I am a doctor in the US .with my level of IQ you'd think that i'd be able to tell when a girl is really into me and when she has an eye on my wallet. but the truth is that I have no clue.
There is this girl I met not too long ago. She is as sweet as can be but she has a lot of debts. She owes every credit card company. she likes expensive trips, expensive stuff,She dosent seem to care how she spends money. she wants the best in clothes and shoes even though she dosent earn that much. so it becomes a problem knowing if she wants me for me or she wants me for my money. Is there a defnitive test out there for me to find out one way or the other? I dont want to sound uptight or cheap. and I dont want to sound paranoid but I need help
2006-11-24 23:09:35 · 13 answers · asked by tof982003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her your broke and see if she stays
2006-11-24 23:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by jak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you go out, tell her you can't buy her or give her anything since your investing your money on something or that you are paying off some debts yourself, etc. So, don't buy her or give her anything for the next few months. If she's okay with that, then I guess she's not after your money. However, from your description, I do have a sinking feeling that she's after your money (if she lets you pay for her debts and stuff) and that if you marry her, she might drive you into bankruptcy. I hope not, though, Good luck!
2006-11-25 07:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with Lady that likes nice things! obviously it attracted you to her. I think a lot of men get caught up in thinking someone wants what they have and actually now women support themselves just fine. You are not the only man out there with a good income so why do you think this of her? I say go for it enjoy it and get to know her more before you jump to conclusions!
2006-11-25 07:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by kd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one you can keep your money seperate and pay half towards things like dinner and the movies unless its a special occasion. for two dont treat her like a princess and instead of going out have dinner in with a dvd or say you both need to cut back on your spending and see what she says but dont give her money when she asks or if she hints that she needs it if you want to help finacially pay her debt for her yourself or come up with a good structured repayment plan if you do any of this and she runs a mile she only wanted your money.
2006-11-25 07:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Snuckems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be suspicious, or she has found a source of income, YOU, or she wants to live like the Jones next door !!
Be carefull _ I have set a limit on my credit card, as soon as the limit is reached - tough - no money anymore - you learn quickly to manage available cash !
If you have the possibility have 2 accounts for you, one with your money in it the other wilth hardly less and show the later to her, telling her to be carefull with her spending, money is running out - see her reaction, if she wants YOU she will slow down, if she wants the WALLET, she will move on to the next victim (one of your wealthy enemies - you will have to introduced her to him)
2006-11-25 07:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by bordasimus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do need help,in most cases gals can be pretty tricky,it hard to know wat a gal really want,eitger its money or you.
gals who are after money turn to do that in a deceitful way,by pretending dat they aint interested in your money ,pretending dat they want u for who u r not wat u hav while in actual fact its the opposite,when they take it that they have been grooming u for way too long crisis begin they start tellin u problems in their lives,one problem leading to anada,so pliz dont fall for any of dis silly gals storis,as for the gal u hev met,please as much as i dont have any ryt to say dis,i think u shoild let her pass,unless if u want to be a broke Dr please save urself from thetrauma and being bankrupt,dats the advice i can give u.
gudluck in cleaning out the trash
2006-11-25 07:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by loveguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she sounds materialistic due to her living well above her OWN means. Date her in the usual manner without the frills and you will get your answer. If she loves you for you what you can and will do for her should not be a factor...but it will be.
2006-11-25 07:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her that you will pay all her bill,but dont insisnt just ask her once and if she will allow you, then i guess shes just after your money,if not she will not going to accept your offer,instead she will work harder to pay it all,and dont let money gets in the way of your relationship.Good luck.
2006-11-25 07:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by AmandaNikolah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jak B is right. Pretend that u r broke and your the one who needs her help. Im 100% sure that you will find out what she really up to.
2006-11-25 07:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she expects you to pay for everything then she's after your money...if she doesn't then she most likely isn't...that probably isn't much help but i don't think theres a test that wouldnt make u seem conniving
2006-11-25 07:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by meow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well easy. Give me all your money and if she stays with you, it was love. I'll give it back, for a nominal fee.
2006-11-25 07:11:43 · answer #11 · answered by draftboyg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋