i just told a girl i like her more than a friend after being friends for 2 months. we r 17 years old. she sent me a msg after... (she tried callin 3 times but i cudn't answer cos i didn't hear my phone, i was in shower). the msg said that she felt that i was pressurin her too much with calls and expect her to b der for me evrytime. she also said that it was gettin weird. then concluding with "cya around". i was so sure she liked me a lot cos she kept inviting me to diff occasions (sumtimes to be alone with her). i also felt that she was very comfortable being with me and we always got along. we haven't talked since her msg cos she won't answer my calls. it's been 4 days since i tried callin her. from her msg, i got the idea that she didn't wanna be friends anymore. am i reading this right? or am i just over reacting? i don't care if she will just be my friend, but i don't wanna lose her. wat do u guys make of this? i need help!!!
2006-11-24 22:38:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems she thinks you are only interested in "more than friends." She's making it clear that she's not. The only thing you can do is make sure she understands you're happy just being friends, if that's the case, though it sounds like you might not be. Give her a bit of space. Maybe just leave her a message.
2006-11-24 22:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tanath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl sounds to be a bit confused.She may have been giving you mixed signals.If you really like this girl.Give her space,send her a msg saying that you appreciate her as a friend & will not contact her till she feels she is ready to be friends again with you.
You should not call her or send her msgs ,give her time to decide what she really wants.in the mean while you get on with your life,don't just keep thinking about this thing.Go out with your other friends & have fun.
2006-11-24 22:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not answering your calls then you should stop trying to call her. It sounds like something went wrong in either your perception of how she felt or what she was doing. I know its hard to let go when you think something was happening but if you keep at it, you will just be looking like a fool. I would move on at this point.
2006-11-24 22:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ giD∑■η ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you got it right.She isnt interested in you.She has made it very clear to you in her message and actions by not recieving your calls.i know you cant believe whats going on,,but the fact is clear that she's just not that into you.You should move on.You deserve someone better who can give you all that love and care.She just wanted to be your friend and was surprised when you wanted to take it to the next level.This made her uncomfortable about interacting with you further.You are willing to give more than just friendship,something which she wasnt expecting from you.All what you can do is let her go.You find that special someone who is willing to recieve all that you are ready to give,that will make your love more valuable instead of giving it to someone who doesnt need it.
2006-11-24 22:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wait till you see her in person tell her you that she does mean alot to you (if thats how you feel) but without having to impy to her that you want to be her boyfriend (if you feel that thats the kind of pressure that might freak her out) tell her that you don't want to damage anything to there friendship and didn't mean to pressure her into doing anything. See what happens though and keep things light hearted that way whatever happens it doesn't get to serious. Take it from there you seem like a sweet guy - don't let the experience blow your confidence.
2006-11-24 22:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by bizzareperson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were solidly in her "friend zone" when you surprised her with the old, "I want to be more than just friends" thing and it freaked her out. Give her space, give her time and she might come back around. DON'T keep bugging her or you'll only push her further away.
2006-11-24 22:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to keep the relationship on the friends level. Respect it.
2006-11-24 22:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you understand and that no pressure you want to remain just friends and keep it on the real dont get mushy if she thinks its weird that will make it weirder treat her like a homeboy act like you can chill with or with out her and she will see how great you are and come to her senses or its meant to only be friends take it slow and good luck
2006-11-24 22:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by aengel69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably shocked to hear your confession out of a sudden. You might wanna give her some time and let her decide, let her know that you have no intention to give her pressure.
Think of it as this way, what if you were her?
You'd be shocked to know that your friend suddenly confesses that 'he' liked you.
2006-11-24 22:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by JackieCham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First relax.
It happens in life.
I too told my friend I like him.
But he hasnt answered me yet.
Keep the friendship I'm sure she'll agree soon.
2006-11-24 22:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by sweet n simple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋