My husband does not speak to his parents and hasn't for about 2 years. His family feels gifts are "owed" to children until they are 18. We feel that while his parents know nothing about our young son, we shouldn't accept gifts. Should we send them back or ask them to stop?
2006-11-24 23:15:26 · 7 answers · asked by delilah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, the gifts are to the child-not you all. Respect him. I don't know what happened here, but it would seem they are still making an effort & maybe you should reconsider a bit.How would you feel if in 25 years your son did this to you?Set a better example.
2006-11-24 23:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by life coach 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let the kids accept the gifts, send a thank you note or call. Why add to bad feelings that have nothing to do with the children.
2006-11-25 01:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's parents shouldn't consider age 18 as the
"cut-off" point for showering their Grandson with gifts.
You and your husband are behaving foolishly and child-like
to get at his parents. Your son deserves the gifts that
were meant for him from his Grandparents. Why doesn't
your son know his Grandparents when it seems that they are
trying to reach out to all of you? You gave such a vague
description and nothing about what's really going on.
All I can say is that I feel for your son. He's the innocent one.
Children live what they learn. Start acting like mature adults.
2006-11-24 23:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Van T 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm in exactly the same situation as you.....my parents don't like my wife, not for any particular reason, they just don't like her...it's the way they are. So I have nothing to do with them.
As for gifts to my children, they keep sending them year after year, for birthdays, Xmas etc. etc. When my children receive them, I ask them to ring my parents and thank them. There is no harm in that...after all, I'm not out to punish my parents for anything. As far as I'm concerned they are punishing themselves.
Allow his parents to send the presents, accept them gracefully, but also make it known that they are not buying a thing !!!!
2006-11-24 23:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by wombat2u2004 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on maximum of issues. His character, the context, the size of time you have wide-unfold one yet another, his unique reasoning, how close he feels to you etc. some human beings merely don't experience mushy with presents. If it particularly is fairly an costly present, then much extra so. an common, much less costly (yet significant) present would artwork perchance. Even a greeting card it particularly is handwritten. a cutting-edge is in no way much less costly. it would additionally be that he's being particularly large and polite by refusing. some human beings could be cajoled somewhat to settle for. Am unsure if it particularly is an indian or character factor, yet some each and every physique is shy and don't settle for comfortably out of sheer politeness, whether that they had like to settle for it. because of the fact if one accepts comfortably, it would look that the guy is grasping or feels entitled, and that they do no longer choose to come again for the period of that way. in the event that they seem to be a humble man or woman, then much extra so. Psychologically, it would additionally be related to no rely if or no longer they are rejecting feeling close to to somebody. or perchance they are questioning what your intentions are. i'd talk on your chum and get to understand why he feels this way and enable them to understand you do no longer anticipate something, it particularly is purely an common gesture of __ (your reason).
2016-10-04 08:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by blumenkrantz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, all of you need some therapy.
Geesh, this is their grandchild for crying out loud. Do they even get to see this poor child? Think of all the emotional hurt, not to mention therapy time he'll need later on in adult life. You're doing nothing but hurting the kids.
I suggest sitting down and talking to the grandparents. Get yourselves into counceling and get this all settled for the kid's sake.
2006-11-25 00:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by Voice 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, being that because my parents and my grandparents never got along, we never got gifts from them. its important for your child to know that they are still cared for, reguarless of the problems and disputes between his parents and grandparents. its hurtful when you grow up and feel as if you dont have grandparents.
2006-11-25 00:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Meeowf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋