I dont understand this but I dont love my x but she has been wanting to take my best friend to a bar and my best friend say's he would like to do her. If I have been over her for 3 years now why am I getting upset? I want nothing to do with her
2006-11-24 22:53:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's your "Best Friend" he should know that your ex-wife is off limits. Maybe you need a new best friend.
Think about it. Hanging out with your friends and he shows up with your ex. Or him banging her and telling you about it, now that is crude but life isn't always nice either.
How uncomfortable can this be, especially if you have (or even a potential) a girlfriend there.
Do you really want her around you and your friends at all? If you are over her, that's fine, but her hanging out with your best friend?
You need to re-assess your friendship with this guy and ask him if a piece of *** is more important than your friendship.
Do you still have any obligations or ties to her (kids, alimony)?
If you do, I would recommend keeping minimal involvement in each other's lives. Having your ex involved in your life in even the smallest way can chase a (new or different) woman off real quick.
Most women aren't looking for "drama" when they enter a relationship, especially from an ex wife or girlfriend.
2006-11-25 02:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by konstipashen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about her, it's about your friend wanting your x. If you don't want him to do her, let him know. That's a bridge that I feel that no friend should ever cross, no matter how long ago it was that you two were together. And the other thing you need to ask your friend is how long has he wanted your x, was it when you guys were together. Because it seems like to me that this isn't the first time that he has thought about her in that way. That is a friendship code that should never be broken.
2006-11-25 07:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by mi_mi_78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think now that your friend is interested in her makes you to think that you might lose someone very special .I think it's because you are not over her 100% YET !
Reminds me of that song "I thought I didnt love you but later I found out that I forgot ,I love you"
anyway I recommend to stop thinking about them or tell your friend that he should not be your ex -lover's boyfriend.
2006-11-25 07:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, What would you yourself call it possesiveness,Let them go and get over it life does move on and so does yours, have you had other girlfriends?If you do not love her let your friend have her that way you can honestly say goodbye to any thought or reason for her.
2006-11-25 07:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by josie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like seeing her with other people (mostly your best friends), at the same time you don't want to be with her. The best thing to do is to tell your friend your not cool with it, or just not about it to him and tell him you don't want to hear anuthing about the relationship. Try to avoid her.
2006-11-25 06:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by tika ukie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know i will be upset if my x wanted to hav a go at some1 i know cuz it will be painful for me,i will feel he want to use that as an advantage to get back at me.wel as to a friend who want to have a go at my ex,i will tel her to get lost,why use him,it doesnt mean dat when u have broken up with some1 u should let other people treat dat person like garbage, u should still care,so tel your frand to back down
2006-11-25 07:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by loveguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is normal, who wants their best friend or a family member to be with someone they were with. Tell your friend, he is pathetic and needs to find someone else. This is just not acceptable behavior. For either one of them. God bless****
2006-11-25 06:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your probley getting upset because somebody is now picking up something that you threw away and you know that they might be happy when you no that your happyness failed.
2006-11-25 07:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by brenna12321 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes to hear their x moving on. X's are suppose to miss us forever.
2006-11-25 07:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bec you consider her as "property".
think about it, are you really over her?
or are you just mad at the fact that someone is going to "use" something you already discarded?
2006-11-25 06:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by globiaeon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋