11-25 07:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be to busy with friends going out some where and wouldn,t be there for him ,get tuff
2006-11-25 07:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by matty60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋